My ex is 39. I'm 33. My mom is 55. We broke up a little over a month ago but have been talking on and off. I know he still loves me. He keeps telling me that. But he says he can't be with me because he's screwed up. He has PTSD and has recently been seeing a therapist. He admitted to me that he has had multiple sex partners since our breakup. He says he feels like doing that will clear his mind and make him feel normal. I asked if it does. He says it does for that moment.
Anyway, I know he was introduced to sex by one of his friend's mom growing up when he was about 12. And then he met at lady when he was 16, she was 26. They ended up getting married, he went into the army at least 18. They started a family. He went overseas a lot. They stayed married up until till 4 years ago. We met when he was going through his divorce. He confided in me about a week ago that he's been talking a lot to his therapist about her. And he's starting to come to the conclusion, and his therapist agrees, that a lot of what he is going through now has to do with his relationship with her at such a young age.
So anyway, today I just found out from my mom that he has drunk called her twice. Last week and last night. Saying stuff like he has been fantasizing about her, he thinks she's sexy, he wants to have sex with her and stuff like that. I'm so numb right now. I don't know what to think. I'm hurt. But I also feel bad for him. He's so broken. Has anyone delta with these types of situations? I'm a pretty open minded person. Patient and understanding. I know men think completely different from women. But I'm not sure what to think about this. :/
Anyway, I know he was introduced to sex by one of his friend's mom growing up when he was about 12. And then he met at lady when he was 16, she was 26. They ended up getting married, he went into the army at least 18. They started a family. He went overseas a lot. They stayed married up until till 4 years ago. We met when he was going through his divorce. He confided in me about a week ago that he's been talking a lot to his therapist about her. And he's starting to come to the conclusion, and his therapist agrees, that a lot of what he is going through now has to do with his relationship with her at such a young age.
So anyway, today I just found out from my mom that he has drunk called her twice. Last week and last night. Saying stuff like he has been fantasizing about her, he thinks she's sexy, he wants to have sex with her and stuff like that. I'm so numb right now. I don't know what to think. I'm hurt. But I also feel bad for him. He's so broken. Has anyone delta with these types of situations? I'm a pretty open minded person. Patient and understanding. I know men think completely different from women. But I'm not sure what to think about this. :/
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