Back in the fall I met a guy who lives out of town but comes in every few weeks for work. He asked me to grab drinks so we did and we kissed after. From the time we left he texted me a ton. He made it clear he wasn’t looking for a relationship (he doesn’t live here after all) but that he wanted a fling. He initiated contact with me every day for a week plus and texted me throughout the day. He sent me very explicit texts and racy photos and would ask for them in return. It was honestly a ton of fun. He was definitely the one doing the chasing. Then right before he was supposed to come in he called and said as much as he wanted to, he couldn’t hook up because he started seeing someone. In the few months since we each contacted each other once about a mutual friend. It was basic chitchat, not much conversation. A couple of weeks ago he texted me about something random. We went back and forth for a few hours, and when I quit Replying he texted again. I was confused about what he wanted. That night I saw him on a dating app. Realizing he was single I sent Him a screenshot of a pic and said how hot he looked. He only said “ah boy” and nothing else. The next day I said Screw it and texted him saying if he was single I’d love to hook up while he was in town. He said “I wish But I don’t Have time for that today” (he was going home that day). So then I said If he was still interested in hooking up sometime to let me know. He replied “obviously lol we’ll figure it out next time.” His response did not seem too enthusiastic so I’m confused what to make of it. Would he have said that if he knew he didn’t want to hook up though? That was 8 days ago, he hasn’t said anything since. Why contact me when he was in town if he didn’t want to do anything? I feel like I can’t Text him again without looking desperate but ugh I don’t Want to let this one go without a hookup!
Yo this dude is giving me mixed signals for sure. On the one hand, when you first hooked up he was definitely into it and chased you hard, sexting a ton and stuff. But then he backs off once he's talking to someone else.
And now he's hitting you up again but it doesn't seem super enthusiastic about actually meeting up. Kinda seems like he might just be bored and messaging for attention, not actually trying to follow through. Like saying "we'll figure it out" is such a non-answer.
I get why you'd want to try giving it another shot since the sexual chemistry seems to be there. But my advice would be don't double text him or chase him down - let him come to you for once if he's really interested. Otherwise you risk coming across desperate like you said.
Maybe one more low-key message like "let me know next time you're around and down" just to leave the ball in his court. Then I'd say keep your options open and consider moving on. No point wasting your time if he's not gonna step up and make it happen for real. Just my two cents!
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He wanted to fuck you but he probably was seeing someone. You should be direct and just tell him you want him to fuck you and hope that’s not the case
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Sounds to me like he lost interest if playing your fiddle in the middle.
He has another hookup he prefers or has a woman that keeps him on a short leash.
doesn't seem like he is down
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