Do guys have an uncontrollable and intense attraction towards certain women?

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Ok this is going to sound conceited, i'm not honestly. I have no other way to put it, but my guy friend constantly looks at my body, looks at me up and down, it's all the time. He stares at my boobs a lot too.

He doesn't care either when I catch him. He keeps doing it. When he was drunk one time he kept touching my ass and I told him off about it, and he hasn't done it since, but it's the point that he seems to have this uncontrollable attraction towards me. The things he does, it almost seems like "I need to have her" lol. This sounds really conceited but even my friends, said "Wow he is so attracted to you, it's seems intense" and I agree. So what makes guys act this way? Do guys have that uncontrollable attraction towards a female? If so why? Lol. Thank you!

[man32]

The question itself is rhetorical to be honest. No wonder he is so attracted to u... its not a surprise and u shud not be. To answer to ur question is YES. A guy will be attracted to a specific woman irrevocably and he cnat take his eyes of her. But, if he truly loves her. He won't touch without her intent or permission. In this case u mentioned is unhealthy. Its better u dont encourage his advances. So he won't take advantage. Also, its upto U whether u like him or like what he is doing. Guys can be so attracted and she becomes automatic in his eye radar. He won't see anyone in the room when she is there... i have been in that position. But didn't touched. Its wrong

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Awwww you're so sweet! :) Thank you for the compliment! Yeah I see what you mean and it makes sense. Yeah I am not really friends with him so I am definitely not going to be hanging out with him or whatever lol. Thank you so much for your input friend! :)

[man32]

Very well.. am happy i helped u and made sense

[mujiDESTROYER]

yes it happens if someone is as beautiful as u ha ha
but yes it happens to me also. i don't know is it love or infatuation but if i see a girl with big eyes, pretty face, good figure n last n the most important beautiful sexy lips i fall for her. i become crazy n i feel like she is made for me n i do things that girls call CRAZY. i can't control my emotions. May be that's a problem n cause troubles as i have got into a lot. but to be honest i like doing crazy things or a girl that i get attacted to.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Ohhhh lol. Aww thank you! You are so sweet! :) I see what you mean! That is pretty interesting! I am starting to get this now lol. Thank you! :)

[Kris85]

I don't know but I have had it happen to me as well from a guy friend and he was even in a relationship too, he would always look into my eyes when he talked to me, really intense as he was always looking at my body. First thing he would look at when I would come in the room or say hi is my chest, and then my hips and stuff. Guys think they are so subtle about it but they are not. I know when a guy glances and checks me out and my friend was so obvious everytime.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Well if you were in front of me, I would do the same doll ;)

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Hahahaha! Ok kidding aside, yeah that is pretty much what this guy does to me. They think they are sly, but they're not haha, cause it is so noticeable, yeah guys are a little dumb about that haha. Thank you for commenting! :)

[Kris85]

Haha no problem and thank you for the compliment!!!

[Anonymous]

Yes. Sometimes its magnetic and they dont even realize it.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Ooops, sorry girl I missed your comment! Yes that could be it! You're right! :) Thank you for commenting! :)

[Opinion Owner]

Hey dont worry :)

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Haha I always worry! lol. Thanks! :)

[HandsomeRaj]

1. It depends on how intense sort of a person that guy is
2. Yes I do have such an intense attraction to certain women
3. But I don't ogle at them and make them feel uncomfortable leave alone touch them inappropriately and disrespect them
4. Even if I can't get them out of my head, I am poised and in control in their presence, THAT unless, I am in any sort of physical & sexual relationship with her
5. Touching her sexually or ogling at her unabashedly when she's just an acquaintance or friend or even a stranger is absolutely disrespecting her and displays she's is nothing to me but an object of my desire for me to use as I please and similar such disparaging things.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Right! You are so right! Thanks for commenting! :)

[HandsomeRaj]

The pleasure was, is and always will be wholly mine young lady :) :)

[BrianG123]

Uncontrollable is the wrong word. We can control it, but in certain times, we don't want to. I think the problem is that guys, in general, have trouble telling between playing hard to get and not interested. And if we think we have a chance, we're going to keep taking chances (and some guys will keep trying even if they know they don't have a chance).

If he's harassing you, be clear that nothing is going to happen. Otherwise, he'll get over it eventually on his own.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah I see what you mean. I get it now, haha. Thank you! :)

[Shaggy5150]

Attraction, yes. Usually it goes to the extent he has by what he sees as you being interested. I am not saying you are, or that you are encouraging him, but he thinks you are, especially when he has been drinking. Inhibitions go down when inebriated. Just tell him to stop. Get away from him when he is drinking. Tell him when he is sober to knock it off or you two are done.
He is attracted and is looking for some way in.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Haha, yeah I see what you mean! Yeah I told him to knock it off and he hasn't done that since, but even when I catch him "checking me out" he doesn't care or something? He keeps doing it, lol. But yeah I can see he is looking for "some way in" Haha. Thank you so much for sharing your input! :)

[Shaggy5150]

You are welcome. As long as you don't encourage him, he will eventually move his attention to someone that is interested in him, not just him on the prowl. Just expect him to keep checking you out. Ignoring him is the key. Good luck.

[Phoenix98]

No, no matter how attracted I am to someone I keep myself in check. Being attracted to someone is no exuse to drop basic manners and etiquette and act like a jerk.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah I agree. He is a douche haha. Thank you! :)

[CypherV]

I have an intense attraction to certain women you are right, but it's never 'uncontrollable', I am not a Jack Russell.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Bahahaha! I see. Lol, nice answer! :)

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Yes i might be attracted to girl but I'm not going touch her
it's not good for men who have trouble controlling their actions

[BrunetteBabe1005]

True I agree! I just don't understand guys that have uncontrollable urges, lol.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Yep i wish i had the answer :) xD :p

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Hahaahahaha! You do have the answer!

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

I like that one hahaha you got me lol ;) xD :p <3

[martyfellow]

I'm an incorrigible ass slapper, so I sympathize with the guy. Still, I try to use the wrist and really connect with the slap.. that's good manners!

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Bahahaha! Right on, my dude! :)

[martyfellow]

Nice to talk to a real GIRL for a change!

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Sure! Nice to talk to a REAL girl the other day, and that was your momma ;)

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Bahahahahahaha! ;)

[martyfellow]

I was being complimentary, you know!

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I know! I'm sorry! I was just kidding around! That's my sense of humor. Thank you for the compliment! :)

[martyfellow]

LOL. Better than being hit with a sauce pan!

[Anonymous]

Yes lol for my whole first year of college. I turned down so many women just cause they weren't her and I chased thin air cause now she's dating someone else. Guys get obsessed trust me I do at least.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Awww :( I feel bad though! Yeah I see what you mean. So are you basically saying guys only have these uncontrollable urges cause they are obsessed wit the girl or deeply infatuated? lol.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know I was infatuated by her she was perfect in my eyes for some reason. I would have done anything for her but oh well I don't know it just happen. I could just be a loser too lol.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Awww no! :) You sound really sweet! She missed out! :) I see what you're saying though, thank you for commenting! :)

[Opinion Owner]

No problem I never touched though that's too far. I just showed my soft side and told her my feelings. Then I told her I can't stop thinking about her and I know you don't feel the same way but its best you know my feelings if you want to talk to me again. An hour later she told me she was in a relationship and didn't want to tell me. What this guy is doing is disgusting and honestly disrespectful he needs to back off.

[Opinion Owner]

Considering I can't get a gf I sort of qualify as a loser so there is no need to sugarcoat things lol.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Awwwww I'm sorry about that! :( and no I'm not sugarcoating, you're not a loser! And fuck that girl she did miss out! And you're right he needs to be more respectful haha. But thank you for commenting! :)

[Opinion Owner]

May I ask if you have him any hope cause that can keep him coming back. After you told him off you may have given him a sign that you didn't even notice. That's the only reason I tried again in my situation cause she kept staring at me, always calling me by my name and smiling at me to get my attention, and locking eyes with me so maybe you stare at him cause cause you know he's looking at you or act very friendly towards him.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I probably do unintentionally cause I am friendly and bubbly towards everyone. A lot of guys have mistaken my kindness for flirting, so that very well could be it. Cause I hear that a lot lol.

[Opinion Owner]

I bet that's why he keeps going after you I have done the same thing minus the touching and staring.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah :( that probably is it. I feel bad though cause that seems to always happen with me, but thank you for commenting!

[ImNotNormal]

I do but I don't do the things he does to you

She never catches me staring at her haha

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Pretty sly my friend! Don't let her catch ya! :) Haha.

[BertMacklinFBI]

yes they do. its all preference and how that preference gets them hot instantly.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah I guess lol. I never had that type of attraction towards a guy. I can say a guy is hot, but I don't have these uncontrollable urges lol. Like I am not dying to be with him and thinking "Man I need him!" lol. So I just don't get it, but thank you for commenting! :)

[BertMacklinFBI]

haha well I can give you one example. when I see girls in those tight yoga pants but its not just the pants, they also do pilates and they squat. DAAAAMN it makes me go ugh! but I keep myself tame:)

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Lmao! I have the same reaction when I see chicks in yoga pants ;)

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Bahahahaha! ;)

[Chris011]

Yes. If she has a nice body and is cute then a guy most definitely will develop a strong attraction towards her. It's all purely lust.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah, I see! I never had that sort of an attraction towards a guy where I am like "I NEED HIM!" lol. I guess I just don't get guys that can't tame themselves and their attraction is so intense and strong, haha. But thank you for commenting! :)

[Chris011]

Lol, you're welcome.

[genericname85]

i´d call it an uncontrollable attraction, if i have a crush on some girl but no specific type

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Ooohhh I see! So guys that have these intense attractions are more than likely just crushing on the girl? lol. Thanks for commenting! :)

[genericname85]

i can´t speak for all guys but if she is just "hot" or has a sexy body, i can pretty much control it

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Hmm that is interesting, lol. Ok cool, thank you for commenting! :)

[genericname85]

you´re welcome

[cavmanier]

I think he's just trying to sleep with you :)

[BrunetteBabe1005]

You think? :P Haha

[cavmanier]

Yeah I would think he can control it. He doesn't want to though and thinks he may have a chance :)

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah he's in for a rude awakening my friend... hahaha.

[cavmanier]

Are you not attracted?

[BrunetteBabe1005]

No I am, it's just he's too douchey, lol. His sexual urges kinda scare me in a way, almost seems rapist like, haha. I don't know, lol.

[cavmanier]

I see. So if he would just be more subtle about it he would have a chance :/ Oh well

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Just more respectful and not as creepy would suffice! lol!