I thought we were friends but now he ignores me?

[Anonymous]

I recently reconnected with an old fling after he reached out saying he wanted to be friends. I thought "why not?" since I've moved on and have been dating someone else for nearly a year. We hung out for over 5 hours outside a coffee shop and I realized I had been missing his friendship. He's a great conversationalist even if we're not right for each other. A few days after that though, he went completely off the radar, and then a few weeks later pictures of him with a girl surfaced on Facebook, and they're apparently an item now. He only barely acknowledges me when we see each other around as well. I'm now thinking that he wasn't sincere about his offer of friendship - would it be safe to assume he was just using me/wanted to get in my pants? And now that he has a girlfriend, I'm of no "use" to him anymore?

[BleachedFixxxer]

Seems like he was lonely in that he was tired of being without companionship. Both emotionally and sexually. Reaching out to you for "friendship" was not his main goal. He was looking to rekindle a relationship. Dipping into the ex pool is a move of desperation, BUT do not interperate his choice of you being solely out of desperation. Meaning he simply got depserate so he figured he go after the "one that got away". The one he cared for the most. His perception after the 5 hours is that you moved on and his chances are over. Since you are the one that got away , he most likely cannot emotionally handle just a friendship.

[reptocarl]

Now you know why most will tell you to never have anything to do with an ex forever

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think it's safe to assume that. Either that or he was testing the possibility to see if you guys were compatible.