Advice for a girl that will go hot and cold with talking to me, one day she texts me non stop, others it's like she is completely disinterested?

[Anonymous]

There's this girl that I've been talking to a lot lately. We are currently living in different cities, but she is moving back next month and we already have a few plans to hang out, many of which she asked for/organized.

Anyway, we text a lot. We talk pretty much every day but every couple of weeks she will go cold and will take forever to reply, when she does it doesn't really leave the conversation for much to go on. Then after a couple of days of this she will text me a ton again.

She was like this for a couple of days and then she sent me like 5 texts one of which was asking about going to a concert this summer.

Today she started texting me first, but then took forever to respond and it didn't really go anywhere.

I really do think she likes me, but she will occasionally go hot and cold and it makes me really self conscious and worried that I am doing something wrong. And during these times I try not to text her too much or anything so I don't bother her and I'm worried that she may take that as me not being interested if I go too long without texting her.

How should I handle when she is like this? It just feels awkward to talk to her during those times but she will still send me snapchats, pins etc. She starts about 50% of the conversations, so it's not just me sending her stuff and her responding.

Advice?

[jakedj93]

I would just chill out dude, long distance is tough, but luckily she is coming back. Pretty hard to ignore you when she is there. Just play it cool, don't suffocate her. I made this mistake once before, and never again will I.

In short:Don't think about it too much, chill out. Show her you can live without her if you had too.

[AmongTheApples]

I'm going to bottom-line this for you: you should walk. I'm sure that she likes, or liked, you; but these sort of relationships (hot and cold) never work out. It's a waste of your time, energy, and resources. It won't go anywhere.

[CrissyBlue]

I stop talking to people who do that annoying hot and cold sh...t.

waste of time. I'd treat her the same because she's either clueless about how it makes you feel or just doesn't give half a crap.

[SouthernAngel7]

She sounds like my ex, I just stopped contacting him. I don't play games like that. You either want me or you don't.

[Custard25]

Girls are/can be messed up and are also busy with friends so don't sweat