I caught feelings for my fuck buddy?

[trashychick]

i'm 20 and he's 19. met him on tinder over a month ago, we both agreed on just casual sex. i slowly started to fall for him and i can't get him off my mind, i even had a dream about him last night. he doesn't text or see me as much as we use to which drives me crazy (he's been busy with work) so we just see each other probably once a week. i usually don't fall for someone like this, i usually just keep it friends with benefits easily but i don't really know him too well and i feel like i'm falling in love

i'm not going to stop seeing him so don't suggest that, i can't tell him how i feel either, i don't know how i can just get over this? help?

[mmmbdison]

So you're not going to end a relationship or tell him how you feel. What do you want us to do about this? You're not going to get anywhere if you can't at least speak your mind.

Here's my notion: Everyone's relationship is the same and you're the only one who knows it better than us. Whatever you do, maybe he'll like you back, maybe he'll stop seeing you, or maybe you'll feel worse about yourself because he'll never see you that way.

Regardless, don't ever think you can change someone into liking you. I've been there. It isn't impossible for him to catch feelings for you. But if he doesn't now and he's saying he won't, just take him for his word and be pleasantly surprised later if he doesn't end up liking you. But don't sit and wait. PEOPLE DON'T CHANGE TO BE TOGETHER. Everyone changes, but it's not for another person. And if it is, it never lasts. Because that's not substainable.

But I mean, you won't tell him how you feel so you're really never going to get to this point. You're just gonna have to sit and let the feelings and disappointment eat you from the inside out while he's chillin'.

P. S.: How do you fall in love with someone who doesn't talk or see you as much?

[trashychick]

the reason why i don't want to tell him of how i feel because i kind of told him before, he asked me how his dick game was and i said "good enough to catch feelings" and he said "you got feelings?" i said "bitch i might" and the convo kind of ended there like it never happened. and to answer your question i don't know things just happen for a reason i guess. or it could've been sex is too good with us

[Anonymous]

You know, the feelings are what makes it all worth it in my book. I love having feelings for my lovers, and ask that they have feelings for me because it makes the sex so much more awesome.

I just don't think having feelings means the relationship has to get all deep and serious, or we have to stop seeing other people, or move forward toward marriage and kids and a white picket fence.

I like fucking whoever I please, and my life where I have total freedom. But you know, it also feels really great if my people are people that make me genuinely happy and we like each other a whole lot. I love freely. It's the falling part I don't usually do.

[CeleneDrake]

So the guy in dating no
was my bestfriends with benefits
First time I saw him I thought he was so fucken hot and totally outve my league so this is how it happened
it was a one night stand, and he started liking me
We spent time together as bestfriends so when I got my period we'd just hang out
And then when I went out with other guys he'd get overly jealous and protective
So now it came to the point I started dating him Cus I thought he was a really sweet caring guy
Now he's inlove with me
He thinks he's the one who got us together but secretly I made him fall for me Cus it was my plan

[CeleneDrake]

He likes you if he spends time with you nights over without sex

[EpicDweeb]

Let me put it to you simply, it's not something you're simply gonna get over. Having sex with a person creates emotional bonds with said person. It's like gluing to objects together. If you try to pull them apart after that it will break or damage one or both of them. I can't help you in terms of stopping your feelings, but if you want to develop your relationship I might be able to help there.

You don't have to tell him how you feel, but you can start being better friends with him. You can get to the point where you're actual friends and not simply friends with benefits. Just see if he wants to hang out more often as friends. Get to know him better and you can work at developing the relationship, starting with friendship. Like I said before, by having sex, you create an emotional bond with the person. In all likelihood he may have feelings for you he's not going to admit to with the way things are at the moment.

[trashychick]

i asked him once about hanging out and he said there's no time... only time we hang out is to have sex and that's all it is :/

[EpicDweeb]

:/ I'm sorry to hear that. If you can make something work, in terms of hanging out of friends, that's really my best advice. I don't know what else to tell you :( Sorry I couldn't be more helpful.

[finnesse]

You could continue the casual sex on the stipulation he spends time with you. Normally, my gender will respond on demand. This. is why you could get by with showing up at his workplace or lawn. The chief irony of the double standard is that society may accept male promiscuity more but I'm 85 percent of the world (AKA outside the Middle East) your gender can legally push the envelope much further. If you still factor in non-legal matters, he has (pardon the redundancy) shown extant interest in you.

[trashychick]

English please

[finnesse]

High English if you lol LOL.

[finnesse]

Meant to say high English if you like LOL.

[Eddieniceboy]

Don't worry about it... your gonna eventually lose the feeling. Something is gonna turn you off about him and it could small or big. Your young and some other boy toy will come around that's gonna catch your eye. Then like you said... you will lose feelings then he will start gaining feelings again and maybe vise versa.. lol it's how this buddy thing works.. trust me I know 😜

[hellacray]

You want to keep seeing him, but you also don't want to be in love with him. Just say that out loud and see if it makes sense to you.

However I have a solution that would satisfy your requirements. Become a porn star and eventually you'll be overwhelmed with sex that you'll probably forget about him or possibly fall for someone else.

[trashychick]

that is ridiculous i don't understand why people like you even bother to comment

[hellacray]

The solution is a bit unorthodox, but didn't it meet your requirements? The simple solution and the one that probably makes the most sense is to just stop seeing him.

However since you threw that out the window I think the next step is to become a porn star. You went on tinder seeking pleasure so why not make it a profession?

[trashychick]

not everyone that goes on tinder looks for just sex. that makes no sense saying that everyone that uses tinder should become a pornstar. really irreverent

[hellacray]

I find that highly untrue, but that's my opinion. However for your situation you went on tinder and found a casual sex partner did you not?

I'm just going with the situation you have presented.

[trashychick]

nah i had guys on there say they are looking for a relationship. everyone looks for different things. me personally, i made one out of boredom i didn't think i was going to even meet anyone on it but there was something about this guy i just wanted to meet and we just agreed to keep doing what we're doing

[hellacray]

Ok I'm not sure you know this, but men can lie. We can say what women want to hear. However I'm not that kinda guy, you can probably tell by my previous response.

At this point I'd just say marry the guy geez if you like him so much.

[trashychick]

umm and i hope you know that all guys are different, i've had guys on there just wanting a relationship or a companion. and you don't marry someone cuz you like someone wth you sound like you have had no experience with women. everything you are saying makes no sense...

[hellacray]

It's definitely possible, but very unlikely. There's a reason why there's parodies of tinder where guys swipe right to everything.

Ok you don't marry someone because you like them. Alright then why would you marry someone?

You're the one with stipulations that makes no sense. I refer you to my first response.

[trashychick]

wtf.. i like my dog but i'm not going to marry my dog. why tf would i wanna marry my fuck buddy? we're 19 and 20 we're in school we known each other for like a month. and i wouldn't marry anyone i don't believe in marriage. you're the one that makes no sense seriously wtf is that

[hellacray]

Well I'm not sure what kind of response you're looking for, but that's my view on the situation.
You don't believe in marriage, you don't want to leave him, and you want to stop falling in love with him.

You don't want to do all these things so I'm not sure what kind of answer you're looking for. Well at the end of the day it's your problem not mine. I gave you my opinion on the matter you can choose to accept it or not.

[trashychick]

i never said i wanted to fall in love with him and your opinion is trash it doesn't make any sense just so irrelevant

[hellacray]

Coming from someone calling herself trashychick is a little ironic don't you think?

It might make more sense if you keep an open mind. Again you're the one that laid the foundation of the situation. It's not my fault the foundation is unsteady to begin with.

[trashychick]

it's just a username lol it's not that serious and yeah actually we both agreed to this but shit things change

[hellacray]

Mmhmm of course. I still think the porn star idea is a good one, but you do what you feel like. I ain't your daddy.

[trashychick]

you have weird thoughts in your sick little head...

[hellacray]

Weird as in sexy? Well I prefer to think outside the box. Some people can handle new ideas some can't. You know what I mean?

[trashychick]

no i don't think it's sexy

[hellacray]

Well I suppose we all have our preferences

[owlbethere]

In an earlier comment you said at the beginning he was falling for you but you rejected it. Why not say I noticed that, and I am sorry if I brushed it off. I do have feelings for you. See what he says.

[trashychick]

in the beginning he made it obvious he liked him but i just ignored it. he didn't really make say it though so i don't want to tell him i have feelings for him and him not feel the same way and it gets weird with us and chance of us not speaking to each other /:

[owlbethere]

I guess you could sat that you really want to see him more often. You enjoy his company.

[trashychick]

he's always busy, he only has time for sex lol

[owlbethere]

Hmmm, I always tend to think there is really no such thing as "too busy". Unless he is working very far away. When there is a will there is always a way.

[trashychick]

I don't know i asked him once and he said "there is no time" he does work a lot. i guess it'll be weird for us to just hang out cause we don't know each other too well the only thing we talk about is sex. I don't know why i fell so hard for him

[JayCasper777]

fuck him better!
they say let's get some food.
branch out slowly to other parts of his life. then he is gonna start think she's nice I like chilling with her.

[trashychick]

he tells me all the time i'm the best he ever had. it's not that lol

[JayCasper777]

I'd say branch out then. if you taiming that dick right.

[trashychick]

branch out?

[JayCasper777]

yeah what I said in my first comment. after I said fuck him better

[trashychick]

and what does branching out mean

[JayCasper777]

after you fuck say let's get a burger or something

[JayCasper777]

chill out with him

[trashychick]

we don't do that... we fuck at like 2am he gets sleep after that and just goes home. we don't get other times then that

[JayCasper777]

well I'm lost then. sounds like you'll be waiting for him to step it up

[AliRizwan]

according to numerology when our numbers match we are perfect match for each other.
may be you and he has perfect chemistry.
but as you know he has not feelings for you ao do one thing, spend more time wirh him
like hanging out beside fucking, like going to park, some fun place etc
let him protect you or help you. i mean create a situation , fall intentionally, feel low intentionally and see how much he cares for you.
do it and tell results

[trashychick]

i tried to hang out with him but he said he's always busy. when we see each other it's just for sex, which i'm fine with. we hung out once at a coffee place for 5 mins when we first met in person and then went to fuck in the car parked in the lot

[AliRizwan]

look may be mostly people tell you how to avoid him but i will tell you how to get him or be in a long term relation ship with him.
till yet i think he is just thinking you as a sex toy or sex related thing
but now you have to make and create situations where you can prove yourself more valuable think for him.
first when you meet him, use scent or perfume.
your body should be clean. no smell from mouth.
you have to talk decent and talk about current affairs, search a bit about the work he do and ask little questions about it. show him that you have mission and visions in life. you have set goals in life , you are not a girl who just have fuck n porm in mind.
you are really valuable person.
talk about sports, his interest.
give him surprise gifts made with your hands, give him some thing to eat made with your hands etc.
gifts increase love dear.
do it and tell

[AliRizwan]

people dont give a fuck to people who dont have some aims visions goals in life. no one like a fucking porn mind. thats why they dont value.
so for getting value show them you have broad vision etc

[trashychick]

i'm allergic to perfume and fragrance! and i try to talk to him but he doesn't really talk much, all we talk about is sex and even in person it's just always that

[trashychick]

i don't wanna freak him out making him hand made stuff or something idkk

[AliRizwan]

but at least you should not have a smelly body. try roll on deodrants. they have very low fragnence

[AliRizwan]

ok fine. try my other advices.

[AliRizwan]

tell me your id card name/calling name and DOB. so i can do numerology on it.

[AliRizwan]

people like when they see that some one is doing some thing just for them like making some thing doing aome stuff etc

[trashychick]

i don't have a smelly body lol he tells me i'm sexy all the time and why would i give you my id

[trashychick]

numerology?

[AliRizwan]

no problem. dont give me.
numerology is the knowledge of numbers , the divine code , the name grid of a person, his couple compatability, his physical, mental, emotional and intutional temperaments, his elemental chemistry etc

[AliRizwan]

i believe you dont have a smelly body, bit fragnence increases emotions, desires, love.
you dont want to be created just as a sez object , are you?
you have a right of love and be loved. and i am just trying to help you to be loved by a person whom you love, with out any intentions

[AliRizwan]

try my second reply and tell results.

[trashychick]

i mean i wear lotion with scent.. i don't think that stuff helps and i don't think i love him i just really like him

[AliRizwan]

i can understand your feeling. many people has face same feelings. this feeling can be turn into love if we try or if other person try. some time yes some time no.
but collectively i will say that do more care for him to make him feel tthat you are really interested in him. tc of his likes interests etc. buy hime some thing and most important show him your broad vision and missions show him you wanna do aoke thing great and you are doing some thing great. dont let him loose interest in you

[trashychick]

i just don't want to creep him out by being so caring out of no wear. this is horrible but i just wish someone close to him died so i can just comfort him ugh

[AliRizwan]

dont forecast things
just do them

[trashychick]

nah just doing stuff without thinking is the same reason why i've been to jail a few times

[Anonymous]

You are just a piece of pussy to him, I used to have a white chick fuck buddy like you, she was only good for pumps and dumps and fucking her, you need to get over it and realize that in his eyes you are good for just fucking, that is all not listening to your mouth or hanging out with you. If you want a relationship, fuck buddies aren't the people to choose from, I have never viewed any of my fuck buddies as girlfriend material just good for screwing.

[trashychick]

why would you feel the need to say "white chick"? and he showed signs of feelings for me in the beginning but i brushed it off and now i have feelings for him.

[Opinion Owner]

Cause she was white? Obviously he doesn't anymore you should know by now that you shouldn't catch or reciprocate feelings with a fuck buddy that's like the number 1 rule.

[trashychick]

who cares if she was white lol wth and yeah i don't normally catch feelings in this type of thing, first time this happened. shit happens dude

[Opinion Owner]

Well then you have to get over it, I'm not gonna give you some fairytale answer, It is what it is.

[Race_realist]

This generation is such a disappointment... 'Fuck buddy' is nothing more but a feminist whorish culture.. There is no decency in this generation. Instead of waiting like noble person to wait until marriage, people today just have sex to whoever.. No morals.

[christian_witch]

You have a poor grasp of history, my friend.

[Race_realist]

@christian_witch Back in the days we didn't have this wild casual sex culture.. I think I know my history friend.

[christian_witch]

You had the casual sex culture, it just wasn't talked about was all. Hence the prevalence of shotgun weddings and Catholic adoptions for young women back then.

[trashychick]

not everyone believes in marriage. stop being such a judge mental freak

[christian_witch]

*fist bump*

[Race_realist]

Exactly.. Not everyone believes in marriage which exactly why this generation is so screwed. Marriage and family is the foundation of society. Good strong family values = great society. Take that away and it all falls apart like what is happening in the West.

[christian_witch]

Uh yeah, it's not. Marriage is a rather recent human invention. Humanity grew and thrived without it for longer than we have had it. It's a part of society, but not the driving force for it.

[trashychick]

old people suck

[christian_witch]

Apparently they don't suck. That's the problem ;).

[Race_realist]

@christian_witch Exactly again... That's why in the past people were savages.. There is chaos.. Then people were blessed upon by marriage accordingly to Christian values. Then it started to get better. Look at the godless Soviet Union, they were an awful liberal utopia. Look at what happened... Failed greatly.

[christian_witch]

Like I said. Poor grasp of history.

[trashychick]

god isn't real

[trashychick]

there are other religions out there, yours isn't above anyone else's

[trashychick]

people like you are so ignorant

[Race_realist]

@asker Old people doesn't suck.. We the old people are the ones responsible for making this world you live in better. You should be thanking us.. This generation are so bratty.

[Radicalash]

Ask him if he'd ever consider being serious but in sly way that doesn't make it seem like your interested

[trashychick]

i don't exactly know how to ask that

[Radicalash]

Ask "how do you feel about me?"

[trashychick]

we don't talk about that stuff i feel like i'll make him feel weird because one time he causally asked me "how good is my dick" and i said "good enough to catch feelings" and then he asked "you have feelings?" and i said "bish i might" and he just put some emojis and the convo ended after that

[Radicalash]

Your going to be stuck in limbo if you don't ask. Also if he's only in it for the sex you should leave. You'll only be hurting yourself in the long run

[trashychick]

i kind of already asked him tho! we just don't have full discussions about it and well we both agreed on just sex and i don't want to leave he got me whipped :(

[Radicalash]

you were talking about his dick. That doesn't like a very in-depth discussion about your feelings haha. Just sayin

[trashychick]

that is the closest we ever get from talking about this lol. we both can't really talk about things like this that's why i said telling him is off the table

[Radicalash]

It sounds like you simply haven't talked about it, rather than you can't talk about it. But I give up!

[trashychick]

aw shit :'(

[Radicalash]

No risk. No reward! 😉

[trashychick]

i like u

[Radicalash]

Lol why?

[trashychick]

i don't know ;)

[Radicalash]

Good luck 😉

[trashychick]

thanks handsome (;

[Competitiveguy]

Just fuck his brains out so hard and tell him that you might be moving. He wouldn't want to miss out and say want to try for a relationship and ssee from there.

[trashychick]

he wouldn't want to try a long distance lol this is just a sexual relationship

[Competitiveguy]

Gotta make him want you somehow. Talk to him more.

[trashychick]

i always try to talk to him more but he doesn't really talk much

[Competitiveguy]

Find his hobbies and open him up maybe his sexual fantasies and fetishes? Worth a try.. maybe he has another girl? Give him the most amazing head ever maybe that would make him talk. Don't let him finish and torture him to talk to ya 😂

[trashychick]

i'm the best he ever had so i think i'm good with pleasing him lol and I don't know he doesn't really talk about his hobbies or anything it's literally just the most casual relationship ever

[Competitiveguy]

Well you just have to take one for the team and get knocked up.

[trashychick]

no that is so wrong... we already talked about if that ever happens we would get it aborted. and tbh i think i may be i did miss my period /:

[Competitiveguy]

Wow.. dam girl check yourself lol. One day you would have to give him an ultiamtum where you are like I have feelings for him and if you don't address them you should stop having sex with him.

[trashychick]

what do you mean to check myself? and i don't want to stop having sex with him

[Competitiveguy]

Well. He's keeping it straight sex so he doesn't mess up the the fuck buddy system.

[trashychick]

i suppose

[Competitiveguy]

Sorry couldn't help. Good luck!

[christian_witch]

Just suppress your feelings really. Not much else you can do.

[trashychick]

i have been hiding my feelings for so long and i can't do it anymore i feel like i'm going to burst out crying

[christian_witch]

I'm sorry :(. Then the situation comes down to telling him or ending it if you can't handle them. That's the bad side of a friends with benefits thing. Usually one person ends up falling for the other.

[trashychick]

i can't do either of those things thou :(

[trashychick]

besides i kind of already told him once i had feelings and he didn't say much like it was like that convo never happened

[christian_witch]

I know how you feel. I have been there myself. Are you sure you can't tell him? Maybe he is more into you than you think.

[christian_witch]

Ah okay, well that sucks :/

[trashychick]

yea i can't tell him cause i already mentioned it, no luck into that convo

[JosyJosy]

It's hard to help if you take away some helpful options.

[JosyJosy]

Keep seeing him and see if you can change his mind.

[akadatank44]

You can't. Its why these things don't normally work.

[Anonymous]

Girls like you turns me off
I'm you look good you can find a decent boyfriend but you'll endup with a fuck buddy instead

[trashychick]

i don't care what turns you off. i don't want a boyfriend, this doesn't help

[Opinion Owner]

Glad it doesn't helped
I don't help with such things

[trashychick]

you're bored then so you just comment some bullshit lol? sad

[Opinion Owner]

Hahaha you can say
But really If I got a girl like you I'd treat her like princess
I just felt bad that you happy being used by someone

[trashychick]

but this is what i want.. we both agreed on casual sex there isn't anything wrong with that. everyone is different of what they want

[Opinion Owner]

It's OK I'm not telling you to stop lol
Good luck

[Snyxthetics]

talk 2 him about your feels. we can do shit in that cause

[Cristallika]

Sex is considered to be an action that helps you bond with someone so I'm a way it's not really surprising.

[trashychick]

nah sex means different things to different people. it can also be meaningless

[Anonymous]

Happened to me only it was him that developed feelings.

[Anonymous]

Fuck boys never fall in love with the trashy chicks, move the fuck on already. 😂

[trashychick]

well some ugly bitch is jealous. he actually liked me in the beginning but i brushed it up😊

[HirenHarry]

Pm me also i talk what u like.

[trashychick]

what

[HirenHarry]

I wnt to talk to you personally.
I said

[trashychick]

why..

[HirenHarry]

You look vry Beautyful.
All things i can't share in public thats y.

[trashychick]

there's an anonymous option. i don't want random creeps being gross on pm

[HirenHarry]

its okay i didn't say u have to talk to me forcefully.
jst if u wish.
M sorry if i disturb u.

[Danimal007]

Dude, you're funny AF... 😅

[trashychick]

i didn't say anything funny

[Danimal007]

Just reading the questions you've posted, there's no way you're a chick.

[trumpify]

you're literally asking for trouble