How do shy guys try to get your attention?

[greenjello13]

If you see a girl you like and are interested in, but she doesn't really know you well, how do you try to get her to notice you? Do you wait for her to notice you or do you approach her?

[journeyman1126]

Well, first understand that we're shy for a reason. It will take some work on your part - to notice little things like smiling when you are around. Having a hard time concentrating, too. Blushing. Always paying more attention to you than other girls. From a distance.

Why so shy? It could be a lot of things. Bad experiences asking girls out. General societal stigmatization which occurs to quiet introverted people.

If he's shy with everyone, do NOT rely on the guy sitting next to him in class. Especially if he's better looking or gets more attention from the professor. You'll get some made-up story about him being a serial killer type. Hokum. Don't believe it.

After a while it is just easier to let people pass by like we're sitting on a park bench and they're going by, on to their lives and out of ours. That doesn't mean we're plotting to mug those people.

Sorry, bad experience with this recently. Mea Culpa. Back to you.

We still want women. Haven't loss the sex drive. Just repress it.

So, you're going to need to take the initiative. When you see a shy guy that you like, be happy. It means you get the chance to be the one who picks who hits on you, instead of just dealing with every cocky guy who walks up and tries some lame pickup line.

Put yourself in his way. Make him speak. Flirt with him a little. Then, be prepared.

Give him some leeway if his voice cracks or he stammers, or just plain can't speak well, and sounds like an idiot. If he gushes about you or lushes on you, gently back him off. Patience, grasshopper. He might not have spoken to a woman in a while.

Anyway, just take from this that you need to be the one to initiate contact, after checking some rather subtle clues. If he's really hot, the other guys are going to stab him in the back. And the girls may too, just to keep him to themselves.

Good luck with your shy guy.

[born2bwild]

depends, I m also a shy guy, first I just do something to make her notice me just once. once she notices me I make an angle where I could make eyecontact with her. I may not be able to go upto her talk straight away but I can say I have very expressive eyes. Most of the girls I get normally at a club is by eye contact. if I get enough eyecontact I just say hi, and smile and then go to her and start talking and this is how it starts

[meowcatwoman]

With my experience with shy guys, they keep looking over at me a lot and each time I glance at them, they look away blushing. I find it cute and eventually approach them and start talking to them. They surprisingly open up to me from my friendliness towards them and my coy, flirty behavior.

[SwissCheeze]

Sadly when women look at me they run away.

[meowcatwoman]

That's so mean! I would never do that to a guy, I give everyone a chance :)

[Tututwerl09]

@meowcatwoman there's a guy I'm interested in should I walk up to him?

[red324]

Girls don't approach me hardly ever and if they do it's because they just want to talk. They aren't even showing an interest in who I am or complimenting me or anything. I'm kind of a shy guy and yeah I'll definitely be looking your way if I like you. What I do is I'll get to know you and show interest in you. Eventually I'll attempt to get your number. Keep in mind that a shy guy is kind of a slow mover so if she can be friendly and compliment him and show an interest back it will only add to his confidence and speed up the process of him asking you for a number. Please don't ever be all friendly with a shy guy and make him think you like him when you don't. That just kills us. Save that sh*t for the players who deserve that kind of frustration. :)

[Younes]

I'd go and talk to her about anything really, just to start a conversation. I'll start talking to her more and more whenever I have the chance, and try to get her number. I'll give her signs that I'm interested and see how she takes them, and definitely ask her out later... I'm a shy guy by the way but it doesn't stop me from pursuing girls I like.

[SwissCheeze]

I don't waste my time anymore trying to get a women's attention. I have better odds of being struck by lighting over and over again before a women gives me her phone number. Women don't want nice guys they want a holes who treat them like crap, sadly no matter how hard I want to act like a a hole I just can't bring myself to that level.

[kovalinkie19]

Something subtle. For example in school, hold open the door or saying something intelligent in class. Those things at times work for you to be able to spark a small interest and she might approach.

[SwissCheeze]

When I was in the 10th grade I had this crush on this girl I used to help in class. Two years later we had the same class again I go say hi and she blew me off. I was so pissed I would wanted to smack her. She used me big time and I was an idiot to think, she liked me.

[born2bwild]

yeah swissCheese this has happened to me as well. you are doing your crush's homework and she is watching movie with another guy. Sometimes the hunter gets hunted.

[Breathe]

well, ill probably look at her .. more than once. and then shell probably catch me looking. I'm not good at talking to new people though so I don't usually have much confidence to have a conversation.

[Anonymous]

I personally don't do anything. I look at them a lot but they never see me doing it so that doesn't help

[Anonymous]

They eventually gain confidence.