Does my fuck buddy have feelings for me?

[Anonymous]

So I've been fucking this guy since late April and I'm starting to realize I caught the case of the feels. At this point I don't know how to proceed in our relationship fuck budd thing. The guy is a bit of a loner, can be kinda shy, usually just does his own thing, and is pretty self conscious. That mix makes for a very hard to read person, especially for me becasue I'm very social and more of a people person. Anyways the first time we met (it was a tinder thing) I just went over to his place and we fucked because thats all I wanted from him. Then we went to a hookah place once and a coffee shop another time but since then I've just gone over to his place. We talk for hours when I'm there and I'm usually the one that makes it about fucking. He's opened up to me about his past a few times and I'm usually way too high to handle it but I guess thats a good sign? I don't know. Anways we dont text much or snapchat much. If we haven't talked in a day he'll text me just to say hey but thas about it. He has a toothbrush for me at his place and has talked about doing things with me that are over a year away and he says things sometimes that through me off and make me wonder if he has feeling for me. I'm just very confused and I don't want to misinterpret whats really happening. I just need an outside opinion. thanks :)

[bluesy33]

Key points from your description that lead me to believe that yes, he does have feelings for you more than just for casual sex. 1) If he hasn't heard from you in a day, he reaches out to at least touch base/remind you he's around. **Do you do that in reverse, or is he always the first one?* 2) You talk for hours when you're with him. Honestly, that's not something "buddies" do much of, in a meaningful way. Especially dudes. 3) HE HAS A TOOTHBRUSH FOR YOU AT HIS PLACE. **If he purchased it for you that is even more a clue.** 4) When a guy talks about his future and you're in it, you're more than just a "buddy".

I wouldn't be surprised if he already kinda considers that you're his girlfriend. He's a homebody and you're more social. He's not going to be like, hey, do you want to go out on a date? To him, probably, the time you've been spending together HAVE been dates. Also, he may be asking himself the same questions you are, trying to figure out if you really like him, too! Him thinking, "Well, I'm not just going to ask her, I don't want to ruin it.". You thinking, "Well, I'm not just going to ask him, I don't want to ruin it.". Haha

I wouldn't ask him to put a label on it yet, or like straight out about his feelings, but ask him something like "So, what do you want to do tonight?" and see what happens naturally from there. If he looks at you like you have three heads and says, "What do you mean?" drop it. But maybe he'll be like, "I dunno, what do you want to do?". Then say, let's go do...(fill in blank with whatever - go have dinner and drinks, go see a movie, etc)... After some time of you guys actually getting outside and experiencing things together, then ask him how he's feeling, etc. Anyway, hope this helped. Take care!

[PLLFan21]

Sounds like he might. Why don't you just try asking him, see what he says... ? When you both aren't high.

[Asker]

I really want to talk to him but I just have no idea how to start it off or what to say without potentially ruining things

[PLLFan21]

Just ask him how he feels about your "relationship" with him right now, and see if he wants to be more than just Fck buddies... Or what he wants to do. Let him know how you feel. U can bring it up, like when he says he wants to do whatever with you in like a year

[abundantlyrich]

Ask him. It might end or it won't. You expect him to take the lead?

[Asker]

I wish he would take the lead lol but no I don't expect him too. He gets really self conscious so I doubt he would. I just don't know how to ask without coming off too strong

[abundantlyrich]

He sounds... Passive. He needs to boss around.

[RexCatholicissimus]

Well isn't this a tale as old as fucking time? ANOTHER case where a friends with benefits scenario transforms into something else.

You've got a child's understanding of emotional relations, Anonymous. I hope you realise that. You're a fucking child.

[Asker]

I'm not sure what you mean by that but I'm sure it would be beneficial to me if you explained it.

[Hercules073]

Where are the feminazi mods to delete this question? She talks about sex! OMG

:( :(

[Asker]

I literally just made this account... is that not allowed lol?

[Hercules073]

No, I'm annoyed by the mods here constantly deleting my questions for no legit reason.

[Anonymous]

No he doesn't. He only opened up to you because he was high

[I_am_repulsive]

He was high so that could be a factor

[Anonymous]

i think he does.