Fuck buddy etiquette?

[Anonymous]

Am confused as the guy I've slept with on 3 occasions , whose meant to be a fuck buddy, always spoons, pulls me in for cuddles , stays in bed not wanting to go , kisses my hair , forehead , body and we talk about our families, lives feelings etc though we started off meeting on tinder not even friends to begin with, I act colder as don't want a attachment happening , Apart from arranging to meet we have no contact really but when we do it's very intense and almost falls into boyfriend/ girlfriend behaviour , just wondered if this is normal friends with benefits behaviour as it is confusing to me and I'm gonna cut loose before I get hooked into the intimacy.

[BertMacklinFBI]

d00d your only business should be fucking and thats about it really. purely sexual relief, done.

1 person always defects in this ordeal. seems like its him, not you, who is defecting.

[Asker]

Really I'm the one who definitely would be prone to defecting , he's actually quite a closed book out of this situation and I get no texts etc only for hooking up , I just find the whole cuddling me/spooning me between sex and next morning quite intense , it's literally constant and wondered if it's a typical male thing to do or do I just have a cuddler on my hands? Ordeal is a perfect way of summing it up , my first friends with benefits situation and looks to be my last.

[BertMacklinFBI]

well true, he could just be the snuggler/cuddler type, and hey who knows maybe he is also the type of guy to talk about his family and move the conversation towards deeper topics, but probability is not on your side that you did end up with a guy like that who can still keep it 100% sex only and just so happened to talk about all these things while snuggling with you in bed. Maybe he's just satisfying another urge in his life, but again, satisfying that urge leads to more doors to be opened, which may not have been his intention in the first place, but now has developed new ones, and boom, there you have a defect. that whole process simplified into how people defect in a fuck buddy situation. possible, but not probable.

[Anonymous]

OK and that's when you are both able to get into each other give the guy a break

[BellePepper]

That def sounds like feels to me.