Shy guys: is it common for a you to stalk a girl you like even if your too shy to talk?

[Anonymous]

As per the question really. Have you ever done it did you end up dating the girl?

Yes it is

No thats weird

I'm a girl

[meowcatwoman]

Oh boy, I have a shy guy who was like this to me. Ever since our first encounter, he literally fell in love with me. I didn't even flirt with him or anything, he liked me for who I was. I was just been nice to him. He started starring at me from afar, or even if I was in the same group he was standing with. One day I asked him why he kept starring at me and he answered, "Because you are beautiful." This is when I started labelling him as stalker boy and my bestfriend and I always referred to him as the 'stalker'. I confronted him one day telling him before he got a chance to ask me out, "I know you like me but I only see you as a friend. Just letting you know."

Each time I was flirting to my crush like pushing eachother and other fun stuff, my stalker would interfere all the time saying, "Stop fighting you two!" when he knows very well we are not fighting. Sometimes I even told him afterwards, "You know I like that guy, stop interfering all the time, I only like you as a friend, I told you that before." Then he would be like, "Yeah, yeah whatever." and not want to talk about it and try to get away from me.

That Valentine's day, I received a present at my door. He had found out from a friend where I lived and even looked it up on google maps (I opened his laptop to see my address written on google maps!). He even gave me a Christmas present last year, also at my door. He also lied about it not being from him when I asked, which he only admitted to at the end of the day (he gets on my nerves). I guess I try and get along with him and call him a friend, when really I'm only doing it to make peace.

He has started to do what I have done to my past crushes in the past. Touch them and be flirty. Whenever he touches me I'm like, "DON'T touch me." I feel like a robot saying it. The only boy I allow to touch me is my crush. We even flirt in class (my crush and I) and again, my stalker interferes.

So in my experience of a quiet stalker, IT IS WEIRD.

[Asker]

I never thought it was this common lol. The guy who is 'stalking' me just occasionally parks next to me and that's weird enough. Your guy sounds mega scary

[meowcatwoman]

Haha, he's just a boy. Since I know he would never really ever harm me and I trust him, and just know he is obsessed wtih me, i have nothing to worry about. I just hate it when he interferes with me and my guy! and funny thing is, he claims he has gotten over me when my bestfriend tells me that he has told her he still likes me. I am actually very mean to him thesedays, like saying, "Whatever ______," or tell him he's the most annoying person I know, as he is.

[Asker]

This guy is 23 and I am 21

[meowcatwoman]

That is creepy. Has he ever talked to you before?

[Asker]

When I have tried before he managed to mumble hi...my name and went red clammed up completley

[meowcatwoman]

He totally likes you but that is something you don't want obviously lol. Since he is actually an adult, this can become more serious so I would be careful if I was you. Hopefully he is the type of person my stalker is and has no 'bad' intentions...just obsessed with you (that is bad too but not as bad as the alternative.)

[Asker]

I feel for him really...making all this effort for nothing

[meowcatwoman]

Then do waht I did and tell him straight that you only see him as a friend (even if you see him as less than a friend) just make it firm and clear. If he keeps making a move (like my pest of a friend), then it's his own fault!

[Asker]

I would but he's disappeared: see my other question lol

[Asker]

here it is: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1040071-what-does-it-mean-when-a-shy-guy-who-was-kind-of-stalking-you

[Doffymingo]

Stalking is amazing. I had a whole girls friend circle speaking about me in a good way.

What happened was one of her friends who is my friends cousin came to a party. So i told her who i liked and to go tell the girls a guy likes this girl.

So she did, all her friends figured it out but without confirmation. This was all on instagram, the amount of stalk level it took me to find her was amazing.

But yea, we saw our posts, liked them etc. Then it came to the time where we had an event for our religion. There were about 15k in the stadium. However i did some stalking in person, seeing where she was sitting.

It was a 3 day event. I was all shy. My ex was around, and this girl was around. Her friends saw me. I met one of her guy friends after commenting on one of my photos saying he saw me.

So i saw an old friend ttalking to this girls brother. So i decided to come in, we got introduced by my friend. Then, behind me was the girl with her friends. I could see they were talking her up.

The girl walks past me, comes back and calls me by name, asked me if we met before. After our little chat i went off.

I came back at the end of the last day and talked to her. Went real smooth.

Haven't talked much but when i saw that friend i first met she mentions them nicely, seems to be going well, kept the interest.

I see them in about 3 months. If i want to i can start something :). Stalking has never failed me.

Im so lucky though, she's so hot and a great person from what she does.

[Asker]

The guy who is 'stalking' me just occasionally parks next to me and that's weird enough

[Doffymingo]

That is weird actually Haha. Wierder than me.

Do you like him?

[Asker]

Unsure... I thought he was sweet to begin with

[Doffymingo]

Guys follow girls around just to see them. When she's around a guy, the guy has to look. Its like a drug. Don't let it turn you off.

Ask him out somewhere

[Keyspirits]

I chk her out on social medias but not in person. Its nervewrecking and ma body will tumble down if she closes in on meh xD

[Asker]

The guy who is 'stalking' me just occasionally parks next to me and that's weird enough

[Keyspirits]

He wants u to notice him and grab his attention. He wants u to start a convos with him first due to the fact that he's shy, he won't ever be the initiator.

[Anonymous]

I am sure everyone might do a bit of recon like checking out Facebook profile or something to learn maybe a tidbit of that girl... but other than that... wtf are you going to do?

[Asker]

Read the reply below lol. The guy who is 'stalking' me just occasionally parks next to me and that's weird enough

[Opinion Owner]

Have you seen the show "White Collar"?

[Opinion Owner]

I man not sure when they showed it... but the FBI guy and his wife had a interesting/weird way of meeting up. The guy kept taking 'borderline' surveillance photos of her without ever talking to her. Ultimately the wife held up a board asking her out while he was taking pics of her. It all sounds weird... but then the characters are normal as fuck.

I don't know how much of this translates into real life.

[Opinion Owner]

actually... i can see how it is romantic as well.

Like if he was on a job... and he accidentally spotted her in one of his clicks... and kept taking pics... cause he liked her... but was not sure how to approach her.

But yea...

[Asker]

You're thinking about cameras too much lol! go away and hide in a bush D

[Opinion Owner]

wtf?

I have a better idea... actually i'll refrain from being offensive :)

You have a good day.

[Asker]

My apologies i didn't mean to upset you

[hannj88]

I stalked a girl I liked all the time to the point she had to tell someone to tell me to back off

[Asker]

Wow...The guy who is 'stalking' me just occasionally parks next to me and that's weird enough

[Anonymous]

watch a girl through binoculars or video taping one or hide in the bushes to see her been there done that

[Asker]

That seems a bit extreme. The guy who is 'stalking' me just occasionally parks next to me and that's weird enough. Why did you do it did you ever get to date the girl

[Opinion Owner]

girls hate me, and no she didn't date me, girls hate guys like me, im ugly a lot of good guys are hated and unwanted and rejected and viewed as weird etc cause girls have no desire for the opposite gender and girls make it clear, and this site proves it, after reading things here and what I've experienced make me want to die cause im going to be painfully alone and unwanted and unloved and hurt my whole life

[Anonymous]

Yeah, "stalking" is typical of shy guys who are just waiting for the right moment to open up a awkward conversation with the girl they like

[Anonymous]

In a way but not as extreme like what he's doing. We'll probably look at her Facebook and all but nothing more then that. Him parking near you could just be a coincidence.

[Anonymous]

Yeah but nothing that will let her know

[Asker]

Secret stalking? like what?

[Opinion Owner]

Stalk facebook, look her up on the internet, and always trying to listen in on her conversations if I'm near enough. Oh and putting my ear close to her door when I walk past her room