How to avoid catching feelings for a hookup?

[Anonymous]

Since there's no one who wants a relationship I am only left with hookups, one night stands and fuck buddies. I don't want to be lonely anymore, I want to have sex too. I'm not saying I'm giving up on love but being completely alone and rejecting all these offers doesn't make any closer to finding love. Hookups won't either but hey at least I'm gonna get laid. Cuz I have needs too. Well I met this guy few days ago, I like him and I want to have sex with him. He doesn't want a relationship (what a surprise, right) so fuck it, I'll just sleep with him and then forget he exists. But how do I do this without catching feelings? I want to be able to have sex with no strings attached and then to walk away and pretend I never met him.

[Cmasterson]

You're not left with them, you choose to settle for this type of relationship. Not hating- but there are genuine people who want a girlfriend out there, but anyway you say you don't want to be lonely and want sex- and you're giving up on love... So you can't control how you feel especially with people you're hooking up, obviously you like them enough to sleep with them but are aware of the boundaries that come with it, unfortunately you can't help who you fall for, but its important to know what you want and like to be treated, so there is no magic way not to fall for someone but know whats a steak aka your heart and maybe that will make you change your feelings and only look out for yourself since he's probably doing the same. enjoy your time wit him while it lasts, these things can get messy.

[Joti_Harrison]

Don't do it. The right guy might be close by, and you might chase him off once you fall into the category of what you originally despised.

Stick to your values. You want a relationship built on love and trust. How will a man who also wants the same go for you when you become a hookup girl.

Most girls tend to look in the wrong places for relationships or the right guys. I know many genuine hardworking guys who are also looking for the same thing as you. They also claim there are no more virtuous girls out there. How about you broaden your horizon, there definitely are good men out there, you're most likely searching in the wrong places.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Hookups never really worked out well for women if you believe surveys. I could be wrong but surveys show that women on average, felt unwanted, unloved, and forgotten after a hookup. It's almost impossible to not catch feelings with someone after sex. I guess I would suggest not hooking up? Rather, try meeting someone who's interested in a relationship.

[SnapTsch]

dont compromise on what you are looking for, because there is no way to come out of it unscathed
you seem like a person who is someone who values relationships too much, and stay that way cuz you never know, the guy that you are looking for might be right around the conner but your change might change your paths to a point where they never intersect