After 7 dates and he is still seeing someone else? What should I do?

[Anonymous]

So I met this guy online and we have been texting and hanging out for one and half months. He’s leaving my country in two weeks (but he comes back sometimes). We’ve completed the 7th date. But it seems he’s still on the dating app and seeing some other girls. I feel quite upset but I don’t know if I should talk about it with him coz if that’s what he wants, that’s what he wants. But I just don’t like dating multiple people at the same time and I wish he could do the same. Am I asking too much?

[Anonymous]

I think this is a third date conversation tbh…but people are weird these days. If he ain’t interested in committing now, it’s definitely not a good sign for an ltr. He met you and he’s still looking at other girls. Maybe you could date for years, but it will probably not be true love

[Asker]

It seems there’s no certain protocol for everyone one... but I think from our current situation he’s not very into me haha.

[wolfunknown]

Are you in a commited relationship?
If not, he has no obligation to you, he can see other women.

[Asker]

We are not even exclusive. Just I personally don’t like my date dating other people at the same time. And I don’t understand when is a proper time to be exclusive? (I don’t have western culture background)

[wolfunknown]

You first need to express yourself,
If he resonates same feelings, get in a committed relationship. If he doesn't feel same way, you have 2 choices,

1. Be with him and see someone else on side until you find someone to commit to.

2. End it and look for someone else.

[Asker]

Do you think it’s too soon to ask him about this?

[wolfunknown]

How many dates have you been on?

[Asker]

7 dates in 5 weeks. There’s another one coming soon.

[wolfunknown]

So over a month, that's a good amount of time.
If you feel like it is good and feels right, you should bring the topic of a commitment.

[Asker]

I’m not ready for a committed relationship with him yet but I hope this is where we’re heading to. However, knowing that he might be seeing other girls at the same time do hold me back from opening up coz I have doubt on how much he’s interested in me:(. And he’s leaving soon so I don’t know what I’m doing 😂

[wolfunknown]

Well in that case, you can just supress your feelings, nothing else to do

[Asker]

Yeah I’ll bear with it for a while. Thank you for your help:) at least I know it’s not too soon to talk about it.

[TwiNshichamp1]

No that is the good thing to do. Ask him if he wants being in a relationship or just want to be free and uncommitted.

[Asker]

He told me he’s looking for something serious but I guess he thinks we are still in the process of knowing each other. Which I agree. Just I hate seeing him going out with other girls.

[TwiNshichamp1]

Yes many believe that you should know that going to date with someone doesn't make that someone not to see other people. it's kinda a lot of effort but I would prefer doing 1 after another. I think the problem is the fear of missing out. He knows that if he concentrate on 1 girl at a time, he will loose the other maybe the other will be more interesting and having a connection with than the first girl. I think this is it.

[Asker]

Yeah but after 7 dates can’t he tell which one he likes more? Or he’s just not that into me. :(

[TwiNshichamp1]

I think so maybe he is not just into you, have you guys got intimate?

[Asker]

Not yet! He holds my hands and we hugs. He told me he wants our first kiss at somewhere romantic. And he said I’m very sexy. So hopefully it was not his excuse😂

[TwiNshichamp1]

I hope so too 😂, stick to him and see where the relationship is going. If you truly like the guy you should tell him too😅 (I don't know if you ever did) then tell him you love him, he is so cute, you only want him, and you feel jealous seeing him with other girls. Do it romantically if you know what I mean, I hope he will change or if not you will know your status to him. This is a trick try it out and see.

[Asker]

That’s a really good advice! Thank you! I’ll try it once I really want to and determine to be with him.

[TwiNshichamp1]

All the best but it seems you're not sure about him yet

[TwiNshichamp1]

Maybe you still knowing each other.

[Staximus]

He's leaving the country, how much clearer does it have to be? Go find a guy who lives near you

[fred_durst]

he is not even living at your country , so i dont think he saw you as his main priority ,

[JohnK123]

Well if ur complaint at the 7th why weren’t u complaining at the 4th that he was still on it?