Why do people try to act so happy all the time?

[beastman88]

i see this all the time, people never let you see the negative side of themselves theyre too busy trying to let everybody believe theyre this super happy person whos never sad or angry about anything, and honestly it drives me a bit nuts. I hate people who try to portray this happy go lucky person. I hate fake people in general. I'm starting to think its a defense mechanism people use so they don't have to let you in to their lives because theyre too busy being so happy and problem free. iam in no way depressed but I do have those times and there are times I am in a good mood but not all the time. real people will talk about their problems not suppress them all and act like a overly happy cartoon like character. what are your thoughts?

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+1 y

id rather express how iam really feeling than pretending to be happy. I express how I really feel all the time. if iam happy iam happy, if iam sad or mad iam gonna be sad or mad. pretending to be happy is I find kills my soul. rather not lie to myself about how iam really feeling. of course its bad if you're negative ALL the time I think its detrimental both ways. id rather people tell me how they really feel rather than trying to fake being happy, I can tell.

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if you pretend to be happy ALL the time people will never know your problems and try to help you with them because they will think nothing is wrong, and people wonder why there's so many suicides because there's so many people out there pretending to be happy when theyre deeply depressed. I let most things "roll off my shoulders" but there's some things in life that stick with us and bother us deeply for a while or for all our lives even"theguyoverthere"

[Ameya]

Dude, it could be true in their case, may be they are indeed happy! what makes you presume that they are unhappy or faking happiness? As in you must know something concrete about'em to come to this conclusion. Yes, some people do fake happiness or try to be as happy as they can or find happiness in little things that matter to'em.

Many of'em do fake happiness because they don't want to expose their vulnerable side to anybody, may be those are the people you are talking about yea? Yes, they don't let people come closer to them because they have had bad experiences with people who, they've trusted.

...and then come those, who have sadness in their life but put on a happy face, because they don't want others to bear the brunt of their unhappiness or life's frustrations. it helps them forget their miseries and ailments for sometime and try to think positive..

[Theguyoverthere]

I'd rather a happy person than someone who complains all the time honestly. I know that sometimes things can be sh*tty but I would honestly rather someone who can let things roll off their shoulders than someone who is gonna complain all day.

Thing is, the negativity can make or break a day. If you hang around someone who is negative, it can make your day really suck. It's gotten to a point where people almost enjoy it and I can't be around that.

[UberTroll]

We're all different some people are very unhappy most of the time and others aren't, just because someone is happy every time you're around them it doesn't mean they're faking it. Some people are just genuinely really happy 95% of the time, I'm one of those people. There are things in life that frustrate me and make me sad but unless it's something really detrimental I prefer to focus on the positive things because being happy is f***in awesome. I can find happiness in even the tiniest aspects of life and I love that about myself because no matter what happens to me I know I can always find something to smile about.

As for the people who really are faking it, it's usually a defense mechanism. They feel so much sadness and anxiety that they subconsciously deny its existence and convince themselves they're happy.

[MissAM]

Hmm... I tend to be really happy 90% of the time. I am not forcing myself to be or putting on a show for others.

People frequently mention that I am happy or look happy or that they hardly ever see me NOT smiling. I am not living for other people. I am living for myself so I make sure I do as many things as I can possibly do that make or keep me energized and positive.

I am sure my consistently happy/positive mood must annoy some people. But, like I have said, this is MY life and I choose to live in a way that I can smile, laugh, and feel good about.

I do have bad days where things go *very* wrong. Sometimes my life is made up of a series of embarrassing moments often interrupted by bad decisions but when I am happy I am genuinely feeling good. ^___^

[quovadis911]

Why are you happy so often? I'm the exact opposite, I'm depressed almost 100% of the time! tell me how you do it. Also, do you find you always have boyfriend and aren't lonely, is that one reason why you are always happy?

[MissAM]

There are many reasons.

One very huge reason I am often happy is because of all the various people I interact with and constantly attract. They are simply incredible and almost all of them are hilarious. It's hard not to be happier with or because of them.

Don't get me wrong I get lonely and really bad things happen but for me the good definitely outweighs the bad.

I'm single and have been for a while but I don't want a relationship right now. I get hit on and asked out quite a bit (lol).

[aly-marie]

Because people don't like being around negative people. I would never tell anybody my problems unless they begged and pleaded for me to, which people don't do. So I never talk about it.

People are very selfish, and they won't want to be around you if you bring them down. Some people will care, don't get me wrong, but most don't.

[Anonymous]

I'm a strange breed, because publicly I act very happy (most of the time). It's not really an act, necessarily. It's more like... having a sense of humor about my self-whatever. Haha! I seem cheerful to a lot of people, because my negativity is a bit jolly sometimes, I don't know how else to explain it. Sarcasm is my primary language, so while I'm getting my point across, it also comes across as humor, which it is that too. It's always a push and pull for me, dichotomy to the max!

[Sparrow64]

As a person who acts very happy all the time, I know I’m not being fake. It’s just something that comes naturally to me. Of course I have other feelings, I just show them to close family members or friends. This is why the “fake” person you see acts so happy all the time, they simply let all their negative emotions at appropriate times.

[Anonymous]

I would rather pretend to be happy because I hate chewing on razor blades.

[beastman88]

o.O

[Deft_maiden]

Because it's a better alternative

[beastman88]

so nothing ever bothers you?

[Deft_maiden]

sure does.. but that is not the point. Its about controlling your thoughts.. Who and what you allow to control your thoughts will effect your whole disposition. Now I'm not going to tell you it always works. But it certainly is worth the effort.