It sounds like YOU'RE just frustrated with him in general. After a month of dating you two should have the "talk" about whether he's going to give you an OFFICIAL title or not. You also need to have a discussion about what that title MEANS (ex. if it is a monogamous or non-monogamous relationship) IF you're easy going enough to forgo the title an the label, thats great, but it also means that you two aren't exclusive an he can see other women on the side.
in my opinion your emotional outburst was a reflection of your frustration with not knowing exactly what is going on with you "relationship" dynamic.
However he said that HE WAS GOING THROUGH EMOTIONAL THINGS. IF he isn't wiling to discuss it, god only knows what that means, or what is causing him emotional distress. It could be anything from his job to another woman that he is seeing.
If he isn't willing to give you what YOU WANT. Don't be afraid to walk away and find someone who will. Being easy going and laid back is awesome, but it can also lead you to getting taken advantage of by other people. People will treat you how you allow them to treat you.
If you end up actually going out on Sunday, have the relationship talk with him and get a DIRECT answer. If he says he's still not ready for a relationship, that means he doesn't want to DATE YOU.
But to answer your question, your feelings are acceptable, it wasn't simply because he cancled, you cried because you feel rejected. Require more from the actions of others.
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Your first mistake is solidifying the attitude that this guy is your boyfriend. You make it obvious in your post that in your mind: he is your boyfriend. I hate to break it to you sweetie, but he is not your boyfriend and he has no duty or obligation to give you girlfriend treatment. Truth be told, dating for one month is hardly enough time.
I don't think you are crazy, but in all honesty, you are being extremely clingy and needy. I can see how that would be annoying. You have to understand that clinginess, ESPECIALLY with someone you are not officially committed to, is a pain in the butt. It can come off as a chore. Guys who are actually girl's boyfriends already find it irritating to deal with them when they get really emotional, sensitive, and when they get on them about plans. So, I can imagine for a guy who hasn't even made that leap with you: this situation is really irritating. You claim to be not very demanding and incredibly easy going, but your actions suggest something slightly different.
It's okay for you to feel that way, but there are some feelings you shouldn't voice because they can just trigger a more volatile, complex situation.
You are not over reacting. You were hurt, I know the feeling cuz my boyfriend have cancelled things just like that before. I think he is not ready for a relationship yet, maybe he likes you but doesn't want to commit yet. Just try to understand him. I know its hard but you have to. It's ok to cry. It will help you have a release.
You're really overreacting. Yes, getting disappointed is fine. It's fine to express that. However, sometimes things come up and plans have to cancel. What if you found out that a family member died and you had a funeral to go to over the weekend? Would you want him to be understanding of your commitments? Or would you expect him to go off into some insecure dark place that you were trying to break up with him.
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I don't think that you overreacted. Its normal to feel that way when you feel that someone doesn't like you as much as you think. If you cried, so what? Its ok to cry, if that's how vent and let off steam. But it seems like he felt bad about canceling the plans. He apologized over the phone even when you didn't bring it up. If he has been stressed about work and other things than I can understand why he would need some time alone. I tend to be that way too when I get overwhelmed with things. I want to be alone and think a little. I tend to push the ones I love away. But that's just me.
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