Why do you fake that you're happy?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I only do , when I am going through personal negative shit in my life , because I don’t like involving other people in my problems , I just handle things my own way , as much as possible , I hate asking for help when I know I am perfectly capable of handling shit on my own , Life has it’s ups and downs , so I try to stay positive as much as possible but at times it can be hard to. I was always a happy go lucky kind of guy and always enjoyed being happy and smiling , it all changed for me the second I lost my Mom and my older brother , then losing my marriage and my job that I loved , my life started spiraling down to the point I felt like just giving up , but I didn’t , I somehow kept holding on and now things are starting to get better for me again , not completely out of the woods just yet , but it’s getting better finally , but it was definitely a long road to get here , I still enjoy a lot of things that make me happy , but the older I get the more I realize it doesn’t really mean that much to me as it did before, when I was younger. Life is fleeting , so it’s best to enjoy it best way you can before your time is up. Whenever that is

Fireguy17 · Accepted Answer

I do not fake that I am happy, because the vast majority of the time I am very happy.
I do fake that whatever crisis we are on to make like it isn't that big of a deal allwhile you are crapping your undies.
The last thing you want to do is not be honest with your patient, but you need to carry on like it is no big deal.
Reassurance is a big thing. You walk in like this is something that you see every day and can fix it.
You don't walk in and go holy crap, that is a lot of blood, I've never seen that much blood come out of someone and they are still alive, how the hell are you still alive?
You go more like that's not a lot of blood, I've seen a lot of blood.
Here, let's start taking care of you so you might start to feel better.
See the difference?
In your mind you are thinking oh crap, we need to get going now! They need bright lights and cold steel.
But you go ok we are going to start going now so we can have you looked at.
There is nothing like walking into the trauma room and have barely enough room to unload your patient.

slayxme · Accepted Answer

Moments when I’m not “happy” & don’t want to let others know… It is very vulnerable to say I’m not okay or feeling other negative emotions. I might also not wanna cry or not feel safe enough to open up. Got used to being strong and going through life being strong to pick myself back up.

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

I don’t. I’m an open book… also am a happy go lucky personality… not always like this… when I learned to let go of everything… I became very happy… my goal is to bring smile to others.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Many behavioral psychologists have said that it is easier to act yourself into a new way of feeling than it is to feel yourself into a new way of acting. What they mean is that if you are depressed and you continue with depressed behavior patterns, it is difficult to make yourself feel better. However, if you force a change in your behavior patterns, it will then be easier to make yourself feel better.

Sonorous · Answer

To avoid people's fake sympathies. I've found that when I fake being happy, it makes people want to be around me more since they wouldn't have to pretend that they care about my feelings. The focus can be on what they want it to be. Them.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

I don't fake it. But I also don't highlight it outwards, but choose instead to keep a positive outlook, believing that positive people attract other positive people.
Honestly my life is a bit shit to it's core, but there are good things about it and it's so much easier to keep on keeping on when choosing to focus on the good parts instread of highlighting the bad parts.

I'm working on my issues, but they are MY issues and sending bad vibes and pessimistic notions will just bring others down and may even push them away. Those who usually stay are the ones who want to help and those who like to complain and will reinforce the habit.
A general rule to who we become over time is that we learn from those around who influence us and enable our habits, we become like our peers.
So, I think it's good to have an open door to those of positive mind.. by not blurt out negativity just because we feel that way.

But don't get me wrong;
It's good to talk about our issues but there's a right time and place for that. To vent. And a time to focus on the present and catch opporotunities.

CalmUntilAbused · Answer

I'm hardly ever actually happy and it's socially unacceptable to be unhappy. Also, I'd only get chewed out more if I expressed unhappiness. Empathy is rare these days. Though most people simply don't care, they just avoid unhappy people. At any rate, it's all Sun Tzu: "Appear strong when you are weak."

sawno · Answer

Only times I did it was to not burden the customers I was helping. I was on one hour of sleep that day and feeling pretty miserable. But when in the room with people I was helping i'd be my enthusiastic usual self for a few minutes before dropping back to feeling miserable. I did fall asleep while driving that day (But luckily snapped out of it quick enough not to hit anything), so good lesson to never do that again.

RingOfFire · Answer

If you are not happy person, the only way you can be around other people is to fake that you are happy. If you don't, they will soon abandon you. So if you want to have any contact at all with other people you need to cover up your unhappiness. Unhappiness just doesn't work in a social setting.

NathanDavis · Answer

I didn't fake to be happy back in the days, I was happy... I would just not show the unhappy side that was also there

alice55 · Answer

When I do it's because it's improper for a girl not to smile and be cheerful men don't like moody women and family doesn't have to suffer from my mood either.

Anonymous · Answer

So that I won’t be a burden to my loved ones. I have nothing to be unhappy about it’s just that my brain chemistry’s a bit messed up - so I just suck it up and put on a happy mask.

TrueConfection · Answer

When someone asks, "How are you," they don't want a list of complaints. Whether I'm happy or not, I'll respond with a smile and tell them everything is wonderful.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Because I am Ron DeSantis and my PR-agents told me it's better for my career.

Agape93 · Answer

Why do i fake happiness? To make people around me comfortable and not worry. I don't want empty platitudes or to to be told it'll be ok or other bullshit people say to others for comfort.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Because to do anything else makes me vulnerable and it just creates more problems then it solves.

Kayleigh2005 · Answer

Good, I don't want to hear about ur problems 😕  Not that I don't care, but I have my own problems.

Makeushiver · Answer

Because what we fear more than not being happy is other people thinking Nathan we may not be happy. That might require some introspection and consideration. Not s ok me thing one sees much of here..

4ngelic · Answer

to not annoy people with my problems, to not worry people who care about me, and just not wanting other people to get involved in my problems

Emmytexrex · Answer

I don't fake it is just emotional stability because I am angry about something I will start being sad and let that get the best of me nah and if someone makes me angry I just tell them in few minutes we are good

Adel50 · Answer

When I'm unhappy, I do that so people won't be concerned and leave me alone.

Anonymous · Answer

In order to be happy, we need social connection. Being miserable is not a good way to achieve that.  Sometimes faking it for a while is necessary. It's ok to not be happy, just don't lead with that.

yourpalval · Answer

i stopped doin that long time ago just makes me more miserable idc if people can tell im havin a bad day its better than lyin

HawkPerception · Answer

I don't. I'm not happy lol. Give me $1 mil and I'll make that happy life for myself

AviatorTom · Answer

Dunno, never done that. I'm happy most if the time, and when I'm not, people know it.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

At this point, I'm genuinely happy! I don't need to fake anything.

Anonymous · Answer

Because nobody likes a whiner. Sure they might tolerate you for a while. But eventually your negativity will drive everyone away. So you give them the fake face that they want to see.

Juxtapose · Answer

If you show too much negativity people will be driven away from you. It is a crucial necessity to put on a good face.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Translator  because people will actively avoid contact with you if you're not

SunnyRS · Answer

Cause it's not necessary for others to know that i am not re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

noohair · Answer

Happiness is an internal emotion. When I finally figured that out I began my journey into happiness.

Curious85curious · Answer

It's important for your mental health to fake it even if it is not true

Anonymous · Answer

Because deep down, some of us aren't happy and don't wanna talk about what's going on with us.

RageBabe · Answer

Not burden others with my misery.

MemeSupreme · Answer

don't hate the player, hate the game

Nikki1989 · Answer

Who would do that?

exitseven · Answer

nobody cares if I am miserable.

ihateTaylorSwift · Answer

Because nobody cares if I'm sad

LiamJHayden · Answer

No reason to fake. I choose to be happy.

DerekC321 · Answer

So that other people can be happy.

seeyounexttuesday · Answer

It's better than wallowing in misery.

Simslover92 · Answer

I don't.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I don’t

Anonymous · Answer

I don't, I never said I'm happy.

Staximus · Answer

I don't

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

I don’t.

JarneG · Answer

To not bother people

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