My boyfriend blocked my number, what do I do?

I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. We have been fighting for days, and he asked for space for four days of no contact. I am the type that does not do space, and I like to resolve issues immediately instead of dwelling and over thinking the issue. He told me he has been miserable lately in the relationship, but if anyone should be miserable it's me. He is disrespectful and he lacks communication within our long distance relationship. I have called and sent him text messages and he decided to block my phone number, letting me know he will unblock it in 3 days. I think the simple act of blocking my number is disrespectful. Do I break up with him or just wait it out until he unblocks me? I feel like I should be standing up for myself. These next 3 days are going to drive me insane because I want to talk to him and resolve our issues.
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I don't want to break up with him, but the issues we have in the relationship have not changed. He has times where he can be disrespectful and not make me his priority. There are times where he doesn't communicate like a man should in a long distance relationship and it drives me crazy. He has made promises to change and sometimes the changes show and other times not so much...
This is a guy I want a future with but I have learned that you can't make someone change. He is just as serious about me, but he is super stubborn.

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  • Let's follow the bouncing ball.

    1) He asks for 4 days of no contact
    2) You contacted him by texting and calling him ignoring his wish for no contact
    3) he blocks your number to get his wish of no contact

    One can draw two conclusions from this:
    1) you brought this upon yourself
    2) he doesn't want to talk to you at this moment

    What do you do?

    Take this time to reflect on your relationship, the direction it's going, and whether there's a future here. He's taking this time to think. You should too.

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  • You are doing the crazy girlfriend thing and chasing him away. He asked for 4 days, and you still tried to contact him. Calm yourself down and wait or break up, because obviously, you can't handle respecting his wish for space. Sometimes, people need to think, not everyone will bend to your will 100% of the time to do things as you want them to be done.

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    • If he needs time to think I get that. I know he will not break up with me, but he also won't change his bad qualities. It's like he's along for the ride. We have future plans and I know I'm important to him-yet he still has childish outbursts like walking out when he's angry or where he will be disrespectful or forget to communicate. I have so much love for this person and I have thought him to be the person I will marry. I know you can't get a guy to change so I just feel trapped. I want to be with him, but not crying or frustrated with him every other week.

    • What's going on? Honestly, blocking your number doesn't seem as bad, but you're upset over other things that weigh in on you wanting to breakup. Maybe if you post something like an introduction to why you're frustrated, we can give you proper advice? Us users are going in blind...

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What Guys Said 7

  • This is technically "silent treatment".

    You can either break up or wait... depends. Just don't think about it for 3 days then.

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  • How can you tolerate such kind of behavior?
    That clearly shows he's being disrespectful.

    Not only should you respect other people, but you should demand the same degree of respect for yourself. You should never put up with any kind disrespect from anyone, especially a person you are in love with. You will have a much better chance of keeping a man interested in you if you stand up yourself, than if you allow him to walk all over you.

    The #1 medicine that can cure a broken heart is time but you should find a passion for your future have a goal that will make you successful then forget about him then maybe he will see what missed out on :)

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  • Well you guys haven't been in each others good graces that's what it sounds like but it sounds like your boyfriend doesn't want to talk about it right now. I always thought men tried to fix things I don't know he's told you he wanted space and he'd get back to you but YOU still continued to text him. Not respecting his wishes it's not like he was ignoring you he just wanted time to breathe about whatever you were fighting about if you want to leave you can , if not you should wait patiently til he comes around

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  • Sounds like you need a real nigga to hold you down

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  • walk away.. he dont wanna communicate

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  • Lol we think almost identically. Oddly usually guys are the problem solvers. The problem is that even though we think the same I have been around nagging and controlling women before and it's awful. I learned my lesson immediately: avoid them.

    The point here is that you need to relax. If he needs space it's because he is probably overwhelmed and he has to process all of this information. Things take time. Nothing happens instantaneously... not really anyway. Even the time it takes to blink can be measured.

    The point I'm trying to make is that you need to learn to be patient because most people will expect it. He also didn't want to ignore you but he feels you aren't giving him a choice. Chill out. He might be an introvert.

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  • you sound so fucking desperate and what makes it more sad is that it's about a guy who disrespects you.. no more to say

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What Girls Said 13

  • How can you break up with him whilst he has you blocked? the communication is already cut at the momment, as you and him are different in dealing with arguments and issues, I think you should have given him the space he wanted in the start, some people are able to think clearer, and more rational, would you rather him make an irrational move just based on the fact that you aren't patient and don't want to worry? Lack of communication in a long distance relationship is basically the cut off, without it you have nothing left, and so I can understand you're not taking this well and you're hurt and frustrated. He may have felt overwhelmed with you arguing against his way of wanting to deal with his feelings. Everyone is entitled to feel how they want to, we are our own person, and just because we are in a relationship with someone, doesn't mean we can tell them how to deal with it. I know you're desperately wanting to figure everything out, you're going to worry but the most you can do is stay busy for the time to pass, and show him you're not dependent on him. When those 3 days pass hopefully the both of you will be in a better mindset.

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  • He should not have blocked you. That is really immature but he did it. Well.

    You have to be patient. That is what you have to do. Some people are not open to communication.

    Give some time, if he doesn't contact you, then start to worry. But not now.

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  • Block him as well & give him reality of what it means to "take a break".
    From a guy, it means leave me in peace while I try to bang thot then expect to be able to come back to you.

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  • wow! You and had the same boyfriend, My boyfriend blocks me too in FB, whatapp viber and now my phone.. itss hurts and disrespectful. i need to wait for him till he gets back if not i gonna show him what he regerts.

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  • Take this time to think, really deeply think, what you are doing that makes him miserable.

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  • Honestly, if his need for space (which is totally normal btw) is too much for you, you should break up with him. He's the kind of person who needs space occasionally and you're the kind of person who doesn't understand that... it's just not going to work.

    He only blocked you because you were not respecting his wish to have space... so no I don't see his action as disrespectful. He's respecting himself and his needs... and he did ask you to give him space (so you were warned). He also told you he would unblock you in 3 days... sounds like he knows it's hard for you and this is the only way he can get space.

    I know you want to resolve your issues but it's not all about you, honey. He has needs too and he needs time to work through some of the thoughts and feelings he's having. What's 3 days? Just wait it out and maybe working through your issues will be easier after you've both had some time to reflect.

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  • That guys an immature dick. U need better. Dump his sorry ass and get a guy with respect and likes to work through problems.

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  • You sound kind of suffocating.. he asked for space and instead you bombarded him with calls and texts - that was disrespectful on your part and I don't blame him for blocking your number temporarily. People deal with things differently and it seems that you don't have any understanding for that. You expect him to deal with issues the same way you do, and that is unfair. Neither way is right or wrong, but if he needs space you're only making things worse by not giving it to him. He probably feels like he can't think when you're constantly there trying to talk it out. He needs to gather his thoughts for a while.

    You didn't give any indication what the other issues in the relationship are, so I'm only going off the details that we know. Given what we know, if I was the BF I'd be really annoyed by your actions and you would be driving me away for sure.

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  • you should wait till he unblocks u but if he dosen't then u should break up with him

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  • It sounds like he doesn't wants to be in the relationship anymore

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  • It seems he has taken desperate measures because he needs his space. Personally, i like to resolve issues as soon as possible. Commuinication is so important to make a relationship work.

    I would just accept he wants his space, he obviously needs time to sort his head out before dealing with speaking to you. When he does decide to talk to you , try to explain to him that if he wants the relationship to work, you both need to commuincate to resolve any issues, rather than ignoring it for days on end.

    Space distances two people, it doesn't bring them closer together. He can't shut you out everytime you both have an argument .

    Relationships are measured by the bad times, not the good. So you both need to become stronger together when faced with any adversities.

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  • Give him some space like he asked for and then talk it through in a couple of days. One could say that you were disrespectful for not giving him space like he asked for. Everyone deals with things differently. Also, you can't expect him to make you his priority 24/7/365. It doesn't work like that. You say you want to stand up for yourself and break if off. He's standing up for hkmsf by blocking your number.

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  • He shouldn't disrespect you. But in terms of the communication thing I think you are in the wrong. He asked for space. You are disrespecting him by going against that wish. He wouldn't have blocked you if you hadn't tried contacting him. You don't respect his wishes and needs. You might wanna hash it out immediately but he doesn't so just leave him be. He wants a break from the fighting. Honestly you sound like too much. He has made his boundaries clear it is you that is being unreasonable

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