Guys, Imagine your crush of a long time got her hair chopped off the next day? Would you still be attracted to her?

[askmepleaseme]

So let's say you have a crush, infatuation, endearment with a girl. She has very long hair, regardless of color, it is beautiful. The next day she has it cut all the way to her ears like a boy. She is not lesbian or butch, still dresses femininely and has a beautiful face. It even works well with her face. Would your feelings for her change? Would you drop your attraction to her altogether?

[redeyemindtricks]

This shouldn't be a surprise, but, with short hair you'll generally attract different boys than with long hair (and if you normally keep yr hair UP, you'll also attract different boys than if you usually wear it DOWN).

I wrote about this at length (ha! at length!) here: (woman's mho)
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2377209-quick-question-guys-long-hair-or-short-hair-on-girls

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At the end of the day, you're 19 years old — with all the fun and freedom that comes with being 19 years old.

Consider:

• Even if you cut yr hair short and hate it... you can always get yr long hair back. All you have to do is wait, and possibly deal with some "awkward phases" at certain lengths.
(And even if you just freak the fuck out and rllyrllyrlly can't stand it... you could always mess around with wigs/extensions/weaves/etc — which, ironically, could allow you to play around with a bigger variety of LONG-hair looks).

• Being 19 years old — where you can fuck around with yr appearance with pretty much complete freedom, even recklessness — is something you can NEVER get back. When you're older, and you've entered the working world, there will suddenly be a whole new set of criteria you'll need to judge whenever you think about ANY new look. Believe me, you'll be glad to have already experimented by that point.

• And please, oh for fuck's sake PLEASE, do not make these kinds of decisions according to what you think boys will or won't like.
You know what, about boys who DON'T like it?
Fuck 'em.
Not worth yr time.

There ••IS•• a time when a boy's opinion deserves SOME weight in a decision like this.
And that, my dear, is when the boy is yr COMMITTED partner for LIFE, who's sworn vows to be with you through thick and thin, for better or for worse. That is the ONLY time when you should give half a rat's ass about a boy thinks.

Other than that — the objective is for YOU to try on different looks, and to see which look (s) make YOU most comfortable, most confident, and most lustin' for life.

[askmepleaseme]

I really really appreciate you and this but I just asked because I was curious as to how men react with short hair on women they already like. Will they just stop because of it? The answer was yes and no, surprising. Anyway, I plan to do this with my hair regardless of any negative opinion :)

[redeyemindtricks]

It depends on the man.

As I mentioned at the link... my husband (who is... oohhh gurl... every filthy wet dream I've ever had, come to life) LOVES short hair on women in general, and even more so on his wifey (that'd be me) ever since I re-joined #teamshorthair about a year ago.
I had it sheared even shorter during my first pregnancy — that's actually an awesome story (I could tell you in messages if you're interested... next few days when I have a moment, I gotta get off for now) — but then I'd grown it out and worn it long again for 11-12 years before cutting it again.

Regardless — Any boy who'd lose interest in you because of a fuckin' haircut, of all things, doesn't even deserve the time of day from you. YOUR opinion and YOUR experience are the only things that matter here.

Good luck. And lmk how it turns out, I'd love to hear.

<3

[BaileyisDarcy]

I know Im not part of this conversation but i love any story you have that you're willing to share... Pretty please? Haha

[redeyemindtricks]

@BaileyisDarcy ahah np I'll write you a message later when I have a moment.

[BaileyisDarcy]

Bahaha i just got MY hair cut the other day!

This nice gay couple put on a brave face and moved to my town so now my town is having to bite its tongue to avoid showing just how fucking homophobic they are XD

But they opened up a beauty and hair salon called The Boiz and they are amazing! More awards on that wall than I've ever seen before.

He asked me what i like and i said no maintenance, short as i can get it.

I have been getting SO many compliments. I can tell when people are a bit iffy with short hair, but even they are saying it suits me.
I will say it does make me look like my grandma a little cause she has her hair cut the same way but my grandmas gorgeous so i have no issue with that.

But i mean, my boyfriend has a preference for long hair, in fact a mutual friend is, physically at least, his ideal girl. She is gorgeous and ticks ALL his boxes (ba one). I tick one. And thats personality.

Hair isn't the be all end all. Wear it how you like it and if your guy has an issue with that he can fuck off. Its your hair.

[hellacray]

Well first of all I would ask her why.

And yes I would be less attracted. If that's one of her selling points why cut it off all of a sudden.

What if a guy that is very fit suddenly just starts eating crap and become obese the next day.

it's probably impossible to become obese in one day, but let's pretend it's possible.

[askmepleaseme]

She is not cutting it for you. Or to be "sold". She doesn't have to have a reason. It could have been just for fun out of boredom.

The thing abut your body and hair is completely different. It is not a good metaphor or comparison at all. Hair grows back, very quickly in some cases too. Destroying your body is more difficult to fix/mend and I would confidently say your body is more of an important facet than your hair. So it is not comparable. I guess something comparable to a guy would be shaving your hair off.

[hellacray]

You're changing something on your body I'm changing something on my body. Hair vs fat seems fair to me.

Anyways if she doesn't have a reason then I'm even less attracted. Every decision you make should have a reason even if the reason is stupid.

If you're going to make decisions with no thought you might as well just roll a dice or flip a coin the rest of your life.

[askmepleaseme]

You're talking about temporary versus permanent and things of unequal value though. Hair is not important at all. If you want to try something new that is reason enough. A haircut isn't going to ruin my life whatsoever. Your logic is completely obscure and strange.

[hellacray]

You do realize that you can lose fat right?

I'm only comparing the hair vs fat in regards to attraction not health.

[askmepleaseme]

Nobody likes a fat person or thinks it's attractive though. There are many men who likes short hair on girls.

[hellacray]

That's not true there are some people that's attracted to the larger size.

It's true some women look good with short hair. However if the person I've been with had long hair the whole time and then decides to chop it off for no reason. That's not good.

I personally like women with long hair. If she decides to go for the tomboy look she better have a good reason.

[askmepleaseme]

If you're not together, she doesn't owe you a "reason".

[hellacray]

Oh you said crush I thought this was in a relationship thing.

Well yes I would still be less attracted.

[askmepleaseme]

ok, I said crush.

[ProjectFox]

no why if im into her because she is cute and the short hair works with her face why should not be attracted to her.
I mean I like long hair but if she has short hair and it looks good on her+ she has a great personality then it's perfectly fine

[askmepleaseme]

I totally agree.

[LethalTactics]

Yes. I didn't just fall in love with her hair. I fell in love with all of her. Her personality, her eyes, face, body etc... If a guy suddenly stopped loving you just because she decided to cut her hair then he's immature and can't handle changes in life when they come.

[Leavesbound]

I would still be attracted to her but I would wonder why she chose to make herself less attractive. I dated a girl in high school who had the most amazing Rapunzel like blond hair. it was down below her knees. She knew I adored her long hair. Then one day she chopped it all off. I'd have taken care of it for her. She knew how much I adored her hair and she chopped it all off. No explanation. it was like sucker punch. Most guys would interpret such an act as a message to back off.

[rishi_dasari]

Actually no. Feelings would still be the same. Both mental and physical. It kinda will be like a new start for us!

And yeah. short hair women are damn cute. So I wouldn't mind until she did a perfect hair dressing job with her short hair! 😅

[askmepleaseme]

Awe I love this response. I totally agree!!

[rishi_dasari]

Thank you! 😄

[AaronTupaz]

My emotional attraction will not drop, but my physical attraction will significantly. Depending how deep my emotional attraction is and how she now looks (some girls do look good or okay with short hair), I may or may not drop her.

[askmepleaseme]

So it is really dependent if she looks good if not better with it. I guess it depends on the girl.

[AaronTupaz]

Well I know that the ratings of female talkshow hosts tend to drop whenever they cut their hair short. So if given the choice, I never advise a girl to cut her hair short, unless she's shaving her head for charity or something.

[MrOracle]

My attraction to her would almost certainly drop big time.

Actresses do this and I stop watching their performances until the grow it back.

Don't Felicity yourself!

[askmepleaseme]

Hahaha! I recall Anne Hathaway, Kristen Stewart, and Emma Watson doing so.

I wouldn't go as far as to stop watching movies with them in it though.

[MrOracle]

I absolutely stopped watching anything they did. Even Scarlett Johannsen and Jennifer Lawrence did it, and I refused to support those projects.

[askmepleaseme]

That's really stupid lmao. Just because they cut their hair. They didn't do it to please you for sure.

[MrOracle]

The girl who played Felicity ruined her whole show by cutting her hair, and The Big Bang Theory lost a big chunk of ratings when Penny cut her hair. She was told to grow it out immediately.

[askmepleaseme]

True but that's the problem with men like you. You think everything a woman does is to be attractive to you which is a huge misconception all of you seem to have apparently. Clearly they watched because Jenny and Felicity were their sexual fantasy, shallow, baseless, bye!

[MrOracle]

Felicity was almost entirely viewed by young women. And they stopped watching in droves when she cut her hair. Her show was canceled as a result, and it was a huge hit before.

[askmepleaseme]

She cut her hair later in the series. Not in season one. Typically a TV show like that gets worse as the seasons go by. I feel as though that was the reason especially if she had it cut on a season premiere.

[MrOracle]

There was so much negative feedback to her cutting her hair that it was all over the news and the TV networks at the time ordered all actresses NOT to cut their hair or lose their job. It was very real and the hair was directly responsible.

Look, you can do whatever you like - but there WILL be consequences. Know that going in. No amount of protesting is going to change what other people like or find attractive. Long hair has always been a sign of beauty (more specifically, a sign of youth and health, which is what we consider beauty). That isn't changing anytime soon.

[maxx233]

I'm not sure that's how infatuation works ;) Anyway, that pretty much happened with my crush in high school. Still thought she was incredibly attractive

[askmepleaseme]

There are already men who disagree with you haha, their attraction drops significantly.

I plan to do this with my hair as well, just was interested in the results.

[maxx233]

I must get more infatuated lol... that's depressing ;) well, in my case it even kinda grew on me a little. She was kinda tomboy though anyway, it fit. I still liked it a lot more before, but apparently you've gotta do something more drastic to get rid of me lol

[askmepleaseme]

Well to each their own. Nothing to be depressed about.

Haha, that's very good though! It kind of proves you aren't that shallow haha. Very good.

[iamrobot0101]

I dated a girl for a few months and she had gorgeous hair. then her hair got cut off so she had a pixie cut and she turned me on more than before

[serious]

Very good! There are few men who actually like short hair/ pixie cut hair on women. Yours is an exception.

[iamrobot0101]

I mean I dont care what thw hair looks like

[serious]

I understand. It's fine.

[John_Doesnt]

No, because she loses both physical and personality attractiveness. Making a crazy decision like chopping off your hair for no reason is not an attractive trait.

[askmepleaseme]

How is it crazy? For you it is crazy because you don't have long hair and you don't know how easy it is to cut and grow it out continuously. It is a very temporary thing and it shouldn't be whined about whatsoever. It grows out. What crazy logic. What reason would you need to cut your hair? None.

[John_Doesnt]

excuses, excuses, excuses.

[JuanFrank7]

I had the situation before in which I was for whatever weird reason strongly attracted to a girl with a short guy-like haircut, so I say it prolly wouldn't change a thing

[askmepleaseme]

That's not weird at all haha.

[JuanFrank7]

For me it was, but yeah there's a first time for everything

[askmepleaseme]

Right, right. I guess so.

[April10]

Short hair doesn't automatically mean unattracriveness

[askmepleaseme]

I know.

[DodgersGM]

I'd still be attracted to her and still love her, but I really prefer longer hair on women.

[thedarknight88]

well when I don't have a crash nor do I care if the garage short hair ball long hair braids whatever as long as she still sexy not still dick her down

[serious]

I don't know, it's tough to say. There are very few men who actually love short hair on women.

[dev64]

wouldn't make a difference its still the same person

[Truthteller2236]

sometimes when people cut their hair off they are going through tough times so I would be a bit concerned. One example? britney spears.

[askmepleaseme]

Oh definitely. This is actually a well-known psychological act that many, many girls do. They cut their hair off ending a relationship most often.

But you know, if you knew this wasn't the case? It was just for a temporary change of style.

[Truthteller2236]

it depends how much of a low cut we are talking. If she goes all the way bald, then Im just not attracted to it. Look at what we have been conditioned to like. Why do the majority of girls in western society like men with short hair? since a child, thats what they have seen and have grown fond to a guy with short hair and girl with long. Same with guys seeing girls with long hair. It isn't the norm. people gravitate towards averages and what we are used too. Most likely, I would say about 80% of guys would lose all attraction, and your crush may be that statistic too but if your crush has some emotional connection with you that is strong enough then it will be ok, probably.

[askmepleaseme]

The photo I placed is a good representation of what I mean. Not a bob, full out boy's hairstyle.

I just don't understand how hair is basically 80% of your worth as a girl though. Like, wouldn't the face be much more important as well as the body next to it? You face doesn't change. Doesn't hair grow back? I can't agree with your statistic anyway as the men commenting her disagree with you for the most part.

[Truthteller2236]

''The photo I placed is a good representation of what I mean. Not a bob, full out boy's hairstyle.''

I see, but that still isn't the norm and will get looked at differently opposed to a ''traditional'' girl

''I just don't understand how hair is basically 80% of your worth as a girl though''

the same way a guy who has long hair is seen as lazy or unsuccessful. yes, I have had women treat me badly for having long hair and even been called gay. Its gotten to the point where I had to cut my hair to be a ''professional'' and have gotten many side comments in school. The same with girls with short hair who have been called ''lesbian'' ''feminist'' etc..

''I can't agree with your statistic anyway as the men commenting her disagree with you for the most part. ''

there are only 7 men here. The words I speak actually are based from surveys. Yes, there is a survey with thousands of people saying that 70% of women like men with short hair and yes there are surveys asking women the same

[Truthteller2236]

and the same results stand. Its not the norm for a women to have straight hair and when they do they either get insults or they are ''brave'' and making a ''statement'' against norms. Either way, its not normal, and people are mostly attracted to averages in society and not extremes for the most part. what do you think guys are conditioned to like as a whole?

[Truthteller2236]

sorry, not straight hair short. what was I thinking lol

[askmepleaseme]

Yes of course it will, but the end goal isn't to be normal. I mean as I said, the girl always had long hair, just wanted to try something new. It will grow out eventually. I don't quite understand why men take it as such a permanent, notable change when it is the exact opposite.

I am attracted to guys with long hair. Masculine guys with pretty faces. Typically Asian. You're referring to guys who are kind of artist type and eccentric and a bit... off who don't groom themselves. It depends completely on the guy. I'm not going to be attracted to a guy who has long hair just because he has long hair. I will be attracted to him because of his face.

Okay, I'm not asking for the standard. I know the standard and what is attractive because of masculinity, femininity, etc. But this theoretical girl is not someone you just met. She is someone who you've always been attracted to. So a simple haircut will change your feelings because she isn't "traditional" as 90% of girls are anymore.

[Truthteller2236]

''Yes of course it will, but the end goal isn't to be normal''

I know, I am just saying what people will mostly favor and your odds of your crush. most guys have negative stigma around girls with short hair. here is how I see it, if you want to try something new, but something is holding you back then confront it. For example, you talk to your crush? ask him/her what they think about your new style. Even if they dont like it, as long as you like it, is what should be most important. I dont know why SOME ''men''(which I can't speak for all for the sole reason of being men, we are not collective group) see it as permanent but I sure dont.

''I am attracted to guys with long hair. Masculine guys with pretty faces.''

and that is your personal take.

''You're referring to guys who are kind of artist type and eccentric and a bit... off who don't groom themselves.''

and people ignorantly correlate that with men having long hair in general just like girls with short hair...

[askmepleaseme]

I'm not angry with you btw! Just trying to discuss.

I've always found the rare and above average much more attractive than the average. Maybe it is just me. I of course love guys with short hair, but every guy has short hair so it is not something I need to state, do you understand? Society takes it as making a statement and all that stupid, feminist garbage when in most cases it is just a hair cut that is short. That's all. I don't care if society will name it what they want when it is a ridiculous thing to do all in all.

[Truthteller2236]

will be called lesbian.

''It depends completely on the guy.''

I am simply talking about averages and going off over all consensus and the odds of everything. Changing certain styles of your appearance introduces you to a different group of guys. It may not be as such a wide range as guys who love long hair, but there will always be someone for everybody.

[Truthteller2236]

you asked me from my personal view, and this is somehow going off subject to something you are trying to imply here. You have some deep rooted feelings into this. I'll leave you with this, do whatever makes you happy

[askmepleaseme]

It's not ignorant at all since it is a stereotype. Why are stereotypes popular? Because there are truth in stereotypes. Women who cut it pixie have definitely been a part of the feminist movement for sure and men who keep it long are definitely in that profession/personality group. Don't take it offensively because you were forced to cut your hair short in that manner.

[askmepleaseme]

Why are you taking this so harshly? I'm not upset at all, just trying to have a conversation and share my opinion. Why do you seem so bothered over it? I don't understand. Imply what? Okay, man, you clearly have some issues regarding this. Bye, and get off my post lmao.

[blondfrog]

Short hair girls can still be hot plus attractions is more looked at my facial hair like eyebrows, eyelashes, symmetry.

[askmepleaseme]

I thinks so too.

[blondfrog]

yeah just like how long hair guys can be sexy too.

[askmepleaseme]

^^^^^^

[blondfrog]

Are you Jxpxptr?

[askmepleaseme]

Who?

[blondfrog]

Ah never mind you reminded me of some girl on here she was really cute and nice.

[askmepleaseme]

Haha awe! Thanks! But sadly no I'm not haha.

[blondfrog]

Did you have an old account on here?

[askmepleaseme]

No, this is the first one :)

[blondfrog]

I swear you look so much like her :) she had beautiful short red hair, blue eyes, your body and face looks exactly like hers did. Like your neck length, lips, nose, and eyes and even eyebrow shape was like hers haha. It's crazy how two people can be totally non related and look so much like each other.

[askmepleaseme]

Oh unfortunately that isn't me haha! I just used it as a physical example to what haircut I am referring to. She is very beautiful though I totally agree! You're right, it's crazy, I've seen it before.

[blondfrog]

Awe :3 haha that's okay and yes she is beautiful she is probably a model. My 12th grade sociology teacher in high school though some guy was me once lol. My high school had 2,000 people in it and I never saw this guy until he kept that student in his classroom during homeroom and introduced me to my "twin" or doppelganger. He told me the whole situation. So he said he saw this guy who looked exactly like I did in the hall and he asked the guy he thought was me "so how is your culture project coming along? Will you bring a different food from your culture to class?" Then the guy we will call him my so called twin had a look of shock and disbelief as well as confusion on his face. Then Mr Bell my sociology teacher told me how he got upset cause he thought that I was mad at him or that I was playing stupid with him. Long story short they both were arguing with each other my so called twin and my teacher and both just confused the crap out of each other. He was so convinced that he

[blondfrog]

never even thought that my so called twin could have been telling the truth and that he was somebody else. Lol the whole thing was a hoot when he introduced me to him and both just had a huge laughing riot.

[Ayma0027]

My crush actually did cut her hair up to her ears. When she came to school the next day and I saw her, I was like "wow" it was at that moment I fell deeper in love with her

[askmepleaseme]

Aweeee that is so cute.

[Ayma0027]

Yeah, but it would be better if she didn't friendzone me

[askmepleaseme]

Welp. Next one then haha.

[Ayma0027]

Haha seems like it

[askmepleaseme]

Good luck

[Ayma0027]

Thanks

[dude64bro]

I'd still like her if she was my crush. I'd be a bit taken aback from the sudden change though.

[Razal]

I would be OK, probably will be little disappointed but OK

[Dijo_Dill]

It's not about the Hair it's all about Heart. . 😊