Guys, do you offer to carry your female friends' tote bags when you hang out with them? And why?

[Anonymous]

I mean if she always carries a tote bag like one of these in addition to her handbag :

Yes, I do.

No, I don't.

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I am asking because ky guy friend usually offers to carry it for me when we hang out. I always decline politely because I feel bad to let him do so.

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my* guy friend

[Anonymous]

It's not a casual friend like relationship thing to do. If it were obviously getting in the way when you went to do something and he was like "Hey, I can hold your totally unnecessary bag for you" than it would make sense, because he's either innocently poking fun at you or flirting with you. I would offer to hold an older woman's things pretty easily, but not a woman my age. The friendzone thing makes sense, but it also makes sense that he is just kind of feminine and quirky and doesn't really understand the message he is sending.

[Asker]

What friendzone thing? :-)

[Opinion Owner]

I don't usually use the term friendzone, because it's an obnoxious term, but he may not have it in him to actually take the steps to really get a girls attention or be confident enough to ask you out. Which might explain why he is doing odd things like this. It could be a super passive aggressive way to say that he likes you.

[lightbulb27]

I hear Polish women like that, maybe he thinks it is too much for you. I don't offer. If she asks I will and usually make a joke carrying it. Its frustrating because they never match my outfit (LOL)!

[spuitkaas]

One time a guy friend offered me that too. I was kind of weirded out because my bag wasn't heavy or anything. Then later I though maybe he wanted to be chivalrous, but chivalry is not really that common here, so it was just weird.
I like to keep my stuff with me so if I lost them, it's my own fault.

[EllieLexis513]

I've had guys offer to do it for me, but that's only if my arms are full or I'm looking for something or something like that. However, they don't ask if we're just walking around.

[BaileyisDarcy]

Why would you have a tote bag AND a handbag? Why not just use one or the other?

[YepThatsIt]

I will offer to carry her before I offer to carry her bag that she decided to bring with her.

Assuming I am not using it in any sense.

[Asker]

Carry her as in?

[Asker]

My guy friend usually offers to carry my tote bag for me when we hang out. I always decline politely because I feel bad to let him do so.

[YepThatsIt]

As in literally carry her.

If a guy does offer to do it though he just trying to be nice. No need to second guess it much. That or he is trying to steal your rad bag. One of the two.

[Asker]

Thank you for your comment.

[RandomBritishGuy94]

No. Why would I? If we shop (we have to be very close for me to be shopping with you) and she buys a lot of stuff I offer to help. She's a friend and would help me. Otherwise carry your own stuff.

[RandomBritishGuy94]

If your male friend offers I wouldn't look to much into it. He's probably just being nice. There is an chance he wants more then friendship but things will add up. It won't be based off a few offers like carrying your bag.

[ConsultantIsBack]

Only if it's Michael Kors, Louis Vuitton, or Gucci bags, Man needs to have his standards ya know

[DasTierInMir]

😂 okay then... No holding no cheap bags eh...😜

[ConsultantIsBack]

@DasTierInMir hahaha jk

[FatherJack]

@Consultantisback... that's SOOO last season !!

[ConsultantIsBack]

@FatherJack lmao

[Anonymous]

She shouldn't have brought it if she didn't want to carry it around. I wouldn't bring something if I just ended up making someone else carry it. That would make me very selfish spoiled and rude.

[Asker]

Yeah, but my guy friend usually offers to carry it for me when we hang out. I always decline politely because I feel bad to let him do so.

[purplepineapple]

No thanks weird to ask them if they are friends. But if they ask me I'll say yeah and think nothing of it.

[Azgeda]

Ah what the heck , sure , it's just a tote bag , if it were handbag with rocks in them I might think twice.

[sweettckae]

My ex held my handbag the whole time we were out together, there is nothing un manly about it. I've seen other men do the same for their SOs.

[Finesse18]

Yes because it's the nice/gentleman thing to do... Just like walking on the roadside of her and buying the dinner...

[jaxxten]

i carry whatever anyone needs me to carry, cos i care and im helpful.

[chrisbigman]

Unless it's really heavy, I don't. She can carry her own bag - unless it's too heavy. Granted, she wouldn't make it so heavy in the first place, I wouldn't think.

[AssJacket]

Yeah, and sometimes I spend the night and we do each other's nails and have pillow fights and talk about boys.

[NYkid27]

I only carry it if I notice that it's heavy because I think it's rude to have a woman carry something heavy when I could just carry it for her

[Helghast_kitty]

if she's carrying a bunch of stuff, i'll offer to help. I'm probably not going to think to ask if it's only one bag though. It's the same for guy friends.

[Anonymous]

I would only help her carry something that is obviously very heavy otherwise I just get teased and put down for it.

[TheGuyFromMiddleEast]

Well, I carried one of my friends' yesterday, but it was because she had a surgery concerning her upper body structure recently. Normally, I may or may not offer to carry it, depending on how heavy it looks.

[AhGojira]

Nope. You brought that shit with you on your own for your own reasons. I didn't ask you to bring it. Think ahead, don't try to burden other people due to your own shortsightedness.

[kstout6]

Your friendzoned friend wants to impress you.

[Asker]

Friendzoned?

[Asker]

Why did you say so?

[Deconstruction]

I will only offer that if she needs help with it. If not, it is kinda trashy, fake and condescending.

[thatkaruguy]

youve got hands use them.

[Asker]

Yeah, but my guy friend usually offers to carry it for me when we hang out. I always decline politely because I feel bad to let him do so.

[thatkaruguy]

he's probably simping hoping that it will make you like him and get a lay.

[Dred1614]

I don't unless I deem it necessary. For example, she could be carrying other stuff and I'll take some of it to help her out. I wouldn't just do that for females, though.

[Meatballs]

Well in my case it would be to be a gentleman but nowadays guys are probably just looking at getting their pants

[bcromartie]

You got arms and it's the heaviest thing you lift. What kind of gentleman takes that precious exercise from you?

[orphan]

offer? fuck no. if asked? surely.

i also insist on carrying all misc bags collected when shopping.

[nog6422]

I don't have any female friends...

[insert sad violin here]

[Keepcalm89]

Well is a way some guys were raised, some were raised more conservative like me and don't find that weird.

[Melcart23]

What do I look like a fucking storage area? Lol hell no

[Blueeyes81]

Nope. She is perfectly capable of carrying it herself.

[jakeofalltrades]

no if she wants to lug it around that is her problem

[teatea111]

TOTE LIFE

[Asker]

What did you mean? :-)

[teatea111]

Lol I was just referencing something from a cartoon. It's called We Bare Bears and one of the episodes is about how they get a tote bag and sort of get favors from other people who use tote bags. It's like some kinda freaky tote cult LOL

[Asker]

Haha, I see :-D

[Asker]

My guy friend usually offers to carry my tote bag for me when we hang out. I always decline politely because I feel bad to let him do so.

[teatea111]

He's probably just trying to be gentlemanly
No need to overthink c:

[DarkHumorRUs]

My female friends don't carry bags.

[TheGreyMan]

Fuck no. I'm not a pack mule.

[worldscolide]

Not usually but i will if asked

[sixnineanon]

No I'm not a shopping cart or whatever

[Tarvold]

Fuck no.

[YOussefElAdl]

is he gay

[Anonymous]

what a bitch boy

[Anonymous]

nah that's gay