Do girls care if a guy is muscular?

Question

I work out daily and it is noticeable but I don't really get the attention from girls that I would like. Keeping in shape is a lot of work and I will admit that I am proud of the results but I'm not freakishly huge nor do I walk around with super tight t shirts on like some guys do. I think that looks pretty dumb.  Anyway, do girls even care about if guys have a toned physique?

Marion · Accepted Answer

I love muscles on a guy. I think they enhance the male V shape which is so sensual and sexy. Most woman will notice a guy that is athletically built and most women will find it attractive. However, you will often hear women say that they do not care about that stuff. Women don't want to be perceived as shallow. Men are expected to be shallow, and it is widely accepted by society. Women on the other hand, are looked down upon by other women in particular, for wanting a man who is good looking and nicely built. It is a sad double standard, but it is true. I was once ridiculed, by a group of women, (and men) for having the audacity to state that I thought the male nude body was very exciting to look at. It is unfortunate, because men want to feel attractive to us also. Even men are conditioned to see themselves as unattractive. I should feel that most men would love to hear a woman appreciate their beauty and state so. It does not help to hear such disparaging remarks, and I might be a little more cautious next time.

You say that you do not get the attention you would like. You also stated that you do not wear tight shirts. Do you wear clothes that fit? Men today, have a tendency to wear clothing that is so oversized, and unsexy, that even a well built body is hard to see under so many pockets, folds, and droops. I never could understand why men do this to themselves. If you wear clothing that is flattering to you and fits nicely, I guarantee you women are noticing. You will stand out in a crowd of overweight men and skinny men in grossly oversized clothing.

Also, perhaps you expect to be looked at by women, the way women are looked at by men. You have to understand, that women are far more subtle in the way we look at men. Women do in fact have a much greater ability to take more visual sensations in with a glance than a man. You would be amazed at what we can see in just a second or two! Men are wired to zero in on a visual stimulus (perhaps because of their evolutionary roots as hunters zeroing on prey and staying with it). We also don't want to be caught, while men don't mind being caught, because it is an acceptable man thing. Remember what I said about my appreciation of the male body. There is a stigma to it, and women don't want to be seen as shallow. If you are dressed in clothing that fits your body flatteringly, and you are dressed tastefully, I guarantee you, women are looking at you.

Novae · Accepted Answer

Muscular or not muscular, with or without a toned physique, physical attraction is important for intimate chemistry but not as important as having the attitude, personality, behavior and overall charisma.

It also depends on personal taste, some girls really aren't attracted to muscular guys, some girls are. Some girls notice it, some girls don't, it's too broad of a category to even assume if girls as a gender prefer or don't prefer it.

Perhaps a better way to ask would be if personally in each individual's opinion, if they prefer it or not and if they care about the way a guy visually looks before getting to know him.

I personally, don't mind either way physically if a guy is muscular or not, both are attractive but most importantly to have a relationship is to have both physical and personality attraction.

It won't really work out if either category is lacking, unless each individual is in the relationship for other purposes.

You should also work out mainly to feel good within yourself, improve your health and find a girl who will love you for who you are naturally, not who you need to work so hard to become physically.

breath182 · Accepted Answer

I honestly love it when a guy has a toned physique because its pretty damn hot! I work out all the time and I'm proud of the body I have from eating right, avoiding illegal substances and exercising. I want a guy to treat his body the same.

If a guy eats healthy and works out frequently then it shows me that he believes in an active & healthy lifestyle. Since he is in shape I know we can do athletic activites together such as skiing,snowboarding, tennis, hiking, biking, running, swimming etc!

Be proud that you take care of yourself because when you do, other people notice that you take pride in the way you look. If you respect yourself then you'll respect others.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

interesting question bro. I'm a cage fighter but I have a different build. I'm long, lean with some muscle. Kind of like a runner...but with some bulk. It's my genetics. I usually have a six pack (especially in training).

I'm 29 now and I care a LOT less about having a perfect body. I thought when I was younger girls would really go for this. I found that girls who were unattractive (slutty, big, etc) gave me the most compliments vocally.

I also have downplayed the whole fighter deal. I have even been on cable TV twice...but I don't bring that up right away. I hint about it. When I was 24 I thought this would get me any girl I wanted...not true AT ALL.

However I am dating a 20 year old right now that gives me lots of compliments.

My advice to you is too keep yourself in shape, but don't make it a priority. It takes a great deal of physical and MENTAL energy to have a perfect body. Unfortunately this can interfere with your social life. If girls are your goal I would say stay in shape but do things to improve your social skills.

TimeAndTimeAgain · Accepted Answer

Girls are rarely interested on you because of the way you look. They might be attracted to you physically but that isn't gonna make them want to go out with you and stuff. If you want the attention of girls you're interested in, focus on your attitude and personality around them. I know it's annoying and stuff but it's just how girls work. I personally hate this because it's due to this reason alone that assholes who deserve to be alone, make girls fall in love with them and ruins it for the decent guys.

So girls might think you're "cute" or "hot" but that's only gonna last like 3-5 second in their brain. After that they're going to forget about you. In order to get their attention and keep it, you have to say or do something that'll make them attracted to you.

kirstentaylorc · Answer

I dated my ex for about 3 1/2 years and he's very big. 6'2, 220 pounds, works out/lifts every day. He said he was doing it for me but I honestly didn't care what he looked like, whenever we started dating he was skinny and in the middle he got overweight from stress etc and the last year or so he was doing this. I will say that after I got used to having him around I got used to the fact of having a bigger guy around. I don't think it really matters if the guy does or doesn't work out but it could always be a plus for the way you physically look. I personally think it's just a plus.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, I, personally, abhors gym muscles, they look freaky and unnatural. I am not a fat girl (5'3'' and 105 pounds, size 0 in most stores), but I am into guys that are a little chubby (not fat, just chubby).  I like guys who look huggable, someone who look like they'd enjoy food.  Last guy I dated was over 210 pounds, but he looked adorable to me (at the time).  Cut the answer short, no, we don't care.   Just make sure you are a good gentlemen, be in shape to carry heavy items and open jars that are too tight to open ;)

Brando · Answer

Do girls pass up average build guys for muscular guys? Of course. Do girls care about looks? Of course. Are there leagues in dating? Of course. Can you change your league? Of course. Is internet advice worse than experiencing success/failure in the real world? Of course. Am I out of questions at the moment? Of course. Am I willing to ask further questions once I think of them? Of course.

shes-a-lady · Answer

yea we do.

and its good that your not showing it off too obviously :)

maybe its your face.

if you don't have a cute face, your body can't make up for it sorry...

some dude in my class was really really muscular and I know a lot of girls liked him because of it. but me...idk I just didn't like his face so I wasnt attracted the tiniest bit :-/

JCUcupcake · Answer

Some girls like muscular guys and some don't. It's all about your personal preference and what makes guys attractive to you. I personally do like a muscular guy, because it shows that he cares about the way he looks and he is making an effort to impress girls. But I think personality is more important than looks in most cases.

xandra · Answer

i like muscular guys...well big guys in general :) as long as they don't wear tight shirts and so on...

sometimes though, what I've noticed on myself, is that if a really good looking and toned guy comes along, ill find myself sometimes "not noticing" on purpose, almost as if I don't want the guy to know his impact on me... I don't know, it sounds stupid but its completely out of my control..it just sort of happens and I catch myself doing it!

TheGoodTheBadTheHOT · Answer

Scientifically proven that the 'hour glass' ( V ) shape of a mans torso is more physically attractive to women than nothing. Great abs make many women melt and good arms are useful too.

Oh quick fact, during a woman's time of the month (on average) they are more attracted to larger, more muscluar guys.

AmieMangeDesOurs · Answer

not that I have any prejudices on certain body types but basically my rule is he can't be noticeably smaller than me. it makes girls feel uncomfortable because then they look fat compared to the guy. so I think the best body would just have good bone structure. like broad shoulders and built kinda bigger without any mega defined muscles. yeah no one really cares unless the guy looks unhealthy because that's a reflection on their lifestyle.

Mastermind · Answer

I mean it's nice for a guy to be muscular. It's some kind of a + . But I don't really like when a guy has too big muscles- it makes him look like a douchebag. And even if we notice someone like that most of the time we don't say anything so maybe that's what made you feel that you're not noticed. But you know what people say - Looks attract attention, personality captures the heart. :)

annabanna · Answer

girls are all different, if a guys is cute and has a great personality and on top of that a great body then he is definitely a plus, I personaly don't care if a guy is muscular but I like when a guy is healthy. but if working out makes you feel good and gives you confidence keep doing it cause I'm sure the results can only make you sexy

Miss-Scabtree · Answer

It really does depend on personal taste, but A girl shouldn't like a guy for how he looks like.

If you're trying to get ANY lady like maybe work out but not at all, some girls like skinny guys, some girls like guys that look like they can make a guy bleed if they get punched.

chatari · Answer

to be honest no one can answer this question. every male and every female are different. women like particular things in men and some just care for a loving good heart. with some women you can win her heart with your physical attributes but with other women you can win her over with a good heart that means well.

almost-in-love · Answer

yea, I care alot. I never really like huge muscles because I feel like he's gonna crush me when he hugs me. but muscles are good because I feel like he could protect me if he needed to.

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Anonymous · Answer

I don't at all.

My boyfriend is skinny. (:

I guess some girls do but I'd prefer non muscular over muscular.

It also depends on what kind of girl you are attracted to because "prissy" girls like that kind of thing and girls that are all like "f*** this" likes skinny guys.

That's not always the case; however, but a lot of times it is.

Anonymous · Answer

depends really.

if you don't have a face to match the body, it doesn't work.

also if you do have the physical characteristics, your attitude and personality

does also affect the attention you get from other girls.

i wouldn't pay attention to a guy who looked like a greek god if his personality

was trash and crap. honestly.

Anonymous · Answer

I find guys who are toned as being hot. Most girls do. But you aren't going to have girls falling all over you just because of your body. You also need the personality to match it. If I find a guy who is super sweet, caring, funny, and great, then having a toned body is just a good bonus! :) Good luck!

cacapisu · Answer

I work out too. I think they don't care if you are muscular, but being muscular helps your self confidence and that's a big bonus when it comes to girls Am I right girls ?

bribri5665 · Answer

OFCOURSE WE DO! We need to know that you can protect us. If your not getting the attention maybe you should try to show off your muscles a little more (that means slightly tighter t-shirts). But don't go to the point to where you're uncomfortable with your image. So don't stop workin out and just be confident with yourself. Girls will see your confidence and your muscles ;)

Lilywhite · Answer

mmm first of all you have to do exercise for your health not tempting girls ... but some girls like that, I  more care about his attitude or the way he thinks and I like cool thin guys good luck

ClearVision · Answer

Honestly, I like guys with some muscle definition but not completely ripped or anything.

Maybe that's because most ripped guys have too big of ego's, and that sort of personality isn't attractive to me.

isdbafjdnmvjsn · Answer

Not really. Actually I would be really scared if you were some big body builder, not attracttive at all! (at least imo) But ,just throwing it out there, I looove guys with nice arms ahhhh :3 so maybe just work oout those arm muscles hahaha :D

alexiabelle · Answer

attraction matters between opposite sex not just guy being muscular...but actually I don't like guys with too much muscle, I find them scary but I also don't like guys that are too skinny or too fat...i like boys to be hug-gable

raabzbaby89 · Answer

I don't. I also know plenty who don't either. I personally can go for no muscle at all. Some is usually nice though. Too muscular guys, like really skinny guys with big muscles that are obviously from protein shakes and stuff,  is a turn-off to me.

nollie33 · Answer

I think you should keep working out if you enjoy it, but personally muscles don't do anything for me.

uwbadgerguy · Answer

id say its not worth the effort if your trying to attract girls with your lifting results. all you need to please them is a skinny guy six pack which means low body fat. your not gonna stand out amongst the juicers tho in the clubs

kittygherkin · Answer

I don't care heaps. I kind of like tall gangly guys as well as kind of toned guys. I don't go for really built guys at all. :S

Having said that though, a guy's personality is seriously his most attractive quality. If a guy seems nice and confident he becomes more physically attractive to me as well. :)

(and also the other way around, if he's not a nice person he becomes unattractive to me)

eidahl · Answer

It is odd, there do seem to be plenty of women that hate on muscular guys and go for the skinny dudes. It could be because they seem weaker and thus easier to manipulate. Huhm. Could a girl give her thoughts on this?

Anonymous · Answer

Some girls love juiceheads. Check out the Jersey Shore they all love the juicehead muscle guys.

Anonymous · Answer

Why did you even ask a question if you're only going to accept the answer you want to hear?

yoshidreamland · Answer

Are you kidding me? Girls dig guys with good physique...

Anonymous · Answer

I like strong guys but they don't necessary have to be ripped. Personality counts more to me.

Lost-In-Her-Dreams · Answer

No, girls mostly go for personality (at least in my town). You'll be fine.

Anonymous · Answer

I, personally, would say that it really isn't important.  Most girls prefer guys that have a flat stomach (6 pack is nice too!) but mostly girls like guys for their personality.

Anonymous · Answer

Muscular is nice, but that's not all we want :P and its also not a deal breaker... or at least not in my book ^_^

Anonymous · Answer

i like muscles ;) lmfao

Toxic_Candy · Answer

I don't like muscular guys...

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