Why is he ignoring me all of a sudden? Why do boys do this?

[Anonymous]

me and my crush have became very distant lately. Last Wednesday he was being all flirty (standing verrry close to me, complimenting me and just generally talking) and we got on the bus together and everything was great. However that night we had an argument which caused him to open up to me about his mental health issues such a an anxiety disorder. We resolved it that night but he was off the next day to go to a doctor's appointment about his disorder which got worse during our argument . Then he said he'd text me the next day but he never did. He texted my best friend though, asking her about her day in general. Why would he do this? Also he's just not been speaking to me the same. Like today in class he kept staring at me and lookin away quickly. I could see him on the left side of my eye. Then I tried to speak to him after class but it was just a short conversation. At lunch I was speaking to a group of boys and he kept staring at me whilst speaking to one of the girls I hate -she was probably talking about me- then when I sat down with the group of boys he just seemed to not even acknowledge me, even though our tables were next to each other. When I asked him a question, he would look into my eyes and answer the question laugh then resume to ignoring me. Why is he being like this? by the way I'm the only person who knows about his illness but I don't understand why he's being like this? I really like him but I'm thinking about giving up on our 'friendship' cause it feels like I'm the only one trying. Should I just leave him?

[howareyoureply]

There could be a lot of reasons for this, the main obvious one is that it might be his mental disorder causing him not not think straight about what he should do. But If I opened up to someone about a problem I had I'd be embarrassed even if it was resolved. Also you should try texting him first to see what happens because maybe he's seeing if your interested in him or not. It could be a lot of stuff you just have to see what happens as you go along.

[Asker]

I have been the one texting him first for the past 3days and he'll respond but it's just not as open and fun as it was. Why did I trigger his anxiety? Like why me? Did he like me or?

[chuppachup]

from the sounds of it, you're triggering his anxiety and it's telling him to avoid you, but if you're catching him staring at you then it could mean he actually liks you but feels vulnerable around you because you know his secret

[Asker]

Yeh he did mention that he hadn't had his anxiety since 2years ago but our argument triggered it so he had to go see a doctor. I feel as though he's been avoiding me. He helps me out when I need it and he'll smile but that'll be it. No more conversation. I feel so lost and I don't understand how I trugger his anxiety? Why me?

[chuppachup]

of course I can't say for sure because I don't know much about your crushes anxiety

[chuppachup]

anxiety is the most ridiculous irrational feeling you can get. but obviously something Bout your argument spoke him, you should ask him what it was maybe. just try talking to him more little by little, he's like a deer in the forest, you have to be slow and careful so as not to scare him off.

[Asker]

Well he asked me if I was pissed of and I replied with 'nope I'm tired, goodnight' and that set him off basically cause after that text he was texting me rapid saying I need to chill and he's sorry and he hates that type of converstation which was about me liking him

[chuppachup]

he must of though that you not only didn't like him back but was also kind of resented him. It's the littlest, most insignificant things that set off anxiety. you probaBly wasn't actually pissed at him but when it comes to relationships and anxiety there is a whole load of over thinking and screwing your head with things that aren't even real.

[Anonnon]

The reason why he isn't talking to you is because he's probably still annoyed by the argument. Or maybe he feels like you wouldn't like him because of his anxiety disorder, because based on what you said so far it sounds like he likes you! Just give him some space because he's probably still recovering from the argument. You shouldn't leave him, you just have to be patient and give each other space.

[hockeyismylife]

Id give him some time alone. Dont pay attention to him for a little bit and then after some time try ro talk to gim again. If he still acts like a jerk around you tgen id drop the friendship if he's acting that bad

[derothepro]

I think he is kind of afraid of what u are going to think of him now, sometumes guys do stupid things when they dont know exactly what a girl thinks about him

[Asker]

I have been trying to act normal around him but he's the one who's being distant and I assured him that I won't mention or even think about that conversation. But he's still being so distant. Why did I trigger his anxiety and why did he tell me about it if he felt he would feel embarrassed around me. Also when I tried to apologise to him that night he said he doesn't ever want me to feel sad ever and he doesn't want me to say sorry because he's the one who's sorry. Why would he be sorry about telling me about his illness

[ArabianPwincess197]

Maybe he was busy

[Asker]

Busy to the point where he had time to text my best friend, to ask her how her day was? I don't really think busy was what it was

[ArabianPwincess197]

Maybe he was ignoring you