Why do black guys hate black girls so much?

[Anonymous]

Okay so obviously im a black girl who is mixed and I've come across a lot of black guys who literally mistreat me just because im black like them
Just today i was just waiting patiently outside for my friend in front of the bathrooms this black guy walks by and looks at me. I politely look at him and smile
Not thinking he was gonna talk to me while he walks by he makes a comment about how my hair is long. Totally out of the blue i just laugh it off. But it honestly pissed me off because i didn't know if he was complimenting or incinuating that im wearing fake hair. and even i was wearing fake hair whats so wrong with that why did he feel the need to comment on how long my hair was.
Also this other black guy at my school he talks about how he only dates white girls which is fine i dont really care. But he feels the need to bring it up when im around as if im gonna jump his bones. lol I swear I don't know if its just where i live ( california) but i dont get why so many black guys feel they need to put down black women so much. Wtf

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Black like who? Lol, my grandmother is black but to people who don't know, she looks like a random white woman. I think some black guys have resentment turned into a systematic subconscious genocide. Like my cousins fiancé had the nerve to say he doesn't like brown-skinned women. My cousin is brown skinned she just happens to have naturally loose curly hair so I think at the time she thought she was mixed. He's brown skinned and so are their daughters so that was a stupid thing to say. I used to hear the same comments going to school: "she's pretty for a 'dark' girl. Oh how are you brown complected but you have a more narrow nose, my face gets red when you cry, your hair is so dark&shiny, straight, and long? It's natural and you don't have a perm? Can I see if you have a weave or extensions? That's your brother and sister but they're way lighter than you" Id hear that from black people mostly but I didn't get it bc I obviously I see my traits in my family and we all look different. And when I go back to New York city which is my home I was always accepted as beautiful but no one ever pointed out thinking I was different. Not my other black friends there, Puerto Rican friends, Asian friends. So I figured it was just a small town thing, but I was shocked to see it happens a lot of places. I think a few black guys don't like themselves inside or their parents, thinking dating a woman of another ethnic group raises their social status, dating a woman outside their group she'll be a more tolerable person.

[mistninja314]

lmao i hate this right here""she's pretty for a 'dark' girl'' the self hate runs deep in us smh

but i will say one thing about black men we stay true to our heritage usually and keep natural hairstyles most of the time dreads-waves- fades...

long real hair as black males right but our sisters on the other hand OH BOY 80% of the time they have fake ass weaves-lady bug eyelashes-nails etc and yea i kno every women does it but at least it looks like there natural traits

I've yet to see a white girl with weave that was in the form of an afro lol

[dev765]

Your black grandmother looks white what?

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

I didn't say all but some. And the hair thing is a load of shit bc theirs some white girls that have fro hair and they get straighteners and everything. I'm black my hair is straight and half wavy. There's latino and hispanic people out here with tight curled hair, and Asian hair can be quite course. How much you know about hair and heritage. If a white girl from Jersey does the same thing, a lot of dudes would be on her, and watch the loads of make up and extensions she'll take off. I don't wear make up or have extensions. I have put in extensions (bright color) a few times though and most people couldn't tell the difference. They would think I was dying my hair. I was empathizing with this girl about the scrutiny black women are under even down to hair. Yes my grandmother is very fair skinned and was blonde when she was a child. She calls herself "passin" out of fun. My point was black people, brown people in general can come in all different hues and shades.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Those were things said to me and about me by a lot of black guys. Always asking if I'm mixed and then when I say Im black they'll back away like something's wrong with me in most cases. And most black guys date girls from other groups. I wouldn't have a problem with that if in most of those cases they actually liked the woman but it's usually bc they think they'll get a higher more accepted status, or if they want to have kids they think their children will have most of the same traits as their partner. When she used the example of he classmate making a point he'll only dates white girls. Or a guy that says "I only like red-bones, she always gotta be light-skinned." I read that like having insecurity or dislike of themselves.

[Anonymous]

I'm black and I get hit on by black men all the time. Ghetto black men, sophisticated black men, poor black men, rich black men, fat black men, skinny black men, athletic black men. Either black men are lying or they just trying to put down black women because some black men are insecure

[Izzex3]

Hm.. That's not really common where I'm at
But on the internet I met some black dude who said he hated black girls because they were all ghetto and bs bs bs.
Some people are just stupid like that and it's pretty sad.

[Anonymous]

im a black male and i dont really have nothing personal against black women LOL but i must fucking admit ill take an 1st Asian -white-latina-middle eastern-black girl in that order

HELL IMHO THE ONLY BLACK GUYS IN THE HOOD LIKE ME DATE BLACK WOMEN IS BECAUSE WE HAVE NO CHOICE CTFU just being honest

and most of my friends say the same thing "bruh where the snowbunnys at" then i usually lol like bro im telling or the Asians

most black women have bad attitudes-fake hair, nails etc start problems and most of the time ARE AGGRESSIVE ass hell ain't nobody got time for that shit

and yea i like black women and have plenty of friends ofc so im not TRYING TO BE ON THAT SELF HATING BS but it does get annoying having to deal with my sister being so fake

[Opinion Owner]

the only reason *

and take out that 1st infront of Asian

[Asker]

Okay lets say you are into an Asian woman and she says i dont have anything against black guys but all black guys steal are thugs are ugly etc. isn't that the same thing wouldn't you be offended?
Not all black men are thugs just like not all black women are fake

[Opinion Owner]

hell naw i wouldn't be offended LOL i have no criminal record and im one of the coolest people you'll met" i hear it all the time... i dont sag nor do i even look like a thug or have an thug mentality... also yea i know all black women aren't fake of course I've been around them my whole life

but hell imho you can neva say "ALL" when it comes to a race of people because everyone is different and you also can't hold what one person has done against an whole race of people

[Izzex3]

Yeah, you're pretty sad.

[Opinion Owner]

lmao hell yea im sad with a smile on my face

nice hair izzex3

[Opinion Owner]

but most people i know from where I've lived have the same mindset no joke when they see an outta race girl there jaw drop lol i wonder why that is tho

[Jessica__]

I only like white guys so I understand my boyfriend is French and I just like European men a lot I just find a black mans features are a little odd kinda like monkeys in my opinion

[Opinion Owner]

lol at the lastest post on here

[Reginelli]

Well I'm a black guy and I like black women. Although race does not decide who I date I have only been with one female who wasn't black. I like black women. Race doesn't matter. As long as she is cool then I'm fine.

[Asker]

I like what you said about race doesn't decide who you date
Its the person!!

[Reginelli]

Thank you for most helpful. And yea its all about the person with me and how we click.

[Anonymous]

I have heard a lot of guys try a tactic of telling a girl he doesn't date girls like her, to both make her relax around him knowing he isn't hitting on her, and make her feel like she has something to prove. If he keeps bringing it up around you, I think that is what he is doing. I think you are just responding to some player lines differently than they are hoping.

[AdamThomas]

The long hair comment was probably just a random comment, I think you're overthinking it.

As for men not liking black girls, it's the attitude a lot of black girls have I think, stereotyping.

[HikerDude]

I don't think black guys hate black girls at all. Where I'm from, the only people they date are black girls.

[UghDeeJaaY]

Idk. I was at the AZ STATE FAIR yesterday and started to notice that mostly all couples were same race. But the most interracial I saw was black guy and white girl.

[Anonymous]

Black guys tell me its because of black womens bad attitude and treatment of black men. They want to be treated well by a nice girl who doesn't act like a "strong black women" 24/7

[larry69]

I am white and won't date black.. white and Latina only

[StickStickity13]

I'm pretty sure most black men like black women, the ones who don't say it for attention

[Anonymous]

i really think that first one was just a compliment...

[Anonymous]

Not all black guys are like this. Man why are black men lumped into negative categories so much?

[Klaatu51]

i thought whitte guys did LOL