Drunk dude slapped my ass in public place, boyfriend didn't do shit?

[Anonymous]

Basically, we were in a club-type place (I am not a fan of clubbing, but whatever). When we were about to go and queuing at the wardrobe, this drunk dude randomly appears out of nowhere, slaps my ass, and leaves. My boyfriend was holding my hand all along, didn't notice shit and when I told him, horrified, he did look upset but well at that moment it was a bit too late to go after the dude, I didn't even see his face. I felt pretty shocked about him not noticing anything, and it didn't seem like it bothered him that much, he got over him pretty quickly. I agree, logically speaking there was nothing left to do since the guy could not be spotted anymore, but wow I expected him to be bothered by that for a longer time. Also, he's not jealous at all, ever, and it's not like I'm an unattractive woman. I just don't get it.

Acceptable

Nope

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+1 y

For some strange reason it does not seem too obvious to some respondents that I am actually aware of the fact that it was impossible for any of us to track down the guy and beat him up. With this problem cleared out, please proceed with your answers.

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+1 y

actually i never said that I wanted anyone to beat anyone up. However people are ganging up on me here calling me all sort of things just because they would not fully read what i wrote. Also, this has shown me that nowadays many guys have absolutely no sense of protection over their SO, way to go guys :))) Hopefully you'll end up with Xena the warrior princess, otherwise your girlfriend will probably expect you to protect her in some situations and I don't see things going to well for y'all.

[aamina_m]

It's a messed up situation and guys do this to me all the time, but what do you want your boyfriend to do? Kick the guys ass? What makes you think your boyfriend won't be the one to get his ass kicked?

It's best to avoid a fight, but yes it is very upsetting and hurtful when strange men, or men in general invade our privacy and touch us. I get upset and it usually bothers me for a long time.

But it's also not a good thing to start a fight with someone you don't know. I know at times it's hard to control yourself, but it's better to do that and walk away, unless if your boyfriend has lots of friends to back him up in case things go wrong.

I can give you a scenario that went terribly wrong. My brother once got mistaken for someone else at a club. This other guy was apparently grabbing at this chick and hitting on her, and I guess he looked like my brother. She came and pointed out my brother to her boyfriend. This guy started a fight with my brother and guess what? He ended up with a broken jaw and a really messed up face. He had 2 other friends to back him up, but so did my brother and they all ended up with broken bones. My brother and his friends? Not even a scratch!

[Anonymous]

That was not acceptable, the guys who's saying it's just a slap on the butt are probably scary themselves. I can't stand a scary man, It’s like I'm stronger then you. The guy must be stronger and the protector, that’s what women like. I'm not saying beat up the guy, but speak up and let him no he was out of line. That happened to me before when I was out with my husband, normally he would have me in front of him. For some reason I was behind him, I had a dress on. And my butt was really nice in that dress, the guys were line up by the wall as you walked through. So we walked through, and I could already hear some of the guys saying man she look good. Well one of them grab my butt so hard , I couldn't help but to turn around and immediately told my husband some body grab my butt. He stop right then and there and curse them all out and stared at them each real hard, it was about twelve guys no one said a word. They just took it, and I had to grab him away from them men he was so hot. Trust and believe he got a great thank you when we got home for taking care of his baby. A lady don't want their man getting into a fight, But protect your lady from the perverts out here.

[MissIndependent111]

Your Husband handled it very well.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks !!!

[heartattack25]

He was upset but he might not be the jealous type. Thank your lucky stars he is level headed. Nothing cool about a possessive, angry man. You don't want him fighting over you. It has happened to me. It wasn't pretty. My ex boyfriend was tall and muscled. He punched a guy who talked to me on my way back from the bathroom at a bar. The guy lost a tooth. He was someone I knew from high school. smfh. I am sure your man appreciates you. He is still with you. He doesn't mistreat you right? The jealousy and other stupid BS girls expect is more indicative of his personal issues than his love for you.

[Esplorare]

That's not cool. No woman wants to feel like her boyfriend will carelessly let a guy get away with violating her physical space. Almost as if he's too cowardly and passive to defend your honor. Personally, if it were me and this was a new relationship, I'd leave him. I cannot be with a man who is not protective or will allow another man to disrespect me like that. Given, if someone slapped my ass they'd get slapped hard across the face but still... his nonchalant response is unsettling. What's next? If some guys try to attack you guys in a parking lot, you'll be protecting him? Wtf.

[BertMacklinFBI]

just for the record, I don't see a problem with her protecting him from some thugs, she can learn how to fight. but yeah society holds that kind of weight on the guy. no hate! :P

[Esplorare]

@BetMacklinFBI I agree that a woman should be willing and ready to protect her man. However, her man shouldn't be cowering in the corner like a weak, defenseless puppy. That's a turn off. It's not about "holding weight on the guy." It's about women having an inclination towards protective men. It's a natural biological instinct. It's a dangerous world out there and it's nice to know someone has your back instead of leaving you to fend for yourself, especially if he's supposed to be your significant other.

[Asker]

Well, it would be cool if i could protect him and I would totally do it, but in this case it was a man, and being a normally sized woman, almost any guy will be stronger than me and more intimidating, let's face it. And in this case a guy-to-guy confrontation makes more sense. If a woman tried to attack my dude I would go for it, to spare him the 'gotta hit a girl' thing :) But yeah I felt pretty much like u did, didn't break up with him though but his 'manly duties' remained unsolved lol

[Esplorare]

@BertMacklinFBI

[BertMacklinFBI]

@Esplorare true that, a guy should be willing to protect his mate. I guess I went off of the askers case to a more general stance. hopefully that was just a 1 time thing, or maybe her boyfriend did care but was being a "Vulcan" at the time and realized there was absolutely nothing he could do then except comfort her. just brushing it off wouldn't have been cool though.

@asker hahaa that is good to know you are willing to fend for the both of you. that makes me happy :) you say at least you will try, and that's what matters. realistically, yeah you're right, it makes more sense for him to get into it.

[Esplorare]

@Asker If that unfortunate situation ever happens, don't have such a self-defeating attitude :/ Yes, you may not be equal in physical stature but there are very fast moves you can make that will give you time to remove yourself from the situation. Every woman should learn how to throw a standard, quick, powerful jab. I learned when I was about 8 from growing up with brothers, tons of male cousins, and being around their male friends. My big brother taught me young. Anyhow, if you can throw a very fast jab then punch someone in the throat. It will slow their reaction time or they may not even be able to proceed. If someone gets you on the ground, use your bony elbows. They are weapons. Swift swing to the jaw or cheek but put a lot of power behind it. Your legs and knees may be an easy way to assert your strength if you're ever attacked. If you knee or kick someone in the ribs hard enough, it can knock the wind out of them or give you enough time to get away.

[Asker]

Thanks a lot to both of you :) :)

[Esplorare]

Then there's the typical: Kick his nuts like you are David Beckham on a soccer field. Just some helpful tips so that you don't automatically decide you're going to be a victim given something like that happens! :/ If you are up against someone bigger and stronger than you or you feel unequipped to protect yourself for an extended amount of time then NEVER initiate a prolonged fist fight. I was taught to always go for knockout punches or get the opponent on the ground as soon as possible unless. Really, fist fights should stay in the boxing ring if you don't know who you're dealing with because they could have a knife on them or do something dirty like rip out a piercing if they start losing. So yeah, just make the altercation very quick if it ever happens. Don't feel defenseless! I'm telling you because I care!

Lol @ "his manly duties remain unsolved". I just think it's more about SIGNIFICANT OTHER DUTIES not a gender thing. Maybe it's just be but you NEVER let someone disrespect or

[Esplorare]

physically violate your SO. So... wth lol

[Asker]

hahahah this is really cool :D not only am I getting helpful opinions but self defense technical advice as well :D hell yeah next time i'll be ready!!! :))))))

[Asker]

* was more or less kidding about the manly duties :D as in, if it were a woman attacking him, defending him would be my womanly duties :D :))

[Esplorare]

@BertMacklinFBI I really hope that was a one time thing! :/ It's crazy how many predators or legitimate sex offenders are lurking around. I feel that a woman should feel undoubtedly safe in her man's presence. I could never be with a guy who didn't get passionate about protecting me in a situation like that :/ How would you have handled it?

[BertMacklinFBI]

@Esplorare I feel it will be the last time it happens, cause the next time they go out they will both be aware that can totally happen again. hmm me though, IF the guy didn't get away in time, I would've stopped him and tell him to apologize to her. Since I rather not get in trouble with the law I wouldn't attack for him but if given the chance I'd gladly let him get 1 hit off me first if that was coming so I can have a go at it, that is if he continued being a disrespectful twat to her in my presence. basically, i'll just keep pushing him until he is out of the room but surely he is bound to hit me before I push him out the door, then I'll get off on self-defense and put him down. but yeah I would start with the first thing, make him apologize, if he refuses then push him to the curb and keep him away from us. I want my girl to be safe with me.

[Esplorare]

@BertMacklinFBI Lulz, cute. ;) Sounds like a great plan of action!
Nothing like that has ever happened to me before. Probably because my man and I are naturally really affectionate and adorable when we get on the dance floor. Maybe it has to do with the fact that we're both trained dancers and that seems to intimidate some people? I've noticed even when I was single that guys would check me out and approach me often but when I began really dancing, less guys would actually come up to me and kinda just smile from afar. I don't know I could be wrong. This is a curious post. What do you think is an appropriate way for a female to respond in this situation with the roles reversed?

[KateAdrriana]

if someone attacks u u best do what u can to attack back. You can't look at your boyfriend for help yourself ffs. some people are soo retareed even if the guy is big u can stil defend yourself its not like he's going to hit you back hed probably understand it was coming but to expect your boyfriend to get in and supposedly defend you is just you being a pussy. You expect your boyfriend to get in a confrontation which could get him jail time and you expect him to protect when your not protecting him from destroying his future possibly.

[BertMacklinFBI]

how would a female respond if the roles were reversed? as in like the guy got his ass slapped? or people are ganging up on the boyfriend, what does the girlfriend do then?

[Esplorare]

@BertMacklinFBI If she's with her boyfriend in the club and he tells her that a random girl just smacked his azz?

[BertMacklinFBI]

oh okay so if it happened to the guy? hmm.. I don't know I would assume the girl would ask him to point her out and then maybe confront her about it, feeling confident that her boyfriend would have her back, or maybe she'll just laugh it off lol.

[ccp16]

It is funny because I know plenty of women who would think he was an ass for jealous in this scenario... we just can't win can we?

I think I would have acted the same as your boyfriend no doubt about it... Nothing you could do, it is a club with drunk people everywhere... and I am not a jealous person and would think it childish if my partner wanted that kind of attention from me... I trust my partners until they give me reason to not trust them- not based off of other peoples actions...

That all being said, I did get into a fight once because a guy wouldn't leave us alone and kept harassing my girlfriend right in front of me, but I think that is far more extreme than this scenario...

It honestly sounds like you want your partner to be upset and angry, why would anyone wish that upon someone they care about?

[ccp16]

very interesting poll and differences here! I always knew women were more jealous and territorial than most guys I know in dating, but not like this! I guess I need to be more jealous than... not sure why as that is a negative emotion to me.

[Asker]

Man, you didn't really get my problem here. My problem is not that he didn't beat him up, or that he didn't go to jail or that I want unnecessary attention. My problem is that I did not see the normal reaction of any human being when the person they love and have a responsibility towards gets sexually harassed while he is holding their very hand. Call me crazy, I think it's a weird scenario.

[ccp16]

No, that is what I meant... You want him to get upset aka jealous over this. I just can't see it that way though, to me it is a territorial claim in that way, though I am very against the modern possession-ship that people feel must be in a caring relationship.

I agree though, this is an odd scenario I think, I admit I would be upset if that happened and I saw it and the guy stuck around, as I mentioned it was one of only two times in my life I got into a fight with someone. but I guess to me, I am more logic over reason and in your case, getting angry only serves to create negative feelings in myself and in no way can help, so I don't do that and let it go.

[meatballs21]

Drunken jerk slaps your butt. It's a noisy club so your boyfriend doesn't hear or notice. By the time you tell him, the drunk guy has disappeared into the crowd.

What are you expecting him to do? Go and try to find this guy and do what? Get into a fight and end up in hospital/jail? Act all mortified and sit up all night going over it in his head?

It sucks that it happened but he's being pragmatic: there's not really much he could have done.

[Asker]

Fair enough

[Mustachekitteh]

It's a drunk dude that slapped ur ass. Yes anyone would jump when that happen. Though it seems like you wanted ur boyfriend to track down that guy and beat his ass up. It wouldn't change anything the dude still slapped your ass. You can just let what the drunk did ruin the rest of your night and be unhappy. Or you can just forget about it because the guy was just some unimportant idiot.

I think your boyfriend handled it well. If he had chased after the dude and beat him up. You would have to deal with the cops that would be called.

[Asker]

Handling it well would have meant paying attention to the person he's with in the 1st place really, after that it's all if's and but's.

[Mustachekitteh]

If your in a club I doubt he could hear the slapping sound.

[Asker]

he only needs to see, hearing was optional, but of course if you zone out and gently slide in another world when you're with your SO these things happen what can I say

[Mustachekitteh]

Was he looking behind you when it happened?

Though some guys don't talk about how sad, angry, etc they are. Plus your boyfriend probably already knows the idiot that slapped ur ass couldn't take you away from him. Though your boyfriend probably was cursing the dude in his head.

[LightsOff]

You answered your own question... even though this is more of a rant than a question. There was nothing you could do, you had no idea who the guy was, your boyfriend clearly didn't pay attention to you at that moment so there was nothing that he could do either. Was he supposed to be upset about it the entire evening or something? Again there was nothing he could do, why be upset over something he had no control over or couldn't fix?

Jealousy is not a sign of attraction. Jealousy is a sign of insecurity. Only insecure people become jealous. It's toxic. It's what ruins relationships. It's not something you should want in a partner, or find desirable.

[Asker]

Well, my question was related to the way my guy reacted. Whether it's acceptable or not. I'm sorry, I thought that was understandable. What you're saying makes sense, it's just that as humans we also have feelings and those are sometimes irrational, but perfectly fit for a certain situation and yes if I were him it would have pissed me off and I would have wondered about the amount of attention and care I treat my significant other to. :)

[longjohndan]

I'd react like that guy. If I saw the guy doing it i'd be getting in his face, but really i'm just not a guy that gets jealous over stuff. Yeah, the dude crossed the line, but not much I can do about it if the guy is gone and no one could identify him. It has nothing to do with how attractive you are or how much I like you, maybe I just trust you and it wasn't you doing anything now was it.

If i'm getting jealous, it usually is because I don't trust my girlfriend (not because of some other guy) and I end that shit pretty quickly when I get to that point. Who needs that BS in life?

[JSmuve]

This is a non-issue. Some guy slapped your ass and neither of you saw it. Like everyone else has said, there was nothing he could've done about it. It seems to me that the reason you're bothered is because he wasn't upset long enough to your liking, which is just flat out ridiculous. He was upset but got over it. Now you're trying to suggest that because he was deeply upset that he somehow doesn't care about you or wouldn't protect you, which is just as ridiculous. If he had seen the guy do it and did nothing then you might have a case but that's not the situation. He had nothing to go on so could do nothing. That doesn't mean he doesn't care about protecting you. I think you're blowing this way out of proportion.

[JSmuve]

Edit: Wasn't deeply upset*

[Asker]

When I said 'was upset' I was thinking, probably, of a different kind of upset than you did. But then everyone's entitled to their own opinion, I'm the one exposing this here for this very reason.

[JSmuve]

What kind of upset were you thinking then?

[Asker]

The kind of upset that lasts reasonably over 2 seconds :)

[JSmuve]

So like a minute?

[Asker]

What can I say, if you're fine with any random dude being able to touch your girls's butt there's not much I can do to convince you otherwise now is there? :)

[JSmuve]

I never said I was fine with it. I'm not sure where you got that from or if you're merely making it up to make me look like the bad guy. All I'm asking is for how long you wanted him to be upset.

[QuestionMan]

The guy was drunk what did you expect your boyfriend to beat the shit out of him?
"logically speaking there was nothing left to do since the guy could not be spotted anymore, but wow I expected him to be bothered by that for a longer time"
Why would your boyfriend be jealous? It just shows that he has good taste in women if someone else appreciates your butt too. The fact that he isn't jealous is a very rare trait and you should be proud of him. Do you want him to start fights with every guy that finds you attractive?
Wow the poll Acceptable almost all male Nope almost all female.

[Asker]

My problem is that I did not see the normal reaction of any human being when the person they love and have a responsibility towards gets sexually harassed while he is holding their very hand. Call me crazy, I think it's a weird scenario.

[QuestionMan]

I'm pretty sure he didn't see your ass being slapped and even after you told him what was he supposed to do?
He was probably thinking "Ok it's just some drunk guy being drunk not worth fussing about"

[PiuBelloAmante]

Your boyfriend should have been pissed and left the club immediately with you, and said "Maybe we shouldn't go there again"

just understand that he didn't know who the guy was, so he couldnt do anything
Shit like this ruins relationships, I don't know why couples go out clubbing, thats for single people...

[Asker]

haha :))) we just went out with a single guy friend who's very close to both of us :D to help him get some action cause he was depressed and shit. Anyway, I didn't let this ruin our relationships, I just feel less safe with him now because practically anyone can come touch me in any invasive way even when I am freakin holding hands with him. And yeah my perception changed a little.

[Asker]

sorry for the typos*

[PiuBelloAmante]

i think your feelings are completely justifiable and it suckss that you have to feel that way, i was put in a similar situation where i punched a guy in the face and my girlfriend was upset at me... for punching him!!! she said i was violent and shit and needed to control myself...

I think your boyfriend should be a bit more protective... but its hard because if he defends your honor he could have to fight, and if he fights, he might get arrested... its so difficult lol!

[Asker]

Well I don't like fights either but punching would have been a more plausible reaction coming from someone who's in love, right? :)) Truth is I didn't even expect or ask for that, I just would have liked to see that it really bothered him. Oh well. To be perfectly honest it would have been great if he had payed attention to me in the first place, I just wanted to make sure I'm not a bitch. Thanks so much :)

[PiuBelloAmante]

you are not a bitch lol! you are just a normal girl... these feelings are 100% ok

also, if it happens again and your boyfriend doesn't do anything! you gotta talk to him about it...

[Asker]

Thank you :) I really appreciate this

[Frost_Byt3]

He probably just wasn't paying attention. I mean, If i saw him doing it, I'd beat the shit outta him without hesitation. But he was already gone, so there is nothing i couldve done. Oh well.

If you told me a guy slapped your ass, I'd be a little upset, but I'd get over it. Especially since nothing could be done.

I'd only be jealous if you told me you liked it.

[Frost_Byt3]

Plus, i bet it bothered him more than he let on.

[Asker]

You know, I never thought about this. What if I had actually liked it? For a person who claims they love me, this would have been worse than the real deal, which is, the fact that I've been sexually harassed? :)

[Frost_Byt3]

Yeah. If you disliked it, then oh well, its just a guy doing some stupid shit, and it meant nothing to you. But it'd hurt, and I'd be much more jealous if you had told me that you liked it, or it had meant something to you.

[madhatters4]

get over it. what do you think he should do go fly off the handle and beat the guy down? subject himself to a potential assault charge? or get his own ass kicked? if you have a real issue with the guy's actions go get his name and press charges. But this antiquated notion that your boyfriend should act like a caveman and go fight a guy for touching you is immature

[tenofthepeaks]

lolol...

[TeaHaychSea]

The answers are almost entirely one sided here, which I find interesting, but if I saw the guy do the action, I defiantly would not be happy. Not necessarily fight him, but I would say that's my girlfriend's ass you just slapped. I'm not gonna fight some random drunk asshole and go to jail, it's not that big of a deal, and I think you're overeacting.

[Sara413]

If he had noticed when it happened, I'd have expected him to say something, but honestly, what was he supposed to do when you told him after the fact? Search the bar for the guy and confront him? Start a fight?

What did YOU do when it happened? Did you tell the guy to go fuck himself, or did you just let it slide?

[spuitkaas]

Goddamn girl. You're seriously making a problem out of nothing. You're in a club, you can expect your butt gets slapped and your boyfriend just didn't saw it. That happends. He can't pay attention all the time. He couldn't do anything, because the guy was not there anymore. How was he supposed to? Be in shock over a week or something?

[Anonymous]

What did you want him to do?

It didn't bother him because it was a stupid drunk asshole slapping your ass... big f'n deal.
The guy was a stupid drunk which means he was likely to do something stupid without thinking. He was more likely to be aggressive if confronted.
Slapping your ass isn't a big deal, it isn't like he grabbed you, or molested you, all he did was tap his finger tips against the fatty part of your backend.

It seems as though you want to make this a bigger thing than it is.

[Anonymous]

I guess next time if you're in an environment like that with drunks be very cautious and prepared. Just let your boyfriend know that you'd want him to be more alert.

Let's say if you get slapped again, simply shriek or scream to alert people around you.
But I've been in situations like that and reacting appreciately can sometimes be difficult.

[nickdg]

It's not in the best discretion to start a fight for that. The drunk guy left on his own problem solved. If the guy had stayed and harassed you then sure I would ask if firmly to stop. If he refused I would get the bar bouncer to remove him from the premises. Same result the drunk guy is gone. If you want to take the matter further as in file a sexual harassment suit that is on you. There is not much he can do but be a witness.

[Asker]

Ah, not at all, I have no idea who that asshole is :)

[nickdg]

If it was just one slap, and then a fast exit you would have a hard time making a case anyways if it came to a civil suit. Besides it would not be likely that the guy would just tell either of you his name. He probably took the right course of action since the guy was gone. Not much he could have done. Also he was probably having a good time with you. Acting all sour over one slap is just not fun.

[Asker]

To be perfectly honest, when you're the girl in this story and you have a little self respect the fun is fun no more after you find out that practically any guy is allowed to have some even when your man's holding your hand :)

[nickdg]

I don't know if it's a difficult culture in Vietnam about this or not. When I date girls in America they get all sour if another girl even looks at me. For me it is not pleasant to put up with such jealousy. However with my girlfriend in Vietnam women come right up grab my arm, try to practice their English, etc etc, and my girlfriend is not bothered one bit. I enjoy being able to relax without having to be rude to the other women. That is the closest situation I have had in my life to yours so you know where I am coming from.

[Asker]

Vietnam :) it's a truly beautiful country. I am not from the US. However I also see no need for other girls to come on to my boyfriend. And it's strange for me to not have people share this opinion, I see no way in which these things could be seen as appropriate.

[Alexious]

If a drunk guy slapped my girlfriends ass what am I supposed to do? I can't fight for shit, so I'd get the shit kicked out of me. Sometimes it's best to leave it. I don't fancy ending up in hospital with 3 broken ribs and a fractured skull defending my girl's 'honor'.

Luckily I don't go clubbing, so this won't ever happen. If it does don't expect me to put myself on the line for something that is only worth the mention..

[tenofthepeaks]

lolol... pussy.

[Alexious]

I've been called worse dude. xD

[YannahMJ]

I hope your girlfriend breaks up with you

[idkwtftoputhere]

I think you need to chill. You can't expect your boyfriend to defend your honor everytime a guy comes and disrespects you like that. Just be cautious about it next time you go clubbing, be realistic.
Also, I think you should be happy that your boyfriend his secure in himself and his trust in you to not get "jealous at all, ever."

[Anonymous]

Because having a mental breakdown or creating a scene would be counterproductive to having a good time, which I assume that's why you were there.
Wouldn't change the fact that it happened, and no permanent harm was done.

Picking your battles is always the smart choice.

[dogbert444]

Your guy won't be jealous as the slap was uninvited. It's not as if you'd been fliting with this drunkard. It was just something that happened. Stay out of clubs if you don't like thing like that happening.

[Asker]

It's not about jealousy, someone performed an act of sexual harassment towards his girlfriend.

[dogbert444]

Par for the course when you go into a place that serves alcohol to people alread showing signs of inebriation. So, report this violation to the police. Take my tip and don't go to a club again. Put it down to experience. If you can't stand the heat, stay out of the kitchen!!

[TyraMayes]

So your saying that her boyfriend shouldn't have taken action as the man in the relationship its usually expected for your boyfriend to be your protector ! SO she shouldn't go to clubs because some drunk can't handle his liqs or keep his hands to himself

[dogbert444]

What could the guy do? The other guy was drunk, but may have been armed. May have beaten the boyfriend to a pulp. In my years of martial arts, you never attack someone in case they know more than you do. You just pray you know more than them if you do have to put it to the test.

Now the boyfriend didn't notice what went on, at least that's how I read this lady's question. So the drunk had already gone. What was he supposed to do? Shit happens in clubs. That's why I never go near one. If it needs a bouncer on the door, I'll never go in!!

[Spotme]

Beating up some drunk guy for doing that isn't right, he doesn't know what he's doing. I would maybe run after him and kick him in the ass, then politely walk away. Finding out about it afterwards, I would have been a little bit upset, I would have asked if you were ok first, then I would have reacted depending on how upset you were. If it was a sober guy, then I would have been really mad.

[ElissaDido]

Interesting, all the girls said Nope and all the guys said acceptable

[Esplorare]

I thought the same thing. . . why do you think that is?

[ElissaDido]

I really don't know maybe because us girls like to feel protected, and a little bit of jealousy doesn't hurt, I believe that jealousy can also be a sign of love x)

[Asker]

was thinking the same thing :))

[Asker]

Maybe it's because it's tiring for guys, I understand how these expectations from women for them to take charge can be burdening, But hey we all carry our own burdens through life... :)))

[ConfusedShyGirl]

Well maybe your boyfriend is just not the fighting type people think ever guy are this macho man who will protect their princess from anything but guys can get nervous in these situations and just freeze up.

[Nuqood]

So instead of having a man who is in control of his emotions, secure in his relationship, and who understands that it was just some drunk bloke who was out of his mind, you'd rather him be an angry mess trying to fight someone who is drunk?

Mate..

[Anonymous]

Get over it first it was just a drunk guy relaxing and made mistake, he can still be good guy. Hei I wouldn't do anything in that situation too, I would just say to him hey watch where your hands are!

Should he punch dude - NO that's not alright. So just get over it, who said you're beautiful? Maybe she just saw you beautiful when he was drunk :)

[AngryHorny]

You want your boyfriend to get in a fight every time a drunk guy slaps you ass? Why? Shit happens, get over it.

[Asker]

Lol I don't know but where we are random ass slapping doesn't happen every day :D Plus, if things are the way you put them, as in 'every time a drunk guy slaps you ass', then I might as well be single (from that point of view). Call me crazy but somehow I think there's sth wrong with someone's partner being ok with this kind of touching of their significant other. But if you're fine with it, what can I say... way to go :))

[AngryHorny]

What were the long term effects of this slap on the ass? Did you need hospitalization? Surgery?

[Asker]

hey man., It's about safety and respect. If I want a threesome I'll let him know.

[Bards]

Wooow

[janaina]

I love how all the girls are voting this down... Like really?

[tenchu11]

He was upset but he was probably just glad you were fine. Lol sometimes we control when we turn into angry don't touch my woman mode! And it's okay mode

[MissIndependent111]

And? it was an accident, you act like you just got raped, Jesus, if your boyfriend went after him and hit him, then he would get into trouble and spend night in jail, seriously what kind of reaction did you expect?

[Anonymous]

What was he supposed to do? Even if he found the guy, what then?

Be reasonable.

[Asker]

well, I will copy paste here from a different answer: I were him it would have pissed me off and I would have wondered about the amount of attention and care I treat my significant other to.

[HoodieGuy]

Do you want him to go head hunting and then get arrested?

[Asker]

Nope :) but it would have been nice if he had payed attention to me in the 1st place or if it bothered him a little, no?

[HoodieGuy]

@Asker Well clubs seem pretty intense and distracting so maybe it did just slip by him. Maybe it bothered him but he just kept a cool head to prevent any drama? If you didn't seem super upset about it he probably left it at that to keep the night calm.

[Asker]

fair enough :)

[mithramitzmittu]

It's not acceptable! You need a new boyfriend who cares about you, even in times like this!

[Bards]

Interesting poll for sure. Your boyfriend is either hiding some of his discontent or he is a crappy ass boyfriend.

[Bandit74]

if a girl had slapped your boyfriends ass how would you have responded?

[Asker]

I would have definitely pulled her towards me a bit aggressively and given her a piece of my mind. At best.

[Bandit74]

what if she was bigger than you?

[Asker]

Still need to do it man, I'm not a pussy, I have a pussy, there's a difference. :D

[Bandit74]

even if it was this girl?
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[Asker]

lmao =)))))))))))))))))))))) good 1.

[Ярило]

I wouldn't want my boyfriend to become easily jealous, nor

[Ярило]

Would I want him to get in a fight with a drunk guy in a club where he could be arrested. Sure if he seen it happen and the guy stuck around I would want him to say something, but if he didn't see it I wouldn't expect a strong reaction.

Sorry the full thing didn't get posted the first time all of the stupid ads caused the browser to mess up and post it before I was finished.

[Ярило]

I just try to look at it from his perspective, it would be pointless for him to be angry and stay angry for something he has no control over.

[Anonymous]

I'd have gone and beaten the shit out of the drunk idiot then I'd have used my phone call from jail to ask you if I defended your honor satisfactorily! lol

[Asker]

lol man :)) I don't want him to go to jail, he couldn't have done anything anyway the guy disappeared :D just that wow I wish it would have bothered him :)) u know?

[janaina]

The guy slapped your ass. Get the fuck over yourself.

[Asker]

@janaina with all due respect there is a 10 year difference between us and random ass slapping might mean sth different to you than it does to me, otherwise I can't see how in a supposedly civilized world there is nothing wrong with random dudes slapping one's ass. Also you might want to consider we may come from different cultures and maybe over here it's not that common. :)

[janaina]

I have a couple of points to raise with you now. 1) What difference would the 10 year age gap make? 2) Something different to me than to you? Who the fuck do you think you are! I am from the UK and I live in Buckingham, one of the poshest places in Britain so don't even give me that. The reason why I told you to get over yourself is because you are completely overreacting. You were not raped. You were not injured. He didn't slap you in the face, in fact nothing he did was particularly scarring. It is unpleasant, yes I agree. Do I think it was right? No. But the *drunk* guy slapped you ONCE and disappeared. The club was probably noisy hence your boyfriend not realizing, but to me you sound like you wanted him to completely lose it and hunt the guy and beat him up, and then have the thought of another guy touching his girl stuck in his mind. That's why I got so annoyed with you, because if you expected that then you're stupid, you aren't that special.

[janaina]

And to give you yet more perspective, my PREGNANT aunt was once randomly punched in the face whilst walking down the street by a random man

[Asker]

and was she alone or with her boyfriend? the reason i touched upon the age gap was that obviously what is acceptable as playful when one is a teen is no longer acceptable with an adult woman, I remember as a teen boys would have fun at school by trying to slap our butts and yeah it was more of a play thing. However once you grow up a bit I really think its significance changes. In any case I did not intend to suggest that you, fair maiden, are not 'posh'. :)

[Asker]

Also, I did update my question a while ago, maybe you'd like to read the update before assuming you are talking to stupid, less 'posh' people than you, your highness :)

[janaina]

Well I'll have you know that I would not appreciate someone slapping my ass without my consent, however some battles are worth more than others. In the context given this one is not. The update you made is irrelevant to what I was saying, and also stop trying to add that smile at the end, I find it patronizing. I do hope in the future you will actually read through all opinions given to you, rather than the ones you want to hear

[OnionsNstuff]

i wouldn't do anything either if this happened to my SO. she would be someone capable of standing up for herself and I like to think i would be able to trust her completely

[Anonymous]

seriously? he was DRUNK and only slapped your butt. Its not the end of the world. get over it

[Asker]

He only slapped my butt :))) why do people here think that's so acceptable and common? Am I supposed to think that's normal? Or are guys here that respond this way all into getting drunk, going to clubs and sexually harassing random women?

[Opinion Owner]

seriously I really wouldn't be this mad if someone slapped my butt. Its a playful thing to do. PLUS, he was DRUNK AND he wasn't there anymore. What is he supposed to do hunt him down? Now if he did it multiple times or kept doing it after you said stop THAT is a different story. but seriously.

[Asker]

well obviously we have a radically different perception of the seriousness of the situation so this is why we probably can't agree on this issue :)

[TyraMayes]

Go to a club and let another man slap you but let's see how playful it is or maybe even let the drunk slap your girls ass how's that for playful

[TyraMayes]

Your** but** still we as women expect our boyfriend to do something even if he couldn't do anything a comforting hug can't fix it but can make her feel better

[Opinion Owner]

I really wouldn't care if someone slapped my butt. I am at a club...

[Anonymous]

Boyfriends aren't bodyguards or guard dogs, you can't expect him to notice this if it wasn't obvious, and what can he do? Take the law into his own hands and beat the guy up?

[OrangeBoy]

Acceptable. Why do we need to think more about it? There's nothing to do, the slap was given and thats it.

[apexalpha]

personally I would have gone after the guy and brake his hand

[Asker]

lol :D well that would have been impossible cause none of us know who he is

[Anonymous]

Maybe he has a bit of low self esteem/confidence and that's why he might not dare to do anything?

[Asker]

That's one problem

[Opinion Owner]

The other?

[douride2]

Not sure who I would be more pissed at the guy or my boyfriends nonchalant reaction.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, cause beating him up, solves any sort of problem

#idioticreasons

[Asker]

dude, i have mentionned several times that beating people up was not on my mind, why do i bother I don't know

[CumminsTomic]

Get over it, seriously

[Anonymous]

$10 bucks you're dating a white boy lmao

[Asker]

Latino :)

[Opinion Owner]

Girl, you need to start dating men

[jakeofalltrades]

I would kick the guys ass, if I seen it

[Asker]

:D :D :D

[Anonymous]

leave him and find a real man and amrry him

[kiler1000]

you're boyfriend sounds like scum