Are men capable of love?

Question

Just wondering. It seems like so many guys are players or are interested in multiple women at the same time. 

Can they fall in love? Are they capable of it?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Men can't love or feel. It's all based on their needs and convenient ways. If you serve them, make money, have sex with them etc. As soon as you get sick, have kids and your body changes or you get broke they just step all over you and cheat on you. Men don't want to compromise, they don't want to be committed, they certainly don't want to give... they only want to receive. If they can't be with only one woman, it isn't because of his NATURE... this is completely FALSE. This is because they don''t have a conscious and a heart like women do. All women get horny, love sex and find other men attractive and yessss when we someone hot we also think "I'd totally do him". The difference is that we don't say it out loud and we are discrete unlike men. Our nature is the same (both genders) the difference is that we have a conscious and we use our brains. It has been scientifically proven that women are smarter than men.
What i love about this 2000-2015 is that women no longer believe in the fairy tail. Nowadays more women are successful and don't take men seriously. They are cheating as much as men are... and now women are treating men the way they deserve. So for centuries men have raped, physically, emotionally and mentally abused of women and i think it's time to PAY BACK. Nowadays women are truly happy and successful without depending on a man. So MEN don't fuc**** complain if we are no longer fools. Don't complain if women cheat, Don't complain if women use you only for your money. Men aren't in the position to even complain or have an opinion of women. Look at all we have to go through by simply being a woman. It's about us, not about men. Amen.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This guy is a senior and I am not super close with him. He has a gf but they are in a fight right now. He asked me to get ice cream and paid and then we sat in his car and listened to music and talked about life. Then he took me to a empty parking lot at night and had me listen to a song and we both reclined the car seats and closed our eyes and listened to music for a long time and then showed eachother funny videos. When he picked me up he told me that him and his gf are in a fight. Does this mean anything or was he just being friend

Hidden_P · Accepted Answer

Yes they are.

Men are better at detaching from sex and having a purely physical connection. Women can do it too, but generally after a period of time we become attached.

Men are perfectly capable of falling in love and when they do, they normally fall hard. A man in love is a very powerful thing and if you're lucky enough to be the girl, you will feel very blessed and special.

Sara413 · Accepted Answer

Of course they are. They're human. It's just a stupid stereotype that men are unemotional and uncaring. A lot of times, when they are younger, they buy into and perpetuate those stereotypes, but as they get older most men grow out of that BS and truly do want to settle down into a meaningful relationship.

Xonen · Accepted Answer

Of course we can. If you thought about it for like 2 seconds you could've figured it out on your own. But I do understand where you're coming from, especially because you mentioned that men have multiple interests at a time. Biologically, a male human's objective is to impregnate as many females as possible. However, he would only accomplish this feat if he possesses superior traits that promote survival and thus are deemed attractive by females. Conversely, a female human's objective is to pick the male with the best assets and reproduce with him so that they can create genetically superior offspring. This process is known as natural selection. Obviously, there are obvious constraints to this in our social settings because of societal expectations regarding relationships, specifically marriage. The expectation is that when to individuals agree upon a relationship, they are committing to one another and promising to abstain from relations with others. Most men don't find issue with this (although some do partake in cheating or refuse to participate in relationships altogether). The disparity is in the selection process. Because of our biologically ingrained roots, we tend to have interest in more than one female because our biological roots encourage us to try and "spread our seeds" in as many "crop fields" as possible. Females on the other hand are hardwired to select the one and only best male in the environment to ensure that only the very best genetic traits are passed down. Does that clear things up a bit?

kambo_trick3y · Accepted Answer

Stupid fucking question.

This question is a slap to the face to all loyal husbands and boyfriends in the world.

Please tell me you at least have a loving father figure or some kind of loyal brother or male role model in your life.

NexAngelus · Answer

i agree with others, this is horrible. this is the reason why guys on the fence of being "loyal" or players decide to go playa. why should a guy go with only one girl at a time when most dont know what the hell they want? its not different than stocks, invest in multiple to ensure u have A outcome that is profitable. in this instance it just means longer lasting. i can tell u first hand, dealing with one girls shit at a time takes a lot of time and almost always for nothing. in todays society there is no reward for a guy to deal with one at a time so very few DO!

itskoda · Answer

Lol.😂 exactly! y fall in love? like for us guys we know that "falling in love" isint the smart thing to do like we as men have everything to lose wen we do when in vice versa u women have everything to gain From a failed relationship/marriage. like there's a saying "y give a *ITCH ur heart when she'd rather have that purse? y give a bitch an inch when she'd rather have 9?" Smh ya women swear that were incapable of compassion and love but when u do come across one of us that are on per to the idea of relationships u *uck it up By not treating your man as you should. all I'm saying is if more of these little girl would grow the *uck up and learn to respect their men then there would be more of us will to but our hearts out there again fully.

Hope this helped😞

Kabloosh75 · Answer

Yes, in fact men are more quickly to fall in love than women.

You need to be careful of who you date if you are worried about this. There are many guys interested in having only one girl in their life you just gotta look around. They often times are likely not at the club every weekend though. Try to avoid hook up locations since those kinds of people are the ones more interested in just getting in your pants for the night. Also don't fool yourself into thinking a guy doesn't want to get in your pants. Any guy that is interested in you wants to. It just depends whether he wants to respect you first before he attempts it.

Anonymous · Answer

Wow. I just... wow

dragracergirl · Answer

My husband says he loves me and tells me everyday but after 23 years of marriage I have to wonder why? He doesn't spend any time with me, never does anything I want to do. Hates date nights and going to movies. When we go on vacations (which are very rare) we always end up fighting because he doesn't want to spend the money but yet he has no trouble spending thousands of dollars on our Camaro. I swear sometimes I feel used for my paycheck and my pussy.

Waldoman7 · Answer

I am 28. I fell in love with a girl at 13. swore myself to her forever at 14. Currently, she has left me for another. I do not care. I am hers and always will be. If I was sent through time to when she's 93 I'd still marry her then, and after she died I would take no other.

OF COURSE guys love. We're human.

HookingSwan · Answer

Yes they can. I assure you.

And some get quite vulnerable while at it.

Guys crave love just as much as girls. But I have come to realise it that maybe they are affected by it in a different way. Dont quite know how to explain it. But some guys have a deep need to find their companion for life and they suffer a lot through the search.

Dannieee · Answer

Your definitely hanging out with ask the wrong guys. You should probably open up your eyes, please. This was a pretty insensitive thing to say, to say the least. How would you react if a guy said "are girls capable of love? It seems like they're all sluts or just want to sleep around". Think about it for a second, like honestly.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course.

I feel in love (not lust) with my wife from across a crowded room, where she was just a head in the crowd and I couldn't see anything else. I knew she would be my wife, and I spent 2 years getting to know her as a friend before I moved it forward. We now have 2 amazing kids (Who I love more than life itself) and we have been together 6 years.

data905 · Answer

Ok yes we can and do, that being said once we fall in love women tend to drop the ball.
First and foremost this happens in the bedroom and comes in two forms. Not enough sex and not being open to kinks. And before you think this is one sided you are asking this man to be with only you forever. Well if that's the case you better make sure that he can get everything he wants from you and doesn't have to go looking elsewhere. Believe me guys don't actually like to cheat (way too much work) for the most part and if you are the ultimate slut for him behind closed doors he won't. But if he is not getting enough/good enough then he will cheat. Even if he loves you that brain between his legs has had a lot longer to evolve then the one up top and it will win.

PiuBelloAmante · Answer

Some of the greatest novels and wars were created from love
The trojan war was started because of Helen
The writer of the notebook/dear john is a man

so yes men are capable of showing love, but love is a mans greatest weakness, thats why sometimes we show reluctance to show it

Anonymous · Answer

Men need to love a woman. The need this feeling as they really have to, on ther hand, women needs to be loved. Women can't know what ''to love a woman'' means. You all actlike a miserable cat inside the feeling of being loved wheares a man don't need to be loved. Love shortly means to me that it is the compassion in our heart that we give to women especially, but women seem to be giving it to only their children. We men can give it to anyone actually. Because of some womanizers women think that the world is turning around their body, but not!

ArchDruidMordred · Answer

There are several factors which play into what you describe. The biggest of course is society. Nowadays men, particularly boys, are pressured into believing that in order to be real men they have to objectify women and girls. In is also more or less forced upon us via the media that women view guys who aren't players as losers.

oldanddecrepid · Answer

I think you have not met the right man yet is all.

We are very much capable of love and wanting of a long lasting friendship/relationship.

My love for my gf is very strong... I am not sure what I would do with out her.

My love for my daughter is incomparable, I would give my own life to ensure hers if need be!

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, they are capable of love & it's entirely on display. These guys are the example of what self love is, because they will go to any extent to make sure they are happy, satisfied & receiving everything that they want in life.

Their love is not your type of love. They could love you & be faithful, but they just love themselves more.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. Men are definitely capable of being in love. You just have to find a guy with the right mind set. If your trying to get a guy who is constantly partying and with a different girl every night, then he's not ready for a commitment and love. If you find a guy who is only interested in having one girl around all the time, then he's most likely to be the most capable of falling in love.

Jessica_18 · Answer

"It seems like so many guys are players or are interested in multiple women at the same time." <----- This is entirely true. But eventually (hopefully) they grow up, cut the shit and realize what they want. Everyone is capable of love.

Anonymous · Answer

They fall "in love" with beauty and their desire to control it. That's where they get confused when they see a girl whose looks they can't normally attain and feel so madly in love and more deserving to own her attention and sexual access.

Some do develop actual love, in time, though.

Anonymous · Answer

Both genders can fall in love. The problem is that most people of either gender would prefer to play the field and sleep around than be in a committed relationship. Whenever a guy or girl falls in love, they get accused of acting clingy, or of having some other trait that gives the other person an excuse to find someone else.

CreepyOldMan · Answer

It isn't that men are incapable of love. It's that a whole lot of women have really bad taste in a few players to the exclusion of all the rest. Can I get a witness. Amen.

katedepp32 · Answer

men aren't capable to keep their dick in their pants for an extended period of time. what makes you think that they are capable of actually love someone except themselves? and probably their mom too.

shyguy2004jf · Answer

This wouldn't be such a problem if the average woman would stop falling for the douchebag player that is going to put his junk everywhere he can.

moistycakes · Answer

Of course? They aren't rocks. All humans have the capability to fall in love. It's not a bad thing to be interested in multiple people, a lot of women are as well.

ifyouwannabe · Answer

Depends.. some are really immature and others are looking for actual relationships. You just need to find the one that is right for you. But yes, they are out there.

Tashwick · Answer

yes they can certainly fall in love and care for their gf or wife all guys are not same becuz of sum players n cheaters dnt blame all of them boys jst have 1 problem they can't express their feelings but they also have a heart and can also love :)

Xelebrum · Answer

No. We're emotionless androids who only exist to fuck bitches and get money. Of course we're capable of love.

MaskedSanity · Answer

Oh no, you encountered a few douchebags, therefore all men are incapable of love!! Jesus Christ, you bitter generalising wankers are getting annoying.

Alex_lovesmusic · Answer

Yes! We do not just plug every damn hole we see (we aren't animals) we fall in love the same as women do (just most think the more girls you do the manlier you are)

Absolutelynot7799 · Answer

No. Men are capable of lust. Not love. That if they see an attractive girl with one thing in common with them they make that a reason to stick around but otherwise it's not love. They know how to manipulate women into thinking they love but that's about it but to be honest... I don't believe anyone really is capable of love. I personally think now days people are still trying to search for something that already died years ago. People don't love. They mostly care about themselves.

normalice · Answer

I'm not, but the people who raised me were fucked up and allowed me to learn nothing but rage and lust. So, I don't think I'm a very typical example of 'men'.

Ulyss · Answer

Uhhhhh this again

Lena19 · Answer

A lot of men are able to love, just like women are as well. Just because you've met one bad seed, or a few, does not mean that it describes all of them.

PoroLover · Answer

Honestly? I'm getting sick of these questions. EVERY HUMAN is capable of love, provided that they are not sociopaths, of course.

Sehaj · Answer

Really? Both sexes are humans first with similar emotions. Anyway, yes i am capable of love in 4 year relationship and loyal and trustworthy.

Anonymous · Answer

The problem is women go after men they KNOW won't love them, and the guys that would love you are not on your radar.

TheLoverNotHater · Answer

My entire life philosophy is based around love for others. It's just that nobody loves me. Well, not many people even like me. So I harden my heart most of the time and it makes me seem cold and distant.

parisfox · Answer

Guys absolutely do fall in love. You just haven't found the right guy hun!

Random_chick_2384 · Answer

Yes they are just as capable as we are. We all are humans after all.

abundantlyrich · Answer

Wait until they stop playing. 60-70 years old and here in gag still asking for approval if they can get to be with a 20-30 yo.

PeterPan11 · Answer

Um yeah. But it is a very strong feeling. Once it happens it doesn't stop. If you are in love with someone you stay in love. It can happen again but you will still have feelings for the other person.

crazyincalifornia · Answer

I think so.  You just have to find the right guy And you do have to be  The one and only girl for him In the bedrocm

sammy_31 · Answer

Of course they are but I know what you mean, I've encountered a couple of players who don't know how to love or care to show it.

ceative__very · Answer

guys r always gonnbe interested in other women search up the COOLIDGE EFFECT and it is wh you choose will depend a lovable honest trusthworthy gy will at least not cheat on u! and yeah u never stop loving someone if u ever did im single though

Unit1 · Answer

Hell no, we are all robots without emotions and feelings, isn't that obvious enough? ... OFCOURSE WE BLOODY CAN!!! WE ARE HUMANS!!!

Anonymous · Answer

Men are capable of love, they actually long for it. But once you become experienced with women, you smarten the fuck up and refuse to give it to them.

Anonymous · Answer

Multiple partners and love aren't mutually exclusive. I remember a recent study that suggested that men in a relationship are typically 'more in love' than the women they are with.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Hell yeah we are capable of love, I fell in love once, I'd gladly do it again to.

Genie23 · Answer

Wth? What a stupid question. Of course, they are capable of love

pr3ttybr0wn · Answer

yes. there are plenty of married and engaged men. they were once single at some point too

CootiesInfection · Answer

of course. why do you think i nicknamed my penis the lovemaker

InitialZ · Answer

Wanna know why men are interested in multiple women at a time? The rejection rate. When he finds someone, good chance he doesn't look for more women.

headstomper · Answer

Yes they are but these kinds of dudes are rare so good luck

clampfan101 · Answer

Personally, I found myself love at first sight in kindergarden. Maybe mutual? <3 I am NOT exadurating! ;D (not exactly "happily ever after"... but very long lasting.)

Anonymous · Answer

Men are actually the more emotional of the 2 sexes. Contrarily, Women don't love men, they love the social status that men bring them.

GadzQue · Answer

yes.. but not this time.. in good season it will come.

miss_ana · Answer

They don't deserve our love. Lots of them are player. They just love to fuck us

Anonymous · Answer

Of course. It's just that, when men pour their hearts into pleasing and catering to a woman's needs... they reject a guy. That's why many guys just look for quick hookups. It's easier and we get what we want.

Rogue2 · Answer

Of course we can. The worst part about it is, it's often overlooked, or ignored even if it's genuine.

Kshppatel · Answer

All I want is to love and to be loved and to know that I matter to someone but other things about me aren't good enough

Anonymous · Answer

This is a bit of a stupid question, but of course they are! If you think otherwise the guys you know are a bunch of immature players and jerks.

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