Fuck buddy is getting clingy?

[Anonymous]

So I've been meeting up with this guy I met on tinder to have sex with. (I know I know I'm a slut) we know a lot of the same people though and he's the only guy apart from my ex I've ever had sex with. I want to keep it only about sex tbh as he is getting over a recent break up so I'm just rebound for him which I'm ok with. Anyways , yesterday he asked what was my favourite thing about him; I thought it was a weird question and said I don't know, your dick? Or ass. Then he got kinda offended that I didn't say something about his personality. Do u think I should be worried that he might want something more or am I just being paranoid?

[med11]

Should you be "worried"? No, he seems like a "man" with minimal levels of self confidence. Rule of thumb you should remember: Confident men don't feel the need to ask things like that (I could go into this but it's not important for this current Q/A).

Like the majority of questions here which are generically stated with little to no viable information given to consider the issue, yet expecting a response, it is difficult to discern his feelings when all you provided is that one issue.

Logically speaking with said minimal information, it could easily be inferred he is becoming attached because his comment (at its very core) is asking for your opinion of him and people who care about what other's think (especially after fucking them) tend to be attached already and view the persons opinion as important. So, if we look at it that way, yes, he is very likely attached.

Further speaking in terms of logic, you met this "man" on an online dating application and those are very often a place where the majority of both men & women are seeking love or companionship despite the ridiculous self importance statement that most place in their "about" section. Point being, you met a guy on the internet who you realized just had a breakup, you fucked him, and now you are worried about him becoming attached? Please tell me you understand my point on this...

You should be extremely upfront (should have already) and simply say "I want nothing else from this but a sexual relationship" if that is your goal. In doing that you will clear the air so he will know where he stands as he doesn't deserve a person giving him false hope after coming out of a relationship. I am not saying you are doing that (giving him false hope) but you might be by default if you haven't bluntly stated what you want out of the "relationship".

[AceOtana1]

Firstly, you're not a slut. You're a young lady who's very sexually active and who's in the same position I'm in. Sex only, and there's nothing wrong with that. And to the question, if you only want sex from this guy, but he wants more then you've got to either sit him down and tell him that you only want the sex, not a relationship. If he can't accept this, then perhaps you may need to find a new sex partner.

[Anonymous]

Okay well FBuddies are human beings too to begin with. I know that when I'm with mine I like to talk about everything like world events and just basically stuff going on with my day. I want to know that I'm not a tool to be objectified. I know that sounds contradicting cause it's someone your just having sex with. But when you tell someone that the only thing you like about them is their penis it tells them that you don't even see a person but a dildo basically. Same thing if he said that the best thing he liked about you is that you open your legs when you see.. what a nice hoe. You would be offended guaranteed.

[Asker]

True :) hadn't thought about it from that perspective :) thank u!

[Anonymous]

Maybe he needs a friend right now as well as a sexual partner. I wouldn't be too too worried. I was in the same sitch with a coworker & I had to make it brutally clear that I wasn't monogamous & I wanted to FUCK nothing else. He said he was fine with that but it ended up dissolving because in the end he wanted me, not just my asshole. I just wanted my clit sprung & good convo. We can't force anything out of each other, just see how it goes but don't be surprised if Y'all eventually part ways.

[thesmoker]

My fuck buddy asked me this... its a male ego thing the reason your having sex is to fill a void even if some is indeed lame pieces you need to have good communication with him if you expect him to cater to a dirty fantasy you kinda need to be open with each other

[Nuns_in_Heat]

Just warm up that pimp hand and put him right back in his place!

[decemberxblue]

Sounds like catching feelings to me. Give it the cut