Why is he ignoring me now on social media?

[Anonymous]

My guy friend started ignoring me on social media, especially on facebook. We used to be very involved with each other’s facebook, liking and commenting a lot on each other’s posts. We had a rough phase in our relationship and we stopped talking for a while but we made up and are talking again. He has stopped communicating on Facebook all together. I post stuff he would normally like or comment on but he ignores me. He comments and likes everyone else’s stuff on Facebook except mine. He would be online and would get involved in conversations with everyone else but when I comment or say something, he just doesn’t reply or he would like other people’s comments and not mine. It’s confusing because he is chilled when I see him and we talk like nothing is wrong. We hang out from time to time and nothing seems weird. Why do you think he ignores me on social media but is cool in person?

[Anonymous]

Well, as a woman in your situation I understand the frustration you must be feeling. My advice is to move on. Fine, ask him if he is blocking you. Be straightforward with this because it is bothering you. And if you can't ask him because it may be out of place to just go up to someone and ask them "are you blocking me? why do you like everyone else but not me?" all the juicy stuff in life, then you grab the bull by the horns and MOVE ON. Stop interacting in the social media circle that you both interact.

I know that it sounds ridiculous. Why are we analyzing our relationships through social media? My question is "Why not?". It means something if someone blocks you, it means something if someone interacts with most people but not you, it means something because so much of that translates into our daily lives.

Don't interact with the group anymore or in things you know he likes. Ignore him as much as he is ignoring you. That doesn't mean that he'll be back, but it means that you are trimming the fat.

If need be, take a social media break of 30-100 days. Delete FB from your phone and go on your daily life without it.

When this guy gets to me, I disappear from social media. I have blocked him, unblocked him, unfollowed him, even made a new account that was private... somehow he finds me and follows me. But his actions put me through hell.

Some people love knowing that they have some power over other people and they just want to feel that power. It does not mean that they like you or care about you.

Don't fall for mind games and move on. Someone who really cared about you, wouldn't ignore you, NOT EVEN ON SOCIAL MEDIA.

[Hollyjjm]

Guy I dated went from reacting to almost all my posts, to ignoring most of my posts about a month before I broke up with him (we were normal and talking all the time still in normal life).
Obviously after we broke up, I wouldn’t expect him to react, but we’re talking again and he’s still ignoring my posts.
It wouldn’t bother me if he didn’t react to almost everything that our mutual friends post.

It really hurts my feelings. Should I ask him why? How should I go about asking?


Thank you!!

[DirtySouthCornbread]

I understand your concern because you're wondering if he's really cool with you and you also miss the interaction you used to have. When you hit that rough phase he probably filtered you out. If he had unfriended you, you would have noticed and been offended, which was something he didn't want to do during your rough phase. He filtered you out this way he could cool off and you wouldn't always be on his mind.

As you've noticed y'all are cool again because you've been talking and hanging out. I'm sure he forgot to unfilter you since your rough phase and that's why he hasn't interacted with you on FB. Next time you see him or talk to him ask him "Hey, did you see the article I posted about such and such on Facebook?" He probably won't say he filtered you out, but he's likely to remember to unfilter you :)

It's all good, he's not ignoring you, he's just filtered you out of his news feed and forgot to undo the filter.
I know it's easier said than done but try not to overthink it, you guys still hang out and talk and really that's what matters most.
I'd rather have friends who talk with me in person and hang out vs. friends who just interact with me on Facebook.

[Vish123]

Well something's going on, may be a girl in his life. If you are expecting this r'ship to go further my advice no chance for you, better start finding someone else. The sooner the better.

[ricookc]

Facebook has nothing to do with your relationship, our society has messed up. My ex wouldn't even be my friend on Facebook and it drove me nuts. Whats really important is how you guys interact together. Forget about facebook, its not important.