Would you want to know if your fuck buddy "caught feelings" or fell for you?

[Anonymous]

I'm 18 and Him and I worked together last summer. We were just friends until this summer after coming back from school we reconnected. For the past 3 months every weekend we hangout get drunk, smoke, go to bars and beaches etc. He's 25 graduated university going to teachers collage in the spring (our schools will be closer this year), and I'm just starting collage. I think I'm starting to "catch feelings" or fall for him. I don't know how he feels. I'm worried that asking him will ruin everything? I want to be more then friends with benefits.

[Maryam27]

If it's bothering you that much, then you should talk to him about it. I was in a similar situation and was so concerned about him no longer wanting to hook up with me if I asked... that I never asked. Turned out we stopped hooking up anyway because he started dating someone, and my questions/thoughts were never spoken. With these types of relations, you always run the risk of catching feelings. Some are very good about keeping emotions out of it, some are not. Sounds like you're afraid he will stop seeing you if you talk to him about this. What matters more? Keeping it going without saying how you feel, just to keep it going? Or risk losing it because you spoke up? Good luck

[Anonymous]

"Friends with Benefits" is actually men having free sex without commitment. Good deal, huh? Yeah, not really -- not for females... who tend to "catch feelings" after having regular sex with a guy (it's in our biology to do so!!). friends with benefits is a way for guys to get FREE SEX. And now that you gave it up to him, for free, he may not want to enter into a commitment with you. What's in it for him? I mean really -- ask yourself: What's in it for him to change things up? He gets what he wants, but do you?

[srslyly]

Collage is a bunch of pictures stuck together. College is where you go to learn stuff.

People should be open and honest about their feels, and also be very specific. Describe to him exactly what you are feeling. If you are unsure, then tell him you are unsure.

Maybe you could slip these things a little at a time, like if he is very special to you and makes you feel good about yourself, you could just say, "I feel very close to you." and leave it at that for the moment. Later, you could describe the other things that are drawing you to him. Breaking it into pieces will give him a chance to respond or escalate, and will give you a chance to measure his responses.

[stevie123]

Just ask him how he feels. He may want a relationship too. You need to find out if the guy that is doing you wants you or not. FWBs usually don't last forever, so asking may advance the relationship. If not, all is not lost. You have had "filler" sex, and now may need to move on to someone that wants you for you, not just a
place to park his dick. Hopefully he will want to move forward with you.
As with any relationship, communication is key. Don't talk about this in bed. Do it over dinner.

[Mountain8ear]

You either keep doing what you are doing, and know you won't be happy, or you take the plunge and be honest for a chance at true happiness. You can't go back to not having the feelings can you? Only one option in this case if you are honest with yourself.

[UPENDRA123]

Dont ask him anything. Normally asking directly ruins everything. Just enjoy with him, make him comfortable, go with him outside. The path will get clear by itself.

[Anonymous]

Your body has probably been releasing oxcytocin every time you've had sex, and you're surprised your falling for him?

Honesty gets everyone what they want in the long run. Think of this as a learning experience.