I have not dated ever before but I am shy, so I'll try
the thing about shy guys is we are no game players, when you send him messages he doesn't know how to respond to you. his guard is thrown up and if you really want to get through, you have to show your intentions slowly so he can pick them up, and see what is actually going on.
I lost my battle because I was to shy to see what I had, and when I did find out it was too late. if you really like the guy, you will have to take control. just not all the way
I'm very shy, but for me the problems aren't so much saying hello at some point in the day, it's talking with someone new or starting a conversation about something that can we can keep talking about for a while.
Also, having a way to talk with someone through text makes it very hard to be shy for me. I don't have body language to worry about, I don't have to worry about tripping over my words or saying something wrong, because I can read over what I have typed to make sure it's what I meant to say.
Sometimes it doesn't hurt to make the 1st move in terms of telling him what's on your mind. A lot of good guys are shy and afraid of a number of things, not just rejection itself. Many girls have been cruel or dismissive of the quiet ones and this only drives them deeper into their shell. Some girls even see them as weak or inept and I think that is the biggest mistake of all. Some of the best guys are in the ranks of the shy. It's 2012 girls, the ball is in our court.
if your going for a shy guy, set a date or a time limit for action for how long you will wait before moving on. Stick to that date. Becaue there are two kinds of shy guys. The kind that will break through their shyness to get a girl and the kind who won't. You don't know what kind he is. So rather than wait forever only to find out he's the kind that won't... set a date. good luck.
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He is propably very careful of not seeming too clingy or he might be thinking about sending a message but is very bad at initiating contact. He maybe thinks that the things he's trying to say are too mundane or something.
I'm a very shy guy but if it was me I would send text messages. It's a big step for a shy guy but a lot easier than talking face to face.
A shy guy will very rarely message first and will be very thrilled when you message him, that's why he asks questions and keeps the convo going, like you said. Politeness has got nothing to do with this.
For some shy guys, it is not always clear. We are used to seeing girls go for the "boy who makes them laugh" so it's scary to think someone may be interested in us. We usually don't do the whole class clown thing which girls seem to like so initiating conversations is difficult since we know most girls don't like our type.
It would help if more girls would come into the 21st century and go after the guys they like.
I like it when girls do approach me, but only if I know them.
I fear strangers because they might be experienced women (I'm a saver).
I'm fairly shy but I'm usually the one that initiates the conversations over text with my GF. She isn't very into texting
Most of us work with the fact that girls are attracted to the extroverts so it doesn't pay to put ourselves out there when we know what going to happen.
If I had her number, sure. However I wouldn't know if she liked me so I wouldn't text often.
Its difficult for myself to be the first to message first and even then I'm am worried I may say something wrong or unknowingly offend the other person. I know it may seem silly but its the thought process I go through.
It depends on the guy.
As for me, personally, I have no problem *talking* to girls, per se, but have a difficult time expressing attraction.
Girls seem to prefer the louder more aggressive types, so it doesn't seem worthwhile to try. Most girls ignore us anyway.
Probably feels like he would be bothering if he sent a message first.
I'm shy but I talked to a girl who was way out of my league she's been my girlfriend for an entire year :)
he is probably shy to initiate any contact. and with me, this would probably be the case as well.
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