Average confident girls vs pretty shy girls?

[Anonymous]

So I've been wondering...

I have a best friend that gets attention from guys ALL the time...she's kinda cute,has a nice body dresses well and she's confident. And then there's me...I'm prettier than my friend,I'm kinda shy and quiet, and because of that I can sometimes look like a snob,people often say that before they meet me they think of me as a "high" superficial girl with attitude..I don't get as much attention from guys,they call me cute once I they get to know me but not as much as my friend

Don't get this wrong,I'm not an attention "whore",but I do sometimes feel kinda left out and it makes me even more shy than I already am..could hat be the reason? Do boys really like girls with confidence so much more? And also,I don't think they can tell I don't have confidnce before they get to know me or do they..?

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for the guy who said I'm envious of my friend...I wouldn't say envious,but I defenetly feel left out sometimes as I said and I hate the fact that it makes me feel even more insecure and shy

[Scoopie]

I must say I'm more attracted to the more quiet types, don't have to look like a supermodel, and they're often the kind that others would call 'weird'.

I completely understand where you're coming from. Everybody finds it nice to be appreciated and liked, so do you. The fact that you're already shy, and maybe insecure, will make it only worse.

There are guys that prefer girls with a lot of confidence, but there are also guys that prefer girls like you. I'm not the typical shy guy, but am a bit shy when it comes to girls. Maybe that's why I also seem to prefer the more quiet girls.

And yes, people can often read body language and behavior very well. It is pretty easy to spot the shy and insecure people if you start looking for them. I do have to say, it is not because they see you and consciously reject you, it's because you don't really put yourself out there. Shy and quiet people simply don't get noticed much. Make yourself be noticed, and I'm sure you're luck will turn.

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing the guys aren't picking up any signals or vibe from you that you are open to being approached.

But it's just a guess.

Could be that you don't look at them; if you do then you don't smile. Or if you talk to them then it's always short from your end and you don't try to keep the conversation alive.

All of which most guys (if not all?) would read as a girl not being interested.

[TooUglyToDate]

Most guys would prefer the pretty shy guy. However they will pursue what they feel is most obtainable.

For example I know I'm unattractive and therefore won't attempt to chat up any woman who is good looking because I know she will react very badly to it.

Furthermore it can be very hard to differentiate shyness from disinterest and confidence from interest, men especially struggle with this.

Its very possible they pursue her because they think she is more likely to want them, not because they want her more.

[Anonymous]

" Do boys really like girls with confidence so much more?"

Confidence is sexy. All the denials in the world by all the haters on this website, won't change that fact. Confidence is attractive.

It goes both ways.

"I don't think they can tell I don't have confidnce before they get to know me or do they..?"

It's not hard to tell.

[Anonymous]

@TooUglyToDate has me blocked below...

"Most guys would prefer the pretty shy guy"

There's a freudian slip if ever there was one...

[TooUglyToDate]

Hahaha! I believe that was more a slip of the tongue (or finger) but you are welcome to draw whatever you like from it.

[nosferatudaswampyr]

well she does something you don't. And?

[nosferatudaswampyr]

i think you're envious of your friend.