It's not a casual friend like relationship thing to do. If it were obviously getting in the way when you went to do something and he was like "Hey, I can hold your totally unnecessary bag for you" than it would make sense, because he's either innocently poking fun at you or flirting with you. I would offer to hold an older woman's things pretty easily, but not a woman my age. The friendzone thing makes sense, but it also makes sense that he is just kind of feminine and quirky and doesn't really understand the message he is sending.
I hear Polish women like that, maybe he thinks it is too much for you. I don't offer. If she asks I will and usually make a joke carrying it. Its frustrating because they never match my outfit (LOL)!
One time a guy friend offered me that too. I was kind of weirded out because my bag wasn't heavy or anything. Then later I though maybe he wanted to be chivalrous, but chivalry is not really that common here, so it was just weird.
I like to keep my stuff with me so if I lost them, it's my own fault.
I've had guys offer to do it for me, but that's only if my arms are full or I'm looking for something or something like that. However, they don't ask if we're just walking around.
Why would you have a tote bag AND a handbag? Why not just use one or the other?
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I will offer to carry her before I offer to carry her bag that she decided to bring with her.
Assuming I am not using it in any sense.
No. Why would I? If we shop (we have to be very close for me to be shopping with you) and she buys a lot of stuff I offer to help. She's a friend and would help me. Otherwise carry your own stuff.
Only if it's Michael Kors, Louis Vuitton, or Gucci bags, Man needs to have his standards ya know
She shouldn't have brought it if she didn't want to carry it around. I wouldn't bring something if I just ended up making someone else carry it. That would make me very selfish spoiled and rude.
No thanks weird to ask them if they are friends. But if they ask me I'll say yeah and think nothing of it.
Ah what the heck , sure , it's just a tote bag , if it were handbag with rocks in them I might think twice.
My ex held my handbag the whole time we were out together, there is nothing un manly about it. I've seen other men do the same for their SOs.
Yes because it's the nice/gentleman thing to do... Just like walking on the roadside of her and buying the dinner...
i carry whatever anyone needs me to carry, cos i care and im helpful.
Unless it's really heavy, I don't. She can carry her own bag - unless it's too heavy. Granted, she wouldn't make it so heavy in the first place, I wouldn't think.
Yeah, and sometimes I spend the night and we do each other's nails and have pillow fights and talk about boys.
I only carry it if I notice that it's heavy because I think it's rude to have a woman carry something heavy when I could just carry it for her
if she's carrying a bunch of stuff, i'll offer to help. I'm probably not going to think to ask if it's only one bag though. It's the same for guy friends.
I would only help her carry something that is obviously very heavy otherwise I just get teased and put down for it.
Well, I carried one of my friends' yesterday, but it was because she had a surgery concerning her upper body structure recently. Normally, I may or may not offer to carry it, depending on how heavy it looks.
Nope. You brought that shit with you on your own for your own reasons. I didn't ask you to bring it. Think ahead, don't try to burden other people due to your own shortsightedness.
Your friendzoned friend wants to impress you.
I will only offer that if she needs help with it. If not, it is kinda trashy, fake and condescending.
youve got hands use them.
I don't unless I deem it necessary. For example, she could be carrying other stuff and I'll take some of it to help her out. I wouldn't just do that for females, though.
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