Can someone please explain the brain of a 21 year old male to me?

[moistycakes]

I'm seeing this man who is twenty-one years old. As an eighteen year old girl I'm just curious as to what goes on in his mind? If you're a male around this age could you give me some insights?

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I'm pretty sure he's not just in it for the sex, we spend quite a bit of time together with no expectation for sex although it's great fun.

[Red_Dragon]

Well first of all just because someone dates doesn't make them better than someone who has FWBs or what not. Dating can be a cover and a lie.

2ndly Not all guys think about sex all the time. I'm 21. I don't think about sex all the time. Even if I did I let my mind and spirit control that and not my cock. Maybe other 21 year old guys are different but I can't speak for them.

Most people like to be in regular BS relationships. He might be one of those guys. He might not just want sex from you. Don't assume like these other people.

All in all we are just regular guys who at this point have an idea of what direction we want to go (or at least some of us). I think about improving my mind, body, and spirit. Being wiser, smarter, and stronger. Maybe that's just me.

[Red_Dragon]

Haaa I'll remember this.

[Born-confused]

Guys do get horny and he wants to have fun but we don't think everything is sex you know

[moistycakes]

This is great, thanks. I have the same thoughts as you it seems.

[Red_Dragon]

Awww I wanted MH. He gave that one answer. I gave a essay come on.

[moistycakes]

Sorry, I like the simple answers that have something I can relate too. Maybe next time.

[Red_Dragon]

Them guys are telling you lies. I was more horny at your age than I am now.

[emzy-89]

At 21 men are still highly hormonal and don't have too many responsibilities, so their mind is usually on sex

[Red_Dragon]

BS. I'm not that way.

[Suhith92]

Lot of people here seem to suggest that SEX would be the first and foremost thing in his brain at the moment, which I wouldn't endorse. It depends on the needs of you both. A lot of times, that parameter alone is enough to determine how you can take it further. Just be honest.

[OldboyJon]

video games
parties
club
video games
food
school
work'
does she like?
does she like me?
im honry
im horny
im horny
im horny
whoa she's cute i like her, does she like me?

[moistycakes]

Hah! I like this one.
Thanks.

[Red_Dragon]

I don't play video games, I don't party, and I don't go to clubs. I'm not that horny all the time either. Is this really what other 21 year olds are like?

[OldboyJon]

@ red_dragon_ The average 21 in college yes thats all we think about i dont go to clubs thou not my scene i did forget sports too ahaha @ Asker yea that pretty much alll we think about at this age

[Red_Dragon]

Oh but you didn't like mine? :( I put my heart and soul into it.

[moistycakes]

Yours was good Red_Dragon, but this I believe is closer to the mindset I would imagine the person I'm referring too would have.

[Red_Dragon]

@OldboyJon The average is beneath me.

[Red_Dragon]

Don't tell her that.

[OldboyJon]

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL

[Red_Dragon]

@Asker That every 21 year old is horny and thinks about sex 24/7. I must be the only 21 year old in the world with some wisdom.

[OldboyJon]

lmaooo smh cmon now @red_dragon im saying 24/7 every second of the day but you know dam well

[OldboyJon]

not* Typo

[Red_Dragon]

You don't understand. I'll keep it simple.

You (I guess) and the other 21 year olds (generally): cock tells brain
Me: brain tells cock.

This is only talking about deciding to have sex.

[OldboyJon]

lol thats defiantly not what i ment by "im horny" people get horny... guys wanna have sex lol your trying to nvm hahaa

[Red_Dragon]

That's not what I meant. You didn't even read all of it. LOL!!!

[Red_Dragon]

Yes guys want to have sex. Everyone has wanted to have sex since at least middle school. What does that have to do with being 21?

[FreeLeave]

I'm 21 there are not a lot of 18 year old girls who are attractive to me. I think I'm more mature than most but such a silly dork it doesn't even matter. I think there is a super hype on partying and getting shit faced at this age. If there are girls there while you are doing it all the better. Other than that there are a couple meat heads and brainiacs on the outlier page.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the kind of 21 year olds you meet?

Not every single guy is the same. Why not get to know him?

But I will honestly admit at this age, he will be reaching his sexual peaks (fair warning).

Good luck!

[Red_Dragon]

Pfffffff.

[Anonymous]

I'm 20 years old and i think about girls and sex a lot.. like a lot... doesn't necessarily mean I'm a manwhore but it's just what's always on my mind.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm definitely not the kind of guy who has sex with a girl and leaves her. I'm the kind who wants a relationship.

[moistycakes]

Fair enough. Who doesn't think about sex a lot?

[Red_Dragon]

Just being in a relationship don't mean shit.

[Opinion Owner]

Yup definitely.
@reddragon: it does kind of.

[Red_Dragon]

Nope. You pretend for six months while feeding each other money, gifts, time, and traditional dates and move on. Friendships last forever. True friendships.

[Opinion Owner]

You don't pretend if you actually do like each other. True friendship doesn't always last also. I've been friends with this guy for about 6 years now and I'm really starting to hate him

[Red_Dragon]

Well I'm going to leech off someone for a few months while they leech off of me just to see if we "like each other". F that BS.

[Opinion Owner]

What if those two do like each other?

[Red_Dragon]

Do they have to date to like each other?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes they should or else they can fuck other people because that "technically" is not considered cheating.

[Red_Dragon]

Why should they HAVE to date? Why should they HAVE to follow rules when it comes to that?

[Opinion Owner]

I just clearly told you why.

[Opinion Owner]

And because it's part of the norm

[Red_Dragon]

People cheat anyway. It's stupid. F norms. That's what wrong with people now. They do what their told to do like good little Bs.

[Opinion Owner]

Doesn't mean everyone will cheat. Seems like something in your life ain't working out so well and is causing all this bitterness in ya.

You'd be the odd one out (:

[Red_Dragon]

Seems like you just have one GF if even that. Have you asked her out on a few dates now? Hope it works out for you.

I'm not exclusive so I doubt I'd be the odd one out since it's a group. :)

[Opinion Owner]

I don't have a girlfriend genius.

And who's in your group? And what are you talking about a group.

[Opinion Owner]

*why

[Red_Dragon]

People I have sex with and oh.

[Opinion Owner]

I highly doubt that

[Blondiee2014]

I'm 24 next week but the number one thing was sex for me at that age, at least once every hour.

[binny91]

From most important to least important
sex

relationships
Friends and partying
Career
Money
Cars
House

Marriage

Kids

[Red_Dragon]

Mine would be

Family
Friends
Career
sex
marriage
kids
house
cars
money

[Red_Dragon]

*Money above house and cars

[binny91]

Not everyones priorities are like that depends how you were raised

[Iron_Man]

he's a child and wants to have a good time and he thinks about sex 24 7

[Red_Dragon]

I'm not a child and I don't want sex 24/7. Son.

[Iron_Man]

This is not a child>>>>Anime watcher 💻
-👍Pancake destroyer👍

[Red_Dragon]

Nothing wrong with Anime and pancakes are good. I have a sense of humor sometimes...Iron_man. You got a armored suit somewhere?

[Iron_Man]

I have it on as we speak!

[Red_Dragon]

You mean your pajamas? Oh ok.

[Iron_Man]

No My Iron suit! also I am known as Man Of Sreel!

[Iron_Man]

Steel

[Red_Dragon]

LOL!!!

[Anonymous]

He's still a guy. He wants sex. He *probably* isn't looking for a steady relationship.

[Anonymous]

so simple...

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[Red_Dragon]

Link don't work.

[Opinion Owner]

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[COCOCHANEL]

immature and focused on thoughts of sex

[COCOCHANEL]

my boyfriend is 21

[Red_Dragon]

I'm not immature. I don't think of sex all the time.

[Red_Dragon]

Y'all's assumptions are stupid.

[COCOCHANEL]

ok well the 21 year old boys i know and like are like this and i like this about them

[Red_Dragon]

Me and you wouldn't be about to work it out then because I'm not focused on sex. I don't even want sex all the time.

[COCOCHANEL]

you're probably right

[Red_Dragon]

Too wise for my years. XD