My girlfriend won't give me a massage. Should I break up with her?

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I'm stressed out. I want her to give me a massage. "I'm not your slave" bla bla bla. How selfish is she? Why is she acting like such a bitch? She refuses to do her boyfriend a favour... it pisses me off. Should I break up with her?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

There are too many unknowns to this question and too many women jumping to conclusions based in incomplete information; obviously either side can be blamed depending om what exactly is happening between the two. If his girlfriend is having a bad day, then no big deal. If she continues to not want to give him a massage, then the question becomes, why? Is it because he's controlling? Was she controlled by her family all her life? Is she teenager going through a hormonal phase? Is she insecure with herself? Is she an extreme alpha female? I could go on forever, but ultimately two people have to have compatible needs and wants, but to give any man out there advice from a fellow man, DO NOT use the word bitch, ****, slut, skank, whore, etc. Unless you're a masocist lmao. Regardless, I wish everyone who posts or reads here the best, because I know how hard it can be for two people to sacrifice for each other in the name of love (please forgive the spelling errors).

-jonathan

RickyRicardoVegas · Accepted Answer

She's definitely selfish and sounds like she is coming up with reasons not to. If she would want to at least try and get better and please you. I'm sure you'd have to return the favor and or do something g she wants. Guys want to be touched by their loved ones too as fo women want to be held and cuddled. I've gone through a break up over a simple massage. Yes, I would cook, clean, massage, sexually please her and do most of the things around the house and when it was time for me to seek pleasure she wouldn't. So an argument occurred and in due time had to break up with her selfish ways. Move on and find a lady who can please you.

Chillercher · Accepted Answer

When I read the question I thought that it might just be her bring lazy or insecure about herself. But as I read through the comments, I realised how seriously sexist you are. Haven't considered that as the problem?
You call your girlfriend a bitch, you say that you will never be a submissive bitch because you're an alpha, you imideatly give your girlfriend the fault - because she doesn't love you enough?, and last but not least, that comment about females being physically inferior to men - don't, just don't. If you used that as an exuse to, why a girl shouldn't provoke you, you're seriously a sexist.
Don't get a massage at a professional. Go to a phsychologist to get your head fixed.
It's not okay to be a sexist, and especially not to your girlfriend. You are the problem. Not your girlfriend.
Break ups with her though, because no girl deserves to be with a sexist who calls you a bitch.
Lean to respect women, no woman is a bitch.

Izzy2102 · Accepted Answer

It's a bit inconsiderate, but do you give her a massage?

Also there may be reasons she doesn't want to. Like usually the girl would sit on top of her boyfriend when giving a back massage and she may be afraid she's too heavy. or she may be afraid she just sucks at it

snowangle · Accepted Answer

Well that's inconsiderate. I would weigh her selfishness with her other traits and decide if it's worth it to break up with her.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

Bahahahahaha if my boyfriend went and had a break down over something as trivial as this, I'd break up with HIM. Good God, man. Maybe she just sucks at giving massages. I can't give a massage to save my life. If you don't have a good technique, you can actually hurt the person. Think about it as her saving you from pain. Get over yourself and pay the $40 and get an hour long, full body massage from a professional. Sheesh.

JCK6791 · Answer

How selfish are you? She does have the right to turn you down. Its really not necessary to call her bitch. "If she loved me, she would want to make me feel good". That's a bit passive aggressive, don't you think?

Don't let something this minor ruin your relationship or your day. Just move on and get over it.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, you'll be doing her a favour. So she doesn't want to give you a massage, what's the big deal? Okay you're stressed and a massage would make you feel better, but what if she's stressed out too? What if she's got some stuff going on? What if she's on her period and has really bad cramps? Did you just demand a massage? Because if so, there is no way in hell anyone would be giving you a massage if you demanded it.

Betwyn · Answer

After reading a bunch of your comments... I'd say she doesn't love you... Being with you is just marginally better then being alone.. You.. are like.. her habit...

missmadi · Answer

Okay, I'm undecided on whether or not you're trolling.. But that has to be one of the dumbest reasons to break up with someone. & I agree with the other girls, maybe she's nervous because she thinks she'll be bad. So, show her what you like, how to do it, etc. Give her a massage first? But seriously man, if you think that this is a good reason to break up with her... Then you've obviously been considering ending it with her for awhile.

But I still think you're probably trolling. LOL

Betwyn · Answer

Right about now.. if I was her... I'd be massaging your face with the back of my hand...

Olivia9 · Answer

LOL. Maybe if you ate her out it would make you less stressed.  :D

Anonymous · Answer

well she obviously doesn't deserve a selfish prick like you, so she'd probably be better off without you.

LilKim · Answer

You both sound like weirdos.

mellysquarerootof3 · Answer

Find a Masseuse.

Nicefuture · Answer

So rude.

poptart34 · Answer

Over a message...?

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