I didn't do the poll cause it over complicates things.
In short, everyone wants someone confident who's dealt with their own shit and is capable of taking care of themselves. After all, if you can't take care of yourself, what you gonna do with someone else?
Here's the problem, women marry up, men marry down. Women look for the highest value man they can get, that isn't so much higher above them that they don't see a chance except for a quick pump and dump. Men look for the highest value women they can get, that is still beneath them.
What you've done is developed the same problem successful PUAs get, you've made yourself too high value to the point you've made yourself out of reach for many of the opposite sex. In short, look for some guys that are slightly more confident than you are and you'll do find.
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Oh this one is easy: You are shy so they think you don't include yourself in the group because you are better than them.
Now I know you don't think this but perception vs. reality is another thing. See it from their angle: confident hot girl that never talks to them. Smile at them, include yourself in conversations and, this is the critical part, be SUPPORTIVE of people. "I think you can do it!" goes a long way when it comes from a stranger. It's empowering! Be the person that empowers others!
I think it depends. Some guys are insecure & dig the confidence some are insecure & crave the same in a partner. Some men are confident & don’t want to reassure a woman a lot others see it as a fault
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I would rather have a partner who is realistic about their appearance.
Ironic narcissism and self-deprecation is fine, legitimate insecurities and issues with self-image are much less desirable.
Someone who is so insecure that they would take unintentional remarks to heart is a little too much, likewise, someone who constantly boasts about how beautiful they are to the point where it becomes obvious that they are compensating, that's also a little too much.
So- "Confident, I don't want to deal with the insecurities "Insecure women have shorter tempers, are more likely to cheat, are more demanding, and just overall bad to be around.
Guys dont really care about insecurity the way women do.
I would prefer someone with a balanced, realistic outlook.
Confidence is good - arrogance is bad.
That's not a problem I can't fix
Yes very true.
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