What I dig in guys

[Monsters]

Now first off there is no "we" here. This is my opinion. Disclaimer. Here are a few things I find attractive.

1. A guy who is nurturing

He makes me think hmmm may be a good dad!

2. A guy with self respect

I mean a guy who dresses nicely and neatly. And who does not post half naked pictures of himself.

3. A guy with a sense of humor

I like guys who can make good puns provided it is not demeaning to others.

4. A good person

I mean a mentch meaning you say thank you. Are pleasant to be around.

5. Athletic

Good to know you take care of your body kinda sexy there...

6. A guy who respects me

I want your respect more than your love!

7. A guy who is confident

Condfident bad days allowed. But not vain!

8. One who is human

Naw I don't expect perfection. Naw I don't expect you never to cry. I expect you to be human. Otherwise what am I supposed to be ? Perfect?

9. Good singer

While not a crucial trait definitely attractive especially with a guitar!

10. Smile smile you are great love a guy with, joy!

[Tdieseler]

Ok... now we have your expectations... you females always have them. But always fail to fulfill HIS expectations as well.
Just like the way i heard this quite chubby girl (i won't say fat) who worked at mcdonald's twirling her wig saying she wanted a skinny fit athletic guy who was successful, probably a CEO and had his original hair... and i burst out laughing.
Someone once said that with all these expectations, even if there WAS a guy who fulfilled all of them, he NOT going to want you Anyway.
Its horrifying, yes, but sadly, its true.
You have to have the same qualities if you expect them from others.

[Monsters]

Not all of them attraction i mean perks my interest

[Tdieseler]

Of course it does, those are good qualities... but i doubt you find someone that has all of them. and if you do... well you know how it goes.

[Monsters]

Obviously not all but some.
I mean like someone may not be super hot. If he is he caught my attention
But these can draw my attention
And the majority are not physical traits
Rather personality
When i dare i date for marraige
Also cuz i ain't gonna do sex till than
But i think as far as lifelong partnet

[Tdieseler]

I can respect that... but you should also realize that this is 2015... not 1970. Sex pretty much rules everything and if you have no idea what you are doing/are inexperienced... nothing else matters much.

[Monsters]

And yet someone who truly loves me will wait. My relogion we have short engagements like a month or two. Not too long. And than one is literally jumping out at that persin

[Tdieseler]

I have a friend who had that same belief. Held on as long as she could... waiting for "the one"... he never showed. So she went hunting and found out that like i said... sex rules everything... she ended up having sex as a method to get closer faster... what she didn't anticipate was that quantity doesn't mean quality. people kept leaving. So she went back to waiting as more of a way to save face. she's 32 now... and still waiting.
Im not saying everyone has the same turn out... i bet you that she didn't think it'd be that way. Now she lives it.
Getting someone interested or having someone take an interest in you is mundo easy... KEEPING that interest is where the work is. And take my word for it darling (write it down if you have to) Expectations... just like all the "I want's..." that you just listed above would decimate everything you get into... sooner.. or later. I understand you don't want it all at once... but for each one of those things, ask yourself if you can reciprocate.

[Monsters]

Well he said he will wait

[Tdieseler]

Congratulations hon. You are one of the lucky ones...
I don't want to ruin it for you, but i like people to see all possibilities... when i was younger, around your age, I told a few girls i'd wait... i wasn't lying.. i waited.
What i didn't tell them was that while waiting for them, i'd be having sex with others.
Im hoping he is faithful, honestly, but nothing wrong with being careful.

Just putting the blank truth out there from my own experience, learn from what I've done.

[AbbyKay]

your silly gooser! you think people are only attracted to skinny people. ever heard of chubby chasers? no? apparently not

[Tdieseler]

@AbbyKay My background makes me a chubby chaser... but I have to mediate because I try to make it 50/50. If I've got a magazine body... why not want someone who does as well?

[AbbyKay]

just because you have a magazine body doesn't mean you want someone who does too. not all the time anyway. you're tastes aren't determined by your body type

[Tdieseler]

@AbbyKay no... they definitely aren't... body type can be compromised on, but i'd like someone with my same body type... wouldn't you?

[AbbyKay]

yes i personally would! but not everyone is like that :) but yeah id be super into a lean guy that's kinda close to my height, sure.

[Tdieseler]

@AbbyKay so we agree

[AbbyKay]

i agree that i like someone like me but not ALL people are like that!!

[Tdieseler]

@AbbyKay very true. and you never know where who you will truly like, will come from. so flexibility is mandatory on ur part... as well as theirs.

[AbbyKay]

Exactly :)

[Anonymous]

This isn't all I look for and it's not really a set list for me but if I found a guy with these traits I'd be in love haha

[Transigence]

I noticed women seem to expect respect, but don't have any concept of it being earned.

I also noticed that I really don't respect very many women, despite being raised through peak feminism with no father and no (or abusive) male role models.

The reason I don't respect most women is because they don't go through life facing the challenges that men face which, in my assessment, are far greater and more numerous.

[Aeon_Flux_21]

1. A guy who is nurturing = Nope
2. A guy with self respect = Nope
3. A guy with a sense of humor = Nope
4. A good person = Nope
5. Athletic = Nope
6. A guy who respects me = Nope
7. A guy who is confident = Nope
8. One who is human = Nope
9. Good singer = Nope
10. Smile smile you are great love a guy with, joy! = Nope

Looks like I'm not the ideal.

[Monsters]

Hugs hugs 😘😘you are just sad right now. Thats ok cheer up.
My prescription? Rx; coffee or hot chocolate hot chocolate with marshmallows give yourself a break.
😡And how dare you!! Apologize to yourself!! Don't judge yourself so bad we are all our worst critics

[FruitsPunchSamuraiG]

That's what I expected... Exactly what I'm not (this alone disqualify me for confidence and self-respect).

I wonder if people know the pain, the shame, the despair of being ugly on the inside and knowing it.

[Monsters]

And yet we are our worst critic cheer up
Put your hand on your heart
Feel it? That's purpose man you are here for a reason.
Self esteem and respect is hard especially if you have been through trauma such a sexual abuse or bullying. But 😘life gets better.
Let God judge you.

[FruitsPunchSamuraiG]

Thanks. I appreciate your take, I think it's good girl like you can reflect this much on what they want in their partner.

[Dtegesd123]

you forgot the one very important trait a guy with passion/ambition.

[AbbyKay]

so true!

[AleDeEurope]

Besides the good singer one, I find all of those quite reasonable, I would say the vast majority of women look for those traits in men.

Nice take :)

[JuicyBrain]

What if I only post half-clothed pictures of myself. does it count? :-P

[Krillanr]

I love how people are giving opinions on what you like.

Cause you know... that makes sense. XD

[RedAmulet]

How far does nurturing go before it becomes like they're trying too hard?

[Polocrew]

Posting "half naked" pics actually means he respect himself more Tbh lol but yea nvm

[Longjacketanx]

As long as it's half right! ya can't just give it all up. I work hard I'm going to show it off because I'm confident and proud.

[DamnCurtis]

Oh snap that all me... Oh um I'm not much of a singer.

[Sean_Mullane]

Whenever I see one of these for what guys dig in girls, girls seem to go ham on these guys for it

[checkingavailability]

Nice take. I liked it

[Monsters]

Thanks 😃

[Riggers]

So basicaly :

A) Is hot
B) isn't an asshole

[Archive]

Are you Scottish by any chance?

[Monsters]

Nope ! why?

[Archive]

Cause you said "naw" (we say that in Scotland)

[Monsters]

Oh I'm Jewish ☺

[Archive]

So that's Jewish? That's interesting 😊

[AbbyKay]

Americans say that too :)

[Anonymous]

Lol you better be a 9.5 or above

[AleDeEurope]

Really? You think she's asking too much?
Those are reasonable traits.

[Opinion Owner]

@AleDeEurope it's just having a list of all these specifics make come across like that

[Monsters]

Naw i dont need a hot guy with a hot temper
Love amd respect... you got me.
Dick size as long as it works... cool
Money... naw he is priceless how many dudes my age are rich?
Wealth of character... hmmm
And he is in the army they don't pay much
Is he the best looking ever. .. no
Richest... nope
But I am. rich cuz i have him in my life.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh this is cool. You're classy. I take back my false accusation. Forgive me

[Monsters]

Lol I'm not mad at you dw I think it's sad bc guys get just as much pressure as girls

[Anonymous]

What about money and a big d! ck?

[Monsters]

How about financial stability and a big heart?

[Opinion Owner]

Never heard a woman care about that. They just want someone who can pay for everything and satisfy them in bed.

[Monsters]

Well thats what matters for. me

[Krillanr]

Maybe that's more the particular women you run with eh?

[ILikeToParty]

I'd pass on you after I read your #1 thing.

[Anonymous]

Nice post
Tank Trouble
Cubefield

[Anonymous]

You forgot $$$

[Monsters]

No

The guy I am talking to you is not rich. How many 20 year olds are? But he has wealth of character.
He is not drop dead gorgeous but he is handsome in my eyes.
Looks money those things dont last
Must be some attraction but money I don't need that shit to be happy. He respects me and loves me and that is priceless. You can't buy respect.
You are wealthy not from money but from stuff money cannot buy.
And you know what he is soldier and I am damn proud of him yes sirree.. oh and he knows that.