My boyfriends mom asked me if we have sex?

[Anonymous]

I’m 21. It was the first time meeting my boyfriends parents who had come to visit him from abroad. My boyfriends mom asked me if we’re active and told me to be careful to not get pregnant. I felt quite annoyed and I think my boyfriend knows that I am. Should I tel my boyfriend or leave it?

[Anonymous]

Annoyed because you felt she was nosy or not minding her business? Well not that I'm saying her actions were "ok", but look at it from her side, if it was your son, you might feel the same way right? And maybe it was her tone or how she said it that rubbed you the wrong way? I think she's just worried about her son, and the affect you could have on his life (in the negative ways - in her mind). You can share it with you boyfriend, but maybe talk to her again? Clear the air so to speak (depending how much this is bothering you, which sounds like a lot?). I think it's the only way to make you feel any better. I doubt your boyfriend will say anything, but you can share it so he knows what's going on with you as he'll sense something is up. But I think she meant well, even if it didn't come across that way (?).

[OlderAndWiser]

Of course you should tell him. Keeping secrets is not a way to build a good, trusting relationship. And if there is a problem to address, you need to do that as a team, not individually.

[Anonymous]

I think you should tell him. In all honesty, it sounds like his mom thinks you’re not good enough for him to even consider kids. Anyway, I’m the end, what matters is what you and your boyfriend wants.

[Anonymous]

That’s weird and she should really but out of your relationship business.

[HawkPerception]

Yeah I personally think parents shouldn't pry into their kids sex life, especially in front of their partner. Your boyfriend's mom is in the wrong, but unless he initiated it, which it seems like he didn't, then it's not on him.

[Th3ft]

I mean you can bring it up and see how he feels. It might be something that would annoy him too. If he feels like she was in the right you might want to get a new boyfriend… lol!

[TheFlak38]

The stupid questions mothers ask. At least she didn't drag you to the corner to tell you "Now you listen to me lass, if you want to have sex with my son you must first marry him." like mine did with my then girlfriend.

[Hoomin]

Maybe , you should have a conversation on the topic to clear your mind

[slatyb]

You should have replied “I’m not going to discuss that with you.”

[Twalli]

You can tell your boyfriend what his mom said. It shouldn't be a huge deal though. My mom asked me when my girlfriend and I became sexually active with each other. Her mom also asked her.

[Zygum]

You should have your decision, so don't care about his mom

[Massageman]

Time for a nice little three-way convo.

[Jamie05rhs]

It was a legitimate question.

[jahaims]

Weird that she cares about her adult sons sex life

[Wise4myage]

Yikes, talk about awkward. Tell him.

[Jouth]

Have sex with his Mom to assert dominance

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she’s a mama‘s boy

[Anonymous]

tell him