Are men capable of love?

Just wondering. It seems like so many guys are players or are interested in multiple women at the same time.

Can they fall in love? Are they capable of it?
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  • Stupid fucking question.

    This question is a slap to the face to all loyal husbands and boyfriends in the world.

    Please tell me you at least have a loving father figure or some kind of loyal brother or male role model in your life.

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  • Yes they are.

    Men are better at detaching from sex and having a purely physical connection. Women can do it too, but generally after a period of time we become attached.

    Men are perfectly capable of falling in love and when they do, they normally fall hard. A man in love is a very powerful thing and if you're lucky enough to be the girl, you will feel very blessed and special.

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  • Of course we can. If you thought about it for like 2 seconds you could've figured it out on your own. But I do understand where you're coming from, especially because you mentioned that men have multiple interests at a time. Biologically, a male human's objective is to impregnate as many females as possible. However, he would only accomplish this feat if he possesses superior traits that promote survival and thus are deemed attractive by females. Conversely, a female human's objective is to pick the male with the best assets and reproduce with him so that they can create genetically superior offspring. This process is known as natural selection. Obviously, there are obvious constraints to this in our social settings because of societal expectations regarding relationships, specifically marriage. The expectation is that when to individuals agree upon a relationship, they are committing to one another and promising to abstain from relations with others. Most men don't find issue with this (although some do partake in cheating or refuse to participate in relationships altogether). The disparity is in the selection process. Because of our biologically ingrained roots, we tend to have interest in more than one female because our biological roots encourage us to try and "spread our seeds" in as many "crop fields" as possible. Females on the other hand are hardwired to select the one and only best male in the environment to ensure that only the very best genetic traits are passed down. Does that clear things up a bit?

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    • This is a worn out excuse for men and personally I am fucking sick and tired of it. For whatever reason men are shut down emotionally and make up for it by sticking their dicks into everything possible. Men I thought had integrity have shocked me by lying to me about it in order to get their Physical needs met. And men are shocked when women shut down and turn off to them when we don't get what we need - which is emotional connection. This pretty simple exchange is rare. Love? Never got it from a man.

    • @Amoka To be honest, If this question were reposted now, my response would not be the same as it was when the question first appeared. I'm only 17 and this was a year ago. That said, the question-asker is making ridiculous oversights. There IS such a thing as stupid questions. "Can [men] fall in love"? Hello? What kind of bullshit question is that? Both you and the question-asker have obviously encountered one (or maybe a series) of shitty guys and are now retreating behind the socially-imposed image of men as emotionless sex hounds, perpetuating the same stereotype you denounce men for. Now admittedly my previous response was based heavily on biological theory, which resulted in an oversimplification of modern relationships, but your opinion and that of the question-asker are just bullshit and unfair to my entire gender. Stop being bitter.

  • I am 28. I fell in love with a girl at 13. swore myself to her forever at 14. Currently, she has left me for another. I do not care. I am hers and always will be. If I was sent through time to when she's 93 I'd still marry her then, and after she died I would take no other.

    OF COURSE guys love. We're human.

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    • But why do you wanna remain single for the one who didn't even think twice before leaving you? You have so much love and passion inside you. If you get a girl who can reciprocate your love with her true love, you will feel a love that you have never experienced before.

    • there is no love I could ever find that would match this one. I don't love based on what she's capable of giving me, but on who she is. Other women might be able to give more, but they would not be her. and to a certain degree, it's folly to ask me why because it's emotional, not logical.

      I consider myself married to a woman who left me, not single. I swore myself to her eternally and unconditionally, and I told her that even if she left me I would never stop loving her. I intend to keep that promise.

  • Some of the greatest novels and wars were created from love
    The trojan war was started because of Helen
    The writer of the notebook/dear john is a man

    so yes men are capable of showing love, but love is a mans greatest weakness, thats why sometimes we show reluctance to show it

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  • It isn't that men are incapable of love. It's that a whole lot of women have really bad taste in a few players to the exclusion of all the rest. Can I get a witness. Amen.

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  • There are several factors which play into what you describe. The biggest of course is society. Nowadays men, particularly boys, are pressured into believing that in order to be real men they have to objectify women and girls. In is also more or less forced upon us via the media that women view guys who aren't players as losers.

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  • I think you have not met the right man yet is all.

    We are very much capable of love and wanting of a long lasting friendship/relationship.

    My love for my gf is very strong... I am not sure what I would do with out her.

    My love for my daughter is incomparable, I would give my own life to ensure hers if need be!

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  • This wouldn't be such a problem if the average woman would stop falling for the douchebag player that is going to put his junk everywhere he can.

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  • Really? Both sexes are humans first with similar emotions.
    Anyway, yes i am capable of love in 4 year relationship and loyal and trustworthy.

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  • No. We're emotionless androids who only exist to fuck bitches and get money.

    Of course we're capable of love.

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  • Yes! We do not just plug every damn hole we see (we aren't animals) we fall in love the same as women do (just most think the more girls you do the manlier you are)

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  • My entire life philosophy is based around love for others. It's just that nobody loves me. Well, not many people even like me. So I harden my heart most of the time and it makes me seem cold and distant.

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  • I'm not, but the people who raised me were fucked up and allowed me to learn nothing but rage and lust. So, I don't think I'm a very typical example of 'men'.

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  • guys r always gonnbe interested in other women search up the COOLIDGE EFFECT and it is wh you choose will depend a lovable honest trusthworthy gy will at least not cheat on u! and yeah u never stop loving someone if u ever did im single though

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  • Lol.😂 exactly! y fall in love? like for us guys we know that "falling in love" isint the smart thing to do like we as men have everything to lose wen we do when in vice versa u women have everything to gain From a failed relationship/marriage. like there's a saying "y give a *ITCH ur heart when she'd rather have that purse? y give a bitch an inch when she'd rather have 9?" Smh ya women swear that were incapable of compassion and love but when u do come across one of us that are on per to the idea of relationships u *uck it up By not treating your man as you should. all I'm saying is if more of these little girl would grow the *uck up and learn to respect their men then there would be more of us will to but our hearts out there again fully.

    Hope this helped😞

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  • i agree with others, this is horrible. this is the reason why guys on the fence of being "loyal" or players decide to go playa. why should a guy go with only one girl at a time when most dont know what the hell they want? its not different than stocks, invest in multiple to ensure u have A outcome that is profitable. in this instance it just means longer lasting. i can tell u first hand, dealing with one girls shit at a time takes a lot of time and almost always for nothing. in todays society there is no reward for a guy to deal with one at a time so very few DO!

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  • Hell no, we are all robots without emotions and feelings, isn't that obvious enough?

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    OFCOURSE WE BLOODY CAN!!! WE ARE HUMANS!!!

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  • Uhhhhh this again
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  • Um yeah. But it is a very strong feeling. Once it happens it doesn't stop. If you are in love with someone you stay in love. It can happen again but you will still have feelings for the other person.

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  • Wanna know why men are interested in multiple women at a time? The rejection rate. When he finds someone, good chance he doesn't look for more women.

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  • Personally, I found myself love at first sight in kindergarden. Maybe mutual? <3 I am NOT exadurating! ;D (not exactly "happily ever after"... but very long lasting.)

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  • Hell yeah we are capable of love, I fell in love once, I'd gladly do it again to.

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  • Nope, we're all automatons from the planet Testos sent to torment women (the true inhabitants of earth) by our macho overlords. What do you f***ing think?

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  • Yes, in fact men are more quickly to fall in love than women.

    You need to be careful of who you date if you are worried about this. There are many guys interested in having only one girl in their life you just gotta look around. They often times are likely not at the club every weekend though. Try to avoid hook up locations since those kinds of people are the ones more interested in just getting in your pants for the night. Also don't fool yourself into thinking a guy doesn't want to get in your pants. Any guy that is interested in you wants to. It just depends whether he wants to respect you first before he attempts it.

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    • So true. And yes. He wouldn't b a straight guy interested in u if he didn't want to love you at an emotional but also physical level. Thats obvious :)

  • Of course we can. The worst part about it is, it's often overlooked, or ignored even if it's genuine.

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  • Some men are, but not a lot of them. Those that are players are not capable of love. They are only capable of lust.

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  • All I want is to love and to be loved and to know that I matter to someone but other things about me aren't good enough

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  • We are just humans exactly like you... It's pretty mean to assume we don't.

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  • I only ever needed two women in my life. Mt mom and my girlfriend. ;)

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  • There are boys and then there are men. Two totally different things.

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    • There it is. The smartest thing I've read on the internet today. Give this man a cookie.

  • I love my mom, even though she's super annoying. So yes. Not only am I capable, I'm good at it.

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  • My husband says he loves me and tells me everyday but after 23 years of marriage I have to wonder why? He doesn't spend any time with me, never does anything I want to do. Hates date nights and going to movies. When we go on vacations (which are very rare) we always end up fighting because he doesn't want to spend the money but yet he has no trouble spending thousands of dollars on our Camaro. I swear sometimes I feel used for my paycheck and my pussy.

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  • Yes they can. I assure you.

    And some get quite vulnerable while at it.

    Guys crave love just as much as girls. But I have come to realise it that maybe they are affected by it in a different way. Dont quite know how to explain it. But some guys have a deep need to find their companion for life and they suffer a lot through the search.

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  • Of course they are. They're human. It's just a stupid stereotype that men are unemotional and uncaring. A lot of times, when they are younger, they buy into and perpetuate those stereotypes, but as they get older most men grow out of that BS and truly do want to settle down into a meaningful relationship.

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  • Your definitely hanging out with ask the wrong guys. You should probably open up your eyes, please. This was a pretty insensitive thing to say, to say the least. How would you react if a guy said "are girls capable of love? It seems like they're all sluts or just want to sleep around". Think about it for a second, like honestly.

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  • "It seems like so many guys are players or are interested in multiple women at the same time." <----- This is entirely true. But eventually (hopefully) they grow up, cut the shit and realize what they want. Everyone is capable of love.

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    • I could say the exact same thing about women! Yay for intelligence.

    • Well yeah, it goes both ways but she's talking about guys here so my comment is relative to her question. Calm yourself, smart one.

  • Of course? They aren't rocks. All humans have the capability to fall in love. It's not a bad thing to be interested in multiple people, a lot of women are as well.

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  • Honestly? I'm getting sick of these questions. EVERY HUMAN is capable of love, provided that they are not sociopaths, of course.

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  • Oh no, you encountered a few douchebags, therefore all men are incapable of love!!

    Jesus Christ, you bitter generalising wankers are getting annoying.

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  • Depends.. some are really immature and others are looking for actual relationships. You just need to find the one that is right for you. But yes, they are out there.

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  • yes they can certainly fall in love and care for their gf or wife all guys are not same becuz of sum players n cheaters dnt blame all of them boys jst have 1 problem they can't express their feelings but they also have a heart and can also love :)

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  • men aren't capable to keep their dick in their pants for an extended period of time.
    what makes you think that they are capable of actually love someone except themselves? and probably their mom too.

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  • I think so.
    You just have to find the right guy
    And you do have to be
    The one and only girl for him
    In the bedrocm

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  • A lot of men are able to love, just like women are as well. Just because you've met one bad seed, or a few, does not mean that it describes all of them.

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  • Guys absolutely do fall in love. You just haven't found the right guy hun!

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  • Wait until they stop playing. 60-70 years old and here in gag still asking for approval if they can get to be with a 20-30 yo.

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  • Yes they are just as capable as we are. We all are humans after all.

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  • Wth? What a stupid question.
    Of course, they are capable of love

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  • yes. there are plenty of married and engaged men. they were once single at some point too

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  • Of course they are but I know what you mean, I've encountered a couple of players who don't know how to love or care to show it.

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  • They don't deserve our love. Lots of them are player. They just love to fuck us

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  • Of course they are! They are human!

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  • I hear hypnosis works

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  • is anybody capable of love?

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  • Believe it or not, they are

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  • there are some out there :)

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  • yeah! for a certain amt of time

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  • Men can't love or feel. It's all based on their needs and convenient ways. If you serve them, make money, have sex with them etc. As soon as you get sick, have kids and your body changes or you get broke they just step all over you and cheat on you. Men don't want to compromise, they don't want to be committed, they certainly don't want to give... they only want to receive. If they can't be with only one woman, it isn't because of his NATURE... this is completely FALSE. This is because they don''t have a conscious and a heart like women do. All women get horny, love sex and find other men attractive and yessss when we someone hot we also think "I'd totally do him". The difference is that we don't say it out loud and we are discrete unlike men. Our nature is the same (both genders) the difference is that we have a conscious and we use our brains. It has been scientifically proven that women are smarter than men.
    What i love about this 2000-2015 is that women no longer believe in the fairy tail. Nowadays more women are successful and don't take men seriously. They are cheating as much as men are... and now women are treating men the way they deserve. So for centuries men have raped, physically, emotionally and mentally abused of women and i think it's time to PAY BACK. Nowadays women are truly happy and successful without depending on a man. So MEN don't fuc**** complain if we are no longer fools. Don't complain if women cheat, Don't complain if women use you only for your money. Men aren't in the position to even complain or have an opinion of women. Look at all we have to go through by simply being a woman. It's about us, not about men. Amen.

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  • Yes, they are capable of love & it's entirely on display. These guys are the example of what self love is, because they will go to any extent to make sure they are happy, satisfied & receiving everything that they want in life.

    Their love is not your type of love. They could love you & be faithful, but they just love themselves more.

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  • They fall "in love" with beauty and their desire to control it. That's where they get confused when they see a girl whose looks they can't normally attain and feel so madly in love and more deserving to own her attention and sexual access.

    Some do develop actual love, in time, though.

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  • I have some doubts about it... It seems that they only want sex, that's all.

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    • Well s lot of males are programmed to want sex more than anything else. But that doesn't mean their robots.

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