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I know a lot of different types of men
You've obviously never met one like me. I am the most non-judgmental, forgiving person when it comes to relationships. The only time I didn't forgive a particular girl was when my best friend in college had a key to my apartment (he was an orphan who lived with his grandmother and couldn't take girls to his place), and when a certain class got canceled, I caught them in my bed in my apartment having sex. I think that is justified.
I would never do that!!
lied... a year ago
About something big or small?
something most have considered forgiveable
You don't want to share what it was, huh? OK, no pressure.Every man and woman are different. So the blanket statement is over the top.If it was over a year ago and he has not forgiven you but is still with you then he needs to grow up. You do not hold something over someones head for a year or more in a loving relationship. The only possible exceptions would be if the forgiveness is abused or a serious breach of trust connected to the lie, but these are usually relationship killers.I realize the Bible and all things Bible related are mostly frowned on here, but humor me for just a moment, OK?The Bible states that you should not let the sun set on your anger, it also says to forgive AND forget. I would say that any relationship can benefit from these two concepts.First, don't let anger fester, deal with it, talk it out. Next, if one of you forgives the other for something then the forgiver never brings it up. If it keeps coming up then there was no forgiveness, only words.
lol I can message you about it
OK... From what you told me a year is more than enough time to have recovered from your lie. A month should have been.What is his justification for continuing to hold this against you? I mean the obvious motivation is fear, but he is not so afraid that he felt the need to end the relationship. The amount of fear he is displaying in not forgiving you and his desire to continue the relationship are contradictory.
I couldn't agree with you more and whenever I decide I'm over it and leave... he always comes back and gets mad at the thought of him moving on.
what could be the only other fear? won't forgive me but won't let me go to be happy with someone else either and when I try he flips out
I don't either just this particular guy