Guys, how do you show feelings to girls and I miss ya meaning?

[Anonymous]

A guy I'm into sent me my stuff I left when I visited with him. With the stuff had a little note and at the end of the not it said anyway... MISS YA in big letters. Not sure if guys would write that if they didn't miss you or what? He initiated flirting with me and then I visited and had an amazing week. He treated me like girlfriend etc but isn't ready for anything. He was cheated on and doesn't trust. Could be distance and unsurness bc of trust not sure. Would you write that if it wasn't true that you didn't miss someone and the way guys treat you how to tell if something really there?

[coolbreeze]

I think he showed his feelings by treating you like a girlfriend and by writing those big letters on the note. I think he is afraid of getting hurt if he was cheated on before. I think once he fully trust you he may let his guard down. And may want something more serious.

[Asker]

Yeah I hope so and I was saying about the distance maybe that's stopping him. I also know he goes on tinder for random hookups nothing like we had. I don't like it but can't change it yet.

[coolbreeze]

That is true the distant thing can be a problem and obstacle. But can work out if he wants it to. That tinder thing can be tough for him to let go because maybe he likes his freedom and indepence of doing whatever he wants. Being serious with somebody would give him structure and maybe he isn't ready for that yet. I think the tinder thing could change one day.

[Asker]

I would hope so. Talking everyday seems good at least I think so. I mean sometimes he initiated it like the other day when he sent me a pic of him wearing a shirt I bought him but now usually it's me initiating which I don't necessarily like. Which he did more but he could possibly be seeing if I'm going to make the effor like he did when we first started taking and seeing if uh I guess trust me and such. If a guy really didn't want to talk they wouldn't answer a text message right? He has been talking to me so it seems good. When we talk everyday not today yet I always usually ask how his day was etc. this all seems good but I just wish the tinder thing would stop and he would want more with me. When we first started talking he said like he really liked me and one day I'll love him and be his girlfriend so I'm hoping it is true or was his way of really flirting, but he kept it up the whole time I was there

[coolbreeze]

I think that is good that you and him talk everyday. That is good that he sent a pic of the shirt that you brought him. Yeah I think he is testing you that is why he wants you to intiate more which sucks since he did it in the begging. Yeah I think if a guy didn't want to be bothered then he wouldn't respond back right away or not answer the text or the phone. Or he may take a couple of days to text back. etc. That is good that your talking to him and comminicating. I do hope he keeps his word and promise about you being his girlfriend and loving him. I hope that tinder thing stops one day.

[Asker]

Yeah like I said I don't know if that you'll love me one day and this being a girlfriend recruiting trip thing was him being drip use because when he first said it I was like lol and he said he was being serious but now that I was with him he doesn't say that stuff. He does respond quite quickly unless he's at work sometimes it takes awhile but he does reapond. I also knew he was with someone else one night due to my friend telling me but he did respond after I guess after the person left. Testing me does suck but I am makin that effort to talk with him but I don't want to bother him all the time so every once in awhile I don't text him for the whole day/night. Even. If I texted him like I did the other day he was asleep when I did he texted me the next morning when he woke up to apologize already he was sleeping when I texted.. It all seems good so we will see

[coolbreeze]

I am glad that he responds quick. And I think it's good that you space out the texts and responses. Even if he doesn't mention that girlfriend thing doesn't mean it is not on his mind. That does suck he was with a girl. But thats good he responded back to the text. True if somebody is busy it may take them a while to respond back. Things seem to be going good with you and him communicating.

[Asker]

Yupp it all seems good to me with the communication and texts. I'm hoping something good eventually happens because I think he really is worth it and we would be great together

[coolbreeze]

That is good. I hope something happens and develops soon to. I think the chemistry is their. And you both sound like you would make a cute couple.

[Asker]

Thanks me too!! I think we would make a good couple that has a lasting relationship. he's someone I see building with. He took good care of me while there I can imagine in the future. Good chemistry both sexual and other just have to make him see to fully trust me and start something even if for now it will be ldr then not

[coolbreeze]

That is good that you see something their. I agree the chemistry has to be their completely from the sexual side, the pysical side and emotional and getting along side. That is also true he has to fully trust you and communicate well with you. I am glad he took care of you well when you was around him. Even if it's long distance ir can work if you both want it to. How far away does he live?

[Asker]

He's in Florida I in nj so about 1200 miles. I really think the distance is the thing stopping him but I'm not sure. When he first started flirting he said lets get this ldr started. Like I said I don't know if that was his way of flirting or if he really wants it but when I got feelings he got scared

[coolbreeze]

Wow that is a distance. But it can work out. That is true the distant thing could be holding him back. If he flirted that he want the ldr then he could had been serious. I think he could be scared to to committ. I think if he really likes and cares for you then he will try it.

[Asker]

Yeah maybe eventually after seeing he can trust, but I'm not sure. Like I said I'm the one initiating it more so now which sucks but could be a test I don't know. Or if i possibly moved down there which I'm thinking, just for a change for myself then it would def be a lot better with distance lol

[coolbreeze]

Yeah I think it is a test. It does suck that you have to intiate more. I think once he fully trusts things should be alright. Lol that is true of course moving is way better then distance. I think that would be a big step. If he is the one then it could be worth it.

[Asker]

He's pretty established in Florida so it would be me moving. His family lives here and he moved there about 2 years ago. When he first started talking to me he told me to move down to lol but like I said I don't know what that was. He also just sent me a snap this morning. Nothing special but still something. I guess we will see all what happens.

[coolbreeze]

That is good that he is established down their. Lol he told you to move down their proves to me he has interest in you. Lol that is good that he sent a snap chat to you. When you says his family lives here I think you mean nj right?

[Asker]

Yupp they live in Nj. He said all that when he first started talking to me, but hasn't said any of that recently.

[coolbreeze]

That is cool that they live their. Even if he hasn't mention it recently doesn't mean he is not thinking about it. So what do you and him normally talk about?

[Asker]

I don't know just random things. I usually ask how his day went etc. like last night he asked about my weekend and such. I guess just stuff like that and random lol and sexual as well sometimes

[coolbreeze]

Lol random and sexual stuff is good. Gotta keep things interesting with topics and such. I think just as long as you guys talk and communicate as much as possible then things can work out.

[Asker]

I hope so, I just get discouraged I guess because he initiated everything and was that way to me and now that I have been texting first etc it's like he doesn't need to try anymore. I don't know if it's that way with all guys or not but I wish he was lovey dovey again when he first started flirting with me lol

[coolbreeze]

Lol Yeah the lovey dovey phase is the best phase. I ain't gonna lie I think a lot of guyas slack off when they feel they got their girl or she isn't going any where. Guys get lazy and chill a d change. Don't get to discourage. I think your doing intiating first. I wish more girls were like you in that department. I think most guts wouldn't mind a girl starting off things first.

[Asker]

I mean I'm trying lol with the texts everyday and what not. Just wish it was how he acted when he was trying lol.. I may suggest a weekend trip since next 2 weekends are holidays. The last time I said something about vacation he said I could come for a weekend but he had to check his calendar which I think he forgot about lol since he's so busy.

[coolbreeze]

That is good that your trying with the texts everyday. Lol. I think that is good. Yeah suggest a weekend trip. And I hope he can see you and fit you in his schedule. I think it's good that your trying and is putting in effort.

[AmeerX]

I might but I would write MISS YOU MISS.

[Asker]

So your saying he wrote that because he does miss me?

[AmeerX]

Yes, he misses you.

[Asker]

I really hope that he does.

[AmeerX]

Yes, he does.