Would a guy feel regrets later in life, being mean to a nice girl?

[Anonymous]

does guilt come with age and maturity? and I'm referring to toying with emotions, not playing for sex or anything.

[animalwithin]

First off, I could never be mean to a girl. Sure, she could anger me, but the most I would do is get into an argument, I could never physically or verbally hurt a woman. That said, I do have a guilty regret with regards to the way I ended things with my ex girlfriend, so yes I do have the capacity for guilt haha.

It was summer of last year and we had been dating for a while. I was in a bad place in my life, accelerated pre med summer classes every day, lab work, hospital work, and training for my job, I shouldn't even have even been dating. But I liked her and she liked me and I was sick of the dating scene so I decided to ask her to be my girlfriend so I could move things more serious with her. She excitedly said yes. Well, had I stopped and clearly thought about where I was and where she was at the time, I would have realized she was about to leave on vacation for about a month with her family. This meant she was going to be getting back right when I was finishing finals and starting my next semester of school as well as when I'd be starting a grueling month long schedule of job training several times a week for a month in a city several hours away. to make things worse, another girl came into the picture while she was gone, although I never did ANYTHING with the other girl. She was a friend and we both had feelings for each other but nothing happened. So me and my new girlfriend weren't doing so good, barely seeing and talking to each other because of everything that happened. I suggested we go back to dating, since there is so much going on, dating makes things less obligatory and we were doing great prior. So we went back to dating and we were never the same after that, it just wasn't there anymore. I had to tell her we should just be friends after a while, over the phone of all things, I felt extremely bad and still do. I take full responsibility for how things turned out, had I taken things more slowly and not jumped the gun, had I been more aware of how hectic my life was at that moment, had I not let some other girl distract me, things would have turned out better. I shoul have handled the break up better and told her face to face. One year later and I still feel bad about it. We're friends and we still talk but I feel like I should have treated her better. So there you have it, yes we feel guilt, at least I do haha.

[Cherry_Berry]

She was probably disappointed with you...
also, you can never go back from girlfriend to dating... it shows the other person that she is not worth of being your gf/bf.
something similar happenned to me and it was quite painful... i wondered what was wrong with myself.
the guy also wanted me to be his girlfriend very quickly; I didn't exactly agree, but wanted to date him first. So when he proposed "just" dating I wondered what I did wrong and I really felt devalued... also other girl (s) came into the picture. I didn't understand the purpose of him asking to be my girlfriend only to reasses that a few weeks later...

[DanRabbit]

Oh man my first girlfriend... we went out in high school for only 2 weeks but the way I treated her I will always regret.

Now, I'd like to think of myself as a nice guy, always considerate and polite putting others before myself (I'd take a bullet for almost anyone)

but I was so cold to her looking back its like I wasn't myself

[JustWantToTalk]

Yea, made some stupid mistakes, wish I could find them and apologies...

[trustinggod]

what mistakes did you make

[JustWantToTalk]

Had a habit of making people feel small and insignificant. Just putting stress on the ones I loved, don't really want to get into detail.