I told her how I feel and got no reply?

[Anonymous]

Problem is I made two big mistakes, I did it over Facebook whilst she was in work. She was taking ages to reply and as soon as she started typing I wrote "dw, its all gravy" and then logged off. Bad move by my end but I guess I bottled it, not wanting to get turned down. I don't know what to do now. I'm a fool tbh.

We were somewhat seeing each other but not officially and neither of us were to make a proper move. A group of us went clubbing and I was my usual self of pretty much blanking her caues I'm too much of a sap to do anything - she ends up pulling some other guy that was on the bus and then apologizes for it the next day, that's when I felt the need to tell her - now I wish I hadn't.

So what do I do now, contact her and say something or wait for her to give me some feedback?

Updates

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She initiated conversation with me on Facebook - idle chit chat, asking questions such as how am i, up to much etc. Does that mean anything? Is she dodging what I asked her or does it show she's still interested in talking to me?

[bobair]

Take some time to REALLY understand what you did wrong.

Women don't respond to what you're saying, they respond to who you're BEING.

You were BEING needy.

Girls aren't attracted to guys they don't respect, and it's hard to respect a needy guy.

Girls are naturally attracted to men who don't need them. Strange right?

Girls want to be desired, but they don't want to be "needed."

As BOYS we might need a mom, need a baby sitter, or need hand holding. It's a part of growing up, but this is a very weak energy to bring into the dating world. And women can feel it from a mile away.

But as MEN we should become masculine, and self disciplined, and self sufficient. It's our job to take care of ourselves and to be sooo good at it that we have enough energy to take care of those around us too. This is a powerful energy to bring into the world of dating because it will naturally make your women feel safe, relaxed, and comfortable.

Now ask yourself this: "Why did I NEED to tell her how I was feeling?"

Either you couldn't remain comfortable holding in your excitement (you're too weak to have feelings you don't share?) or more likely you were desperately hoping she felt the same way so that you could finally know where you stand.

You see, as men it's our job to remain BALANCED, comfortable in our own skin, and ALWAYS HAVE COMPOSURE.

If you can't wait to find out how she feels about you, then how are you going to handle life's REAL challenges? And she see's this as you being weak and needy. This will push her away VERY fast. Can you blame her?

So from here on you must learn how to keep your composure, and keep these insecurities to yourself. If you're insecure, deal with it. Seek help from someone else... NOT from her.

Perhaps when you're in a deeply committed relationship you can sometimes share such things, but not until then!

NEXT STEPS?

Give her space, learn a lesson, and hope she's very forgiving of your recent blunders. And NEVER act so needy again.

Best of luck man!

~ Robby

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[Anonymous]

You signed off before you got a reply! Wait for her to reply! lol I'm not laughing at you I just think it's cute

[Asker]

But is cute a good thing? I guess I'll just wait for her reply - but if she doesn't it's gonna drive me insane.

[Opinion Owner]

Listen to what Bobair said... no girl should have the effect on you that you go insane.