What makes a guy too scared to make a move on a woman?

[HappyWoman34]

Be honest. Have you ever liked a girl but worried about what your mates; and their judgment of you, if you became a couple?

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This is a discussion, not intended as a personal attack. Any answers are welcome.

[OddBeMe]

No experience with women.

I keep advising dudes to just try friendship with the damn bitches and learn how to talk to them without pissing your pants.

[HappyWoman34]

Lol you made me laugh. That’s funny.

[OddBeMe]

Yeah I keeps my convo lite. Wife doesn’t mind being called a bitch. She does hate the word c*nt. So don’t go there.

[HappyWoman34]

Well said

[handsomelad70]

Mostly fear of rejection, as we lads' fragile egos become easily bruised if a girl tells us we aren't her dream boy.

[Bricealan]

Interesting question for several reasons: When I was 35, my good friend (then again, my NOT good friend at times) went on vacation with his dad, and his pretty girlfriend moved into and watched his apartment, a few doors from mine.

She called me to come up and visit? When I got there she asked: "Why have you never made a pass at me"? I was thunderstruck, and just replied that I did not want to get 'turned down' and then 'have you tell Danny"!

Had she not been 'attached, she made it clear that she was available'

I think Fear of rejection is the main reason.

[Abhishek4444]

I told the girl whom I loved as she was my first and last love of my life but she rejected me in a cruel way by using abusive words which I can't forget I wish I was in hell forever instead of being a living being as life is very cruel for all living beings

[HappyWoman34]

How upsetting. What did she say?

[Abhishek4444]

she said I am ugly how can I be ugly if all neighbours whom I know call me and my younger brother handsome. When brother was a baby he got an offer from Johnson's as he was white and cute too. I don't know why girls don't like good guys who just want their affection and love.

[Unit1]

• RAPE! HELP
• EWWW
• never with you (in a million years/if you were the last man on earth)
• EWWW GROSS
• You're stingy/too broke
• EWWW!

https://www.youtube.com/embed/3-dxu_iG9-8https://www.youtube.com/embed/8j8OS0qszi8

[HawkPerception]

I love Billie Rae Brandt

[TommyMountainFigure]

Even at school, when it got me beaten up and bullied I never cared what other people would say.. If I liked a girl, nobody else's view mattered to me except hers. Nothing has changed (Morality and legality laws withstanding of course)

[A_Nihilist]

The way that I look and the way that I live deters me from finding a partner.

For context, I am a man who is unemployed and even if I was, am a homebody. I don't care for the night life, travel or fancy days out. It's a waste of money in my opinion. As for how I look, I've got long hair. It's not for a lot of women.

I'm not being pessimist about approaching women I'm just being realistic based on previous experience.

If something goes well cool, but I'm not going out of my way for it.

[HawkPerception]

Time, place, usually thinking they're so attractive that they probably get guys with twice I have to offer or more asking to date them 24/7, fear of being labelled a creep. Women handle rejecting someone a LOT differently than men as well.

https://youtu.be/DmP1ier3R30?si=XvuFv2fkaUxpyQA0

[Jacobbbb]

Feelings of inadequacy can play a big part in that. A lot of guys would rather not try than face rejection. It's a confidence related thing.

[exitseven]

It was when I was in high school. I was insecure anyway and figured if I asked a girl to go out with me she would turn me down and it would get around the whole school and everyone would make fun of me.

[mayurr]

Scared only for one reason.
Women can easily misuse laws against men & almost all will support her.
Whole system is against men.

[mayurr]

Apart from this there is another reason: Why try hard when you know the end results?

[HappyWoman34]

How can you know the end results if you don’t try? Not all women are awful.

[mayurr]

Tried thrice. Rejected.

[mayurr]

Also our life is very short to experience everything. Take Other's experience help.

[mayurr]

Left this path when i knew what are their requirements or choice.

[HappyWoman34]

Fair enough. Not all women are evil or manipulators though.

[mayurr]

But most of them are.

[Awesomesauce2005]

I have tried 12 times and failed every single tim

[HappyWoman34]

I don’t agree. No one in my group of friends are horrible. That said, I’ve noticed that a lot of people in our generation, guys and girls, are out for themselves.

[Awesomesauce2005]

Also, you are 35

[HappyWoman34]

@Awesomesauce2005 true, people get more sensible at my age, but they can still be just as much out for themselves as anyone else. That said, there are as many good people as there are bad people in the world.

[mayurr]

I don't know. I just stopped talking to women around me 8 years ago. Except any work which can't be avoided. Now sometimes I just talk to women from another country only in the comment section.

[ProbablyClueless]

I've never cared about their opinions, but I have worried about them trying/otherwise doing something to sabotage the relationship.

IN general, the only thing that stops me from pursuing a woman I'm attracted to is if there's some external factor that makes a relationship with her a really bad idea.

[SotiCoto]

Being accused of sexual harassment or worse. Can be life-destroying. If a guy says the wrong thing to the wrong lady... he can kiss any present or future employment or social prospects goodbye.

[Anonymous]

For me, I just figure I’m pretty average looking, so there’s really no point. I really have no idea what my league is, I assume any girl I’m interested in has better options, and a lot of em, even if they are somewhat average.

[Anonymous]

MeToo statutes, life in prison or facing a firing squad, no thanks

[HappyWoman34]

You don’t think that’s an overreaction? Not all women are horrible.

[Opinion Owner]

It's not the women but it's the liberal elite who sign the warrants

[indigenousone]

Yes, I was worried about what my friends at the time would think. She was a big girl but pretty in the face.

[HappyWoman34]

What happened in the end?

[indigenousone]

I listened to my friends lol smh. She married now and I missed an opportunity because she later told me she thought I was cute and I should of asked her out

[HappyWoman34]

That’s a shame.

[indigenousone]

yeah it was but it taught me a lesson to take charge of a opportunity

[Hellraiser1984]

Bad experiences and negative comments about themselves from other women. Body image issues, lower income, hobbies, don't own a multi million dollar car, music tastes,

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[TonyMetal___86]

Back in my teenage years, i was very shy but now i just don't make moves because i'm not interested anymore, my time to wait for someone to make a move on me...

[Booklover_90]

Fear of rejection and the fear that the woman will accuse him of sexual harassment.

[LiamJHayden]

Nope. If I am interested I approach. My friends are happy if I am.

[OtterMan68]

He's shy.

He thinks she's out of his league.

He finds her more attractive than his friends, and he's a wuss who cares more about what his friends think and will say than following his heart.

[DrPepper12]

Because he's under 30 for $400 Alex?

[HappyWoman34]

A bit too much information. But thanks for your answer.

[Anonymous]

The threat that making any kind of move, hell even talking to her can land him a prison sentence or worse.

[butterfly_nake87]

I have so many insecurities.

[HappyWoman34]

I’ve never actually understood this from a guy’s perspective. What kinds of insecurities?

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

Some act rude.

[itsclearlynicholas]

So many factors I've many of them myself 🤣😆

[sheikalana]

Insecrity.

[JHAYES317]

Getting rejected for being too short

[jahaims]

Lack of confidence

[robocop666]

being a chicken

[DreamLife7]

🤣🤣 the realest response

[CriticalCatDad]

False accusations

[uwotm8e]

Social consequences