How should I react when my boyfriend cancelled our Valentine's plans to party with his friends?

[Meticulousmegan]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and 7 months, so I would conisider up somewhat serious. As of the current moment, he is living with me. He couldn't afford to do anything on Valentine's Day like he promised this year, so he rescheduled our Valentine's Day date to last night. The problem with that is that he chose to hang out with his work friends (who he sees every day), and bailed on me at 11pm via a text, "you need to chill. Go to bed." That was the last text he sent that night. He's currently with his friends that he parties with a lot, and it really affects my self-confidence when he bails on important dates like this without any explanation. I feel like he never prioritizes our most important plans, and it is hurting me. He never came home tonight. It just makes me wonder if he enjoys partying and doing drugs more than he prioritizes important dates with me. How should I react to this? He does this more often than I'd like to admit; he doesn't even tell me that he can't do the date tonight, he just stops texting me. He doesn't ever tell me what they're doing, and extremely rarely answers any of my messages. He's blaming me, due to the fact that he "needs space sometimes." I find this pretty funny, due to the fact that he works every day 7am-6pm, and I go to school full time 7am-2pm and work a part time job 3pm-8pm. I typically give him a lot of space, especially when I'm at work. Is this me overreacting, or is this a personal issue of his that he should work out? If so, how do I bring it up in conversation without it seeming like I'm attacking him?

[Glittergirl4]

NO you are not overreacting. This is definitely something you should be concerned about and try to figure out. Yes guys need their guy time, but replacing his date with you for them is unacceptable. It doesn't sound like you guys are all up on each other either. You are going to have to talk to him about how you guys feel for each other. Just sit him down calmly and tell him you want to talk about how you guys feel, and once you make some headway there, ask about how important and enjoyable the time you guys spend together is, and if it is neither, discuss what could make it better. If it doesn't work out the way you want don't settle. You deserve better.

[xxmamichulaxx]

So does he not pay rent at your house or help with the bills? is he basically staying there without any responsibility? If He's going out partying so often with these friends and can't text you to let you known what's going on or what they're doing because he "wants space" especially on Valentines Day, something is up. Does he ever invite you to go out with them or anything? Sure guys need space but if you both have busy schedules and get out away from each other that much, I don't see why he feels the need to leave and do this on valentines day and cancel plans

[rgb008]

Damn…I'd be really pissed lol. My boyfriend did something similar on NYE (hung out with his friends, instead of seeing me for some of the night).
When he did this, I told him how I felt and then was quiet for the rest of the night/next day (when I'm hurt, I say a lot of shit I don't mean. I just let myself chill out and not think about him). I let him come to me and let him realize how he hurt me. If he cares, he would apologize, realize that he hurt you and attempt to make it up to you in some way.

[Mynameisnottolong]

No you ain't overreacting. He is using you and even if he couldn't afford anything for valentines day, still chilling at home cuddling with you would of been the next best thing. You deserve way better. I mean you even had him live with you and its been more than a year. I don't want you to decide based on my message, but I'd kick him to the curb. I know its harsh but he doesn't seem to appreciate you at all to be blowing you off hanging out with his male friends when he's got a wanting girl, you deserve better dont waste anymore time on him. But be careful if he gets violent.

[existing_not_living]

I would leave his ass. I mean, if he's willing to ditch you on a night that is usually reserved for romance (whether people believe it should be or not), then why wouldn't he be willing to ditch you on any old regular night? Get out of this now before you marry him. You've been dating long enough for him to start showing his true colors. Don't ignore those red flags.

[ambertaylor]

He doesn't respect you. I'd leave, he's not ready for a committed relationship and wants to be with his friends more. Don't make someone a priority when they aren't even giving you a second thought, put yourself first yes you might feel like you love him or whatever but honestly he'll just drain you emotionally after a while.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, you're in a relationship with a little shit, especially if this is how he has treated you during your whole time together. You can't really bring this up without seeming like you're attacking him. After all, you're questioning why you're not good enough for him to give you a little more company.

[mooky06]

I don't think he is making you a priority. Maybe telling him that he could spend more time with you would be nice? Tell him that your work/college life is keeping you guys busy and you'd like to reconnect with each other to feel wanted and desired.

[Anonymous]

Thats really inconsiderate. Valentines day is only one day in the year and he already rescheduled it himself but to just completely drop it altogether because he just doesn't feel like it? Let him have it girl. This is argument material and your completely in the right so he better start apologizing because thats messed up

[oboeyoudidnt]

He is being rude and personally I would leave him. So he doesn't have money for a date but has money for drugs and alcohol, which is even more expensive?

[Zendrya]

Bailing on any date is wrong. You don't just make plans with someone and then cancel because something you like better comes along.

[lareina05]

if he couldn't afford to do anything he could have stayed home and netflix'd with you... bye boy

[MaryQueenofScotts]

leave him. he is dragging your independent ass down. you need to get with someone who appreciates you. Trust me you are better off on your own. besides you're YOUNG! So much ahead of you. they'll be a bettee MAN in the future.

[catelyntje]

Betrayed and dump him

[Amelia444]

His a dick

[nomoreusernames]

That's fucking rude

[Anonymous]

Dump his ass