I'm usually straightforward. I learned to be like that. I always got guys that weren't my type liking me and I hated being too nice to tell them I'm not interested by continuing to talk to them. Sometimes talking to a guy can be viewed as leading them on.. so I learned to just rip the bandaid off right away.
In high school I was really shy and I had crushes on guys who were also shy. We could both be looking at each other across the room but none of us would do anything. But i was content with just smiling at him and him smiling back. I knew none of us was going to approach one another.
I am still shy in real life. I'm not someone who talks loud or wants to be in the center of attention. The only difference is I will be direct just to save us both time and pain.
As someone who is quite shy/introverted I don't really hang out with people unless I'm close with them. For example, I would only hang out alone (like just the two of us) with my closest friends.
If someone who I'm not extremely close with but still friends with wants to hang out I would be okay only if it's with other friends.
I know if I ask someone other than my closest friends to hang out it will be pretty awkward which I really don't like since I'm more on the quiet side. So I usually wait for the other person to say something first.
Oh I’m shy and I got the courage to text this girl that I really liked she ended up liking me and god when I knew she liked me my confidence arose so high I could fly and I didn’t really have an issue with shyness I would have problems with asking for what I wanted like holding her hand when we used to hold hands sadly she told me that she couldn’t get in a relationship with me because she had family problems and ex stalking her still and she told me she wasn’t ready and me being an idiot I became her friend because I wanted to win her back she later left me for another guy and I don’t even know if I should say she left me for another guy because we were “friends” but she fully knew how I felt about her but she still went with the other fucker richer and older
I hate when shy girls are awkward and shy. They don't say what they think and I can't read their facial expressions and it makes me feel like they think I'm a freak and then I start getting shy and awkward. Basically they make me want to die.
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My shyness is linked with how much I am attracted to the girl. More attraction I feel more shy I get. Sometimes I am completely start shutting down and almost to a point that my defense mechanism kicks in and I sound like an asshole. But in reality I am really attracted and shy towards that person. It's just my body is collapsing and I don't know to react. It doesn't happen very often.(Only may be three times in total. The girls I am not that attracted to I am not shy with at all. ( I know I am weird)
I'm working on it at the very moment. Im trying to establish a relationship over text first, and I'll try to have more one on ones at parties and stuff after I'm more comfortable. I was nervous to be alone with her, but then I got to know her, and a lot of it went away. Just power through.
I USED TO BE that super shy guy... one day I decided that it wasn't getting me where I wanted, so I decided to pretend to be more outgoing. And it has worked for me ever since. I have found that most women enjoy a certain amount of boldness (just don't be a total jerk). And by the way, most guys love a certain amount of that same boldness in a woman.
Stop dropping hints - be brave and make him a clear invitation to hang out. Either he'll agree, and you'll be happy, or he won't and you're no worse off than you are now. What have you got to lose?
As a shy guy I am ALWAY nervous when around a girl I like it or consider attractive. I would be nervous to hang out too. It would be best if she had a friend and I had my friend.
There's almost always that nervousness, depending on your comfort level, it's always that fear of rejection. When you just hang out, there's always that feeling of wanting to ask out the girl, but then there's always that underlying thought that she doesn't like me back and we end up just treating it like a friendly hangout and nothing more unless you say something that would differ from that frame of mind.
I remember for the first week after I met my girlfriend before I worked up the courage to officially ask her out, when we'd hang out, I'd sit down at the table in a coffee shop or something and she'd be like "why's the table shaking?"
"No reason".
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When I was REALLY shy as a guy in my teens/early 20s, there was a girl I loved, found her extremely beautiful and whenever she asked me to hang out with her, I said I can’t. It’s because as a guy, it’s sexual tension, not screwing up what to say (because guys are usually the ones who have to talk) so for shy guys, talking maybe something difficult, especially with a girl.
I am now. The MeToo movement has drastically altered the ways in which good, intelligent men interact with women. Ironically, I doubt that it has had a similar effect on actual rapists and abusers.
Prior to this, if I was interested in a woman and I knew we had mutual interests, I wouldn't hesitate to invite her out, or stay in, or whatever.
I am abnormally shy. I would avoid it at all cost but then when I am in a group I would be cool and playful. I know it sends mixed signals and can be annoying but I am just too damn nervous to be alone. I would have to be pretty much trapped to face it.
Spending time alone is the best part. That being said, she gets all my focus, so in effect we are alone in a crowd.
I don't know if I'm shy per say. I used to have some issues knowing what to say to women. Obviously being bad at talking to them makes you nervous. I don't get that way anymore.
I can understand anyone being too shy or too afraid of being rejected that you don't actively ask them to hang out or something. This is the case especially if you are not yet in a relationship with them. I would say that hinting wouldn't be enough if both partners in a "relationship" (Could be friends or something else not clearly defined) are shy, cause they might think that the other party is just joking or something. I would say that you should try to take the initiative to ask him to hang out if either he is too shy or too dense.
It’s approaching girls we have issue with we are normally awkward and try to do some things that ends up going wrong to try to impress you we think we need to be The macho Man Randy Savage this is a big obstacle shy guys need to over come. When it comes to actually having conversations with you were not shy but as far as starting the conversation we are
I'm shy a lot... i mean if it was me and her i will be nervous but little bit. But what im nervous from is the possibility that she doesn't like me? or she does have boyfriend? Or her parents are so strict which can ruin the relationship? I hope you understand me i really want to get through it.
I'm too nervous to even talk to talk to her, I usually look away from her and don't talk when she around.
Nervous while actually on a date with her? Yeah. A hang out alone with a girl I consider a date. And I'll only take it and go if I'm sure there's a mutual attraction. And boy am I poor at picking up subtle signals. I need something like physical touch and nice genuine smile at me then I'll know otherwise.
Absolutely. Im sorry. Sucks don't it. It takes me so long to be able to fully open up I feel they'll get bored with me boyfriend then
Me and my big brain can't handle girls we like. If we are alone, my brain refuse to let me bring something out in a conversation thus, it makes a bit awkward.
I'm usually to shy to hand out with any women, let alone one I like.
I avoid being alone or talking with a woman unless it's necessary like going to a bank or store to run errands due to my anxiety and social awkwardness-even if I were attracted to her due to the risk of being labeled a 'creep' due to my inexperience with the opposite sex.
Besides, I firmly believe no sane woman could ever genuinely like me-so I don't even bother.
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