He & I met in high school, graduated & are off to separate colleges. We have always had a deep connection. His girlfriend is average looking & a mean person. I'm everything she isn't in a good way! At school he would make sure he was able to sit next to me & make people move if they were in his way. During the summer we would go on adventures and have a blast (just him and me). Nothing ever sexual has happened. But he would constantly find reasons to touch me gently or play footsie. He honestly would pay more attention to me than his girlfriend. I know he loves her, he has told me that but just because you love someone doesn't mean you want to stay with them (ex. My current possessive/jealous bf). Anyway. His girlfriend got extremely angry with his & my behavior & destroyed our friendship. It wasn't till this summer that he & I made an effort to talk. He started constantly reaching out to me over text & social media & now his girlfriend is on vacation & he is continuing that behavior. I don't discourage it. We hung out & we were so happy to be with each other & he really opened up to me about what been happening in his life & the drama & how he isn't too thrilled about his girlfriend following him to college. Understandable. On top of that, some drunk texting took place a couple days later & he admitted he wanted me & was willing to be unfaithful. Now, I know that that means he may just want sex--but this has been going on for so long so I feel there is more to it. And I also know that his shady behavior could mean the same fate for me especially in college but I'm open minded & would be down for an open relationship during college if he wanted to "be with me" in the future. That way we can have fun and meet new people but still be "together." Seems worth it. Any input or advice would be helpful.
We have known each other for 4 years and he has had a girlfriend for 3 years. Need advice on what to do?
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