Why does my boyfriend want us to go to a sex club?

[Anonymous]

I've been seeing my boyfriend 18 months. We are in love. I've never felt this way before. I had been in a long abusive relationship (he knows this) so find it hard to trust and believe again. We both agree the sex is amazing, Off the charts he tells me, an that he's not had this with anyone else. He says he loves an adores me and that I blow his mind. Yet he has asked me to attend a sex club with him? I can't get my head round it, lm very open minded and like the fantasy but not the reality of this? We click unbelievably an can talk about anything, an have spoken about it. He tells me he has been 3 times before with a girl, but he didn't care about her like he does me. lve researched the club and it seems the classier end, it states only attractive people welcome? I have been told im pretty, stunning by people but don't believe it or see it. looking at the girls that attend the club all seem to look like models with perfect bodies. Is this my insecurities? He has told me he has insecurities? which makes me question Why the hell he would want to see me with other guys? He says it's fine because we would be together? Im confused and not sure what to think. l just want to be happy an in love! things seemed perfect an l worry. Do l get out now before it ends in tears? Someone Help!! Lol its doing my head in 😣

[VerNauPap]

Depends.. if he really means... love - or lust.

I have done it with women I have been very close to because I wanted to give them the experience that other men wouldn't. It was my dirtiest gift to my girlfriend. I knew they were curious and I figured.. why not!

In other cases I have done it because my girlfriend at the time was really too occupied with many guy "friends". My relationship felt unsteady and to give her the last taboo mean my last "hail mary" to keep her around.

I think I started to enjoy it too much actually. That it has become more of a staple in my sex life.

In either case if you dont feel that need to explore things sexually - tell him. NO, thats not my thing. I want you and you only. You want to get your jollies use a dildo as you back up and we can have fun that way... otherwise no forget it. Don't leave any ambiguity.

[SarahsSummer]

Yes. Get out. One of the worst thing that can happen in a relationship is to be forced to do something you are not comfortable with. if he truly loves you, he will not subject you to something you don't want. I know in my relationship my guy is basically the dominant one which I love but if he ever said he wants to see me with other guys or me to see him with other girls, I'd be gone. You can have amazing sex and non-abusive love with a man that wants only you. Go find that man.

[apple24]

Awe I read everything! I think he idiot! Why the hell does he want that from you? look if you don't like that because i wouldn't than leave run!!! I think he has some strange fetish... yeah best to leave!!!

[psychomonkey]

He thinks it'll be fun to bring you