Are pretty girls scared because they have no personality?

[Anonymous]

really? Girls, especially pretty girls, are so against a guy liking them because they are hot. Are they worried that they have nothing else to offer?

A hot girl will blow off a guy who is interested in them before getting to know them. Why should that f***ing matter unless the girl has NO PERSONALITY to offer that the guy would like.

On the flip side, girls ALWAYS go for the super hot guy even if the guy has a sh*tty personality.

So ladies, what the hell is the deal with personality? You don't have one, you want a guy to you like your for yours, but it doesn't matter what the guy has unless he is hot?

Are you all idiots?

[Tigerbaby994]

This is not a very objective question but there's no rule that says it has to be. I don't know why the girls go after guys who treat them badly. Maybe because most guys treat them badly and they think that is the way it is supposed to be. Guys aren't themselves when it comes to women, and to be honest thought I hate that this is true, they're usually worse.

You want to show her what she is missing?

Be a good guy, have manners, don't sink down to the others level. You're better than those jerks. Be nice, be kind, be yourself. When these girls grow up they'll realize what they did wrong. Correction: IF they grow up.

Immaturity. You don't want an immature girl anyway.

You want a woman who respects you for the kind of guy you are.

I wish girls didn't date jerks either. It's stupid.

I stay far away from jerks.

I don't date at all anymore, so at least I'm one girl who doesn't date jerks. So there you go, we do exist. And let the record show I have avoided jerk guys even as friends, and have never even considered dating that type.

It disgusts me.

But read your question.

Do you realize how much you sound like those guys that these "stupid" girls are dating?

[Asker]

The question is not whether there are girls that don't date jerks. The question is whether there are desirable girls that don't date jerks.

Also, how am I supposed to propose an honest question and get some replies without being a little dark?

[Tigerbaby994]

well check out my profile, decide whether or not I'm good looking, then you tell me. Because I don't date jerks.

[Asker]

Private profile.

[Tigerbaby994]

lol I meant for you to send me a friend request so you could see. :)

[Sayaka1202]

To be honest, for pretty girls it is a case of having so many options that they need to decide who to dismiss without really giving them a chance, if pretty girls spent the whole time fairly assessing people it would be unfeasable. I am sure that sometimes they put off guys for their looks, because they fall below the girl's minimum standard. It is probably also the case that sometimes they worry a guy is too smart for them and that the guy will just put them down, and find them disappointing (which if she is attractive, would mean she is better off with someone appearance orientated). But also there are other factors, such as how a guy presents themself and whether or not his behavior in indicative of undersirable characteristics.

I also believe that attractive guys likely behave similarly, likely as do highly successful guys and girls, and highly intelligent guys and girls will likely have an arguably injust assessment system for choosing their ideal partners.

[Asker]

I think I totally agree with everything you have said.

Poetic Ninja implied that girls will have personality but will only show it to some people. I think putting together your answers makes the most likely scenario.

Pretty girls have so many prospective people that they need to get them out in some system.

First, attractiveness, then intelligence, then presentation and characteristics...then FINALLY personality.

So they only show their personality to those guys.

[upood]

Lol who goes for super hot guys? Boy, where you lookin... its usually an ugly person with an attractive person. Hot girls blow off guys who only want in their pants or who they don't like, big whoop doesn't mean she's a bitch, just because she has more options and won't settle... get over yourself

[Asker]

You are wrong and an idiot. Hot girls go for the most attractive person possible. Sometimes they just get fed up with hot guys, and go for a much less attractive guys. It just SEEMS like it happens all the time since it stands out to you when you see it. But honestly, everyone sees duel attractive couples 98% of the time.

[upood]

And you are a pretentious a**hole who is too far up his own ass to realize he makes no sense and is WRONG. Why would you ask a question when you don't want to accept the answer? No, most hot girls date below because a hot guy will more likely cheat on them or leave them as he can do better too, whereas average will be better to you because they can't do better. Its normal psychology and most girls do it, trust me.

[Asker]

Take a fresh look around, and you will see that I am right.

[upood]

right about what? just because girls don't want you doesn't mean they don't have a personality... when you are pretty and can have your pick, why settle? come on now, be realistic

[Asker]

See..."when you are pretty and can have your pick, why settle"

So the girls will have the pick of the most attractive guy who is the greatest to them.

So you just proved that I am right...hmm

[upood]

...lol you sound so dumb right now. read that sentence back to yourself. what the f*** are you trying to prove here? people choose who is most appealing to them? SHOCKER

[Asker]

You said that girls do not go after the hottest guys. And now you say they go after the most appealing guy.

So therefore, those are two different statements because upon JUST MEETING the girl has little idea of the guys personality and is basing their interest solely on attractiveness.

So then, they are worried a guy only wants in their pants. This means they think the guy is either filled with evil and just wants to hurt them OR the girl has nothing to offer personality wise.

Check mate

[upood]

Beauty is subjective bro. What one girl finds attractive is not the same for all. You are so closed minded its ridiculous. good luck to you.

[Asker]

Every girl finds the same very hot guys attractive. If that were not true there would not be guys that have slept with hundreds of women.

Sigh.

lets hug and agree to disagree?

cute puppy btw

[upood]

haha guys who have slept with hundreds of girls aren't neccessarily hot, maybe they're manipulative or find easy girls... my friends are pretty girls and their choice in men is questionable haha. I purposely go for uglier ones because then they are less likely to cheat/leave ;)

and thank you very much! :)

[Asker]

Why go for an ugly guy who will not cheat, when you can have an attractive guy who will not cheat?

This is what I don't understand.

Honestly, I am personally in the bracket where I am not hot enough to be the super hot guy that many girls chase after, and yes, some girls fall stupidly for. But I am also more attractive then the "uglier" guy who will NEVER CHEAT.

So, I don't end up getting any girl because I am the pretty darn attractive guy, who will not cheat.

[upood]

most hot guys will cheat though, from experience I know. because we reason 'if he's hot enough girls will be all over him' and if he's presented with a choice we think he'll take it. It's rare to find a genuinely nice hot guy who isn't full of himself from girls throwing themselves at him. That's why I won't even bother looking at a hot guy because I assume "he has his choice, why would he go for me" or "yeah like he's nice, my ass"

[Asker]

But I am not a hot guy. I am a strong 8 or a 9. I work out, but am not jacked. I have curly hair that frizezs up. I am nowhere near the perfect guy. Girls don't hit on me. I am the like hidden guy or something. It is weird. But yes, I have gotten soooooooooooo many times that a girl will not trust me, or does not want to try things out with me for this very reason.

I feel that I am smart enough not to cheat.

Maybe I should be some super model's "uglier guy"

[upood]

Make an effort. and wear your heart on your sleeve so to speak. genuine guys are more trustworthy, if you are good looking don't play it cool be a dork because that shows us you are a nicer guy whereas an ugly guy has to play cool, you know? You have to go out of your way to show how friendly and sweet you are

[Asker]

I am pretty sure I have heard many times not to wear my heart on my sleeve. Also, I have heard that nice guys do not do well. And also, being dorky, unless the girl thinks I am funny, is also something I have read and heard not to do.

These seem like all good ideas. unfortunately, these things girls say they want, does not get me anywhere. If only I could get a real phone number or even a first date. The girls don't give me a chance to see their personality. This seems to be common.

[upood]

lol if a hot guy is dorky/nice its a turn on... but there's always give and take where you're all mysterious but yet sometimes you show that side. its about playing up both parts. also don't come on too strong, girls like the chase a bit too, even if we actually hate it haha

[Asker]

Why can't two people just connect? Why must we play games. Why does a girl not show their personality to one guy..but to the other.

Why must a guy play two different roles. Why must we juggle? After I juggle to get the girl to give me attention, must I play 3 roles next time?

Dorky, and mysterious, and confident, and smart, and funny, and courageous and ...

What side does the girl have to show? All I ask is an INCH of personality. But nope..I gotta use all the power in the universe.

[Asker]

...and the girl can just show nothing? This does not seem right.

I am SERIOUSLY waay to great and amazing of an individual to play some person's foolish games.

Some people say I must play those games if I want someone, or I need to work to get someone.

I am working at school, life, love, relationships. I don't have time to work at games.

This is why I have pretty much stopped hitting on girls. My next relationship has to be somebody that happens to come into my life. ..waiting...

[martyfellow]

Most of us aren't too bright, frankly, to answer your last question, and we do tend to relate to pretty women only as 'pretty', not as women, so the women get a chip on their shoulders

They aren't so much scared as just assumng people are not really seeing them in a well rounded way.

And they are often ANGRY about it...

The hot guy, that's not defined by his looks, that's defined by his money, it's a totally different problem...

[Asker]

I love your comment,

"They aren't so much scared as just assuming people are not really seeing them in a well rounded way"

That sums this up perfectly! Unfortunately, the more attractive women will first assume a guy is only interested because they are pretty. But I think you understand me where the hair gets crossed. Does that same guy think she is hot, and willing to see her personality? Or should the girl assume she has no personality to offer. Or does she assume he will not try. ASSUME

[martyfellow]

I'm sure she has personality to offer, and she shouldn't doubt it! Just because a lot of guys don't look at that, it shouldn't lead her to believe she doesn't have those qualities1

[vmw2008]

I think you have it backwards actually. The girls who have no personality are perfectly OK with guys dating them for their looks; they flaunt it in fact. They know that's all they have to offer. Girls like me who have a personality and want a guy who *appreciates* it, are very concerned that a guy is only around for looks. I still want him to like how I look of course, but not as much as he likes who I am.

[vmw2008]

Ever noticed how unattractive weird guys with bad personalities are the ones using their money to attract women, but guys with a good personality will run from golddiggers and hide it more if they're rich? It's the same concept. Those with more to offer don't want to be liked solely for superficial reasons.

[Asker]

I agree with you. But as you pointed out, there are PLENTY of women who seem to have nothing to offer except for their looks.

Also, why would you be worried a guy is only into you for your looks if you actually have personality to offer? Do you think he does not like your personality?

[vmw2008]

No, I just know there are some guys out there who don't care about personality even if it's good. They're all about the looks. I don't want to be with a guy like that.

[Asker]

The problem is that girls don't like it when they meet a new guy randomly, and he asks her out. Because at this point he is only interested in her looks. I am wondering if she does not like that because she has nothing to offer if they actually go on the date. MANY girls will not actually let a guy date them, unless they know them personally first...Unless they are hot

[vmw2008]

I don't think it has anything to do with having nothing else to offer. It's partly because she thinks he's only into her for physical reasons, and partly because she just doesn't know the guy. Going out with a stranger is not safe for women and we're biologically programmed to be careful and choosy. Obviously everyone lets hot people get away with a few more things, this isn't just a woman thing, men are notoriously guilty of this.

[Asker]

Both sexes are super guilty of accepting anything from a beautiful person. The problem I have is that women preach and preach and preach about personality..but drop it all for a hot guy.

Guys admit straight up that they want a hot girl.

Besides that, I agree with everything else you said. :-)

[PoeticNinja]

It could be that they have many options and how did you come to the conclusion that they have no personality?

It's probably a matter of who's worth showing it too.. I'm not sure.