How did he just stop caring?

[sthrnsweeti]

So I've been asking a couple questions about my ex...we broke up because he's moving to Illinois for a job in January. well I'm trying to move on with my life, etc. . it just seems like he just stopped caring though. like he wished me happy thanksgiving and we're friendly to each other when we see each other and all that but we never really talk and although I don't see him around town a lot, it seems like he's moved on with his life so easily. he used to tell me I was perfect and would call me his wife to his friends and I thought we were so in love, everyone thought we were great together. We were together for 8 months and my world just seemed to make sense when he was in it. there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of him still...I'm just wondering why its so easy for him to just turn those feelings off? Maybe he never really cared that much for me? Are all guys like this?

"I hope you're doing fine out there without me, because I'm not doing so good without you.."

[Just-a-girl21]

I agree with Inquisitive Male. From my experiences, men can mask their emotions very easily compared to women. I know when I am upset everyone can see it immediately. My ex (who I am trying to get back!) can push his feelings away.

Did you guys talk about the possibility of a long distance relationship? Maybe he thought you wouldn't be open to it or something.

Honestly, I'm sure he does think about you, especially if you two were close. Plus, he wouldn't just wish you a happy thanksgiving if he wasn't thinking about you, right?

[Reeses-pieces777]

yeah some guys are like this and this is how they deal with it. they don't really have any sense of responsibility for the words they utter, but sometimes they do. who knows, he might be hurting but for his ego, he'd like to show he doesn't care or he truly doesn't. the fact is, you need to keep going forward. I went through a similar thing. I kept looking forward

[sumina7]

Did you ever indicate that there is a future for your relationship even though he is moving long distance? Did you say that you can think of moving with him? Did you ask him what he wants?

[sthrnsweeti]

No....he kind of just made the decision to move and that was it, I felt like an idiot telling him I would move with him...i mean if he wanted to be with me then he would've asked me himself right?

[sumina7]

Well guys give focus on their career and do not know how to deal with what happens to the relationship. In any case there seems to be a communication gap in this realtionship.

[InquisitiveMale]

(a) he didn't stop caring, he just never started.

(b) he's doing what most men do and masking their emotions.

MY opinion, not yours.

Cheers.