Girls why are you so damn picky, shallow, and stuck up? I know I'm gonna take a lot of crap for this question.

[snackeyg]

I think I've finally realized why girls are such d-bags to girls. I'm not one because it's not me but it's making me want to not be as nice as I used to be. I've noticed how picky, shallow and stuck up girls are. You have to say the right thing, act the right, and do the right things. It's like we have to be perfect or something. If we're too nice you dismiss us as not protective and clingy or annoying. If we don't say the right thing you don't talk to us back you just ignore us. If we don't do the right things then you get p*ssed off. I've never known any guys to be so picky like this. So why can't you be a little less picky for once and make some guys happy instead of pleasing those d-bags all the time.?

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guys are d-bags to girls*

[greeneyedgal1]

Hmmmm, all of the attributes you mentioned about girls certainly doesn't apply to me. Maybe in your experience you have encountered girls like this but not all of us fall into this mold. There are actually really nice girls with a good heart, intelligence, sense of humor, grounded, want a nice, loyal guy and will be true to him. It will depend on her maturity level, experience in dating and life.

I cannot tell you how many guys have treated me like sh*t and I am one of the nice girls. I consider myself to be the type you can take home to mom. I don't play mind games or engage in drama. But, life has taught me that not all guys are douche bags, and it's kind of a 'weeding' process in that you keep looking until you hopefully find the right one.

I am not going to tell you to have hope or keep looking because it sounds like you have your mind made up. However, I also don't think it's a fair assumption to say all girls are like this.

[snackeyg]

I didn't say all. lol Never did in this question. Good answer though. You didn't say any BS and were honest and to the point. That's great you're that type of girl. Sorry that you end up with d-bags all the time. Guess nice people just suck at finding other nice people. What exactly did you mean by I already made up my mind? Like I've given up?

[greeneyedgal1]

What I meant by you having your mind made up is that despite what I say about not all girls fitting this mold, I have qualms you'll be swayed.

[snackeyg]

Oh. Nah because I don't think they all do. I just think it's extremely common.

[kiki_bu11]

I don't think I'm picky, shallow, or stuck up. I started dating the first guy to ask me out. I didn't care that he was one of the biggest nerds in school. I didn't care that he was overweight and his whole face was covered in acne. I agreed to go out with him because he was a nice guy who was interested in me. And guess what? I fell in love with and married him.

He is far from a perfect human being, because no one is, but he's perfect for me, and that's what matters. He doesn't have to try, he just is. Also, he is probably what you describe as "too nice", but I don't find that clingy or annoying. I think it's sweet and kind.

I don't deny that some girls are the way you describe. I just know that I'm not one of them. So please don't group us all together. I think that "douchebag" has become the male stereotype and "bitch" has become the female stereotype because they're the ones that get the most attention, but they are not the majority.

[snackeyg]

I didn't say all. As for them not being the majority I'm doubting it. Also there needs to be more girls like you.

[peace-love-couture]

I hang out with guys,and guys are more picky than girls.Except guys are picky about appearance.

Society says girls have to accept guys completely,behavior,attitude and appearance.Society says guys can be extremely picky about appearance and not give a rats a** about personality.

In my opinion,guys only care about physical appearance and are extremely picky about physical appearance and put that above and beyond attitude or personality.

[snackeyg]

All you did was talk about society. People told me I hang around the wrong girls. You hang around the wrong guys. I'm extremely open about physical appearance and personality is really important to me. I don't need a girl I can look at. I need one I can interact with. I can go do a google image search and accomplish the looking or go walk around the mall if I'm bored. All the things you said, flip guys with girls and that's how I see it.

[peace-love-couture]

Mm,I state from my observations as you state from yours.Yes I brought up society because that is what influences double standards and behaviors.

I disagree,I stand by my answer.I hang out with a variety of guys,"good" guys,"bad" guys(jerks/assholes),nerds,jocks etc,it isn't like I'm limiting myself to one particular and they are all picky

[snackeyg]

I guess I'm just a guy who isn't picky wondering why everyone else has to be so much. Make things impossible. I stopped caring about finding a girl anyway. It's made me feel like sh*t for 8 years, so I'm done with it.

[peace-love-couture]

Most of the girls I know aren't picky,they'll settle for anything,maybe cause of low self esteem idk.You're not even old,it isn't like you have a deadline

[snackeyg]

I feel past my deadline. High school was my chance to learn how to interact with girls and I blew it.(I'm not saying I need a Girlfriend from HS though) I'm not around girls anymore.

[peace-love-couture]

Umm,dude,you're no where past your deadline.haha.You can still learn to interact with girls.

[snackeyg]

How? I'm not around girls anymore. Talking to them online isn't the same.

[peace-love-couture]

Surely you do not live in an all male town.Go out,meet some girls.Movies,club,bar,volunteer,library,mall

[snackeyg]

With out my friends that stuff is all awkward and weird. Guess I'm screwed. lol

[peace-love-couture]

Oh,all of your friends left?Yea,I guess going out alone can be very weird...haha...I never go out alone but I know some people who do ALL of the time,and are completely comfortable with it.

Try going out alone.Could help,might even give you confidence

[snackeyg]

I guess I could do that, I have a strong feeling I'd just stand around and fiddle with my phone or something. FML lol And yeah they rarely hang out with me. It's extremely random when they do.

[peace-love-couture]

Yep.Mess with your phone or ipod or whatever.Thats the awkward solution.When a weird guy hits on me in a disrespectful way(ghetto people),my friends and I pull out our phone haha.It makes it less awkward.

[snackeyg]

Well thanks for the advice. I'll figure out something eventually. Maybe once I move out on my own it'll be better. I can have people over.

[MrKkibbles]

It probably seems like girls are more shallow because confidence isn't nearly as important for them in our society since guys are traditionally supposed to be the seekers, it still plays a role, just not as big of one. Its just like in sales, being aggressive is more desirable than being passive. How often do you hear about nice-girl syndrome? As for physical appearance I have to disagree in a way, I do admit that the vast majority of us with lower standards would be the nice-guys, and to make matters worse, our lower standards can reek of desperation even if its not.

[snackeyg]

Sad thing is I am desperate.

[martyfellow]

Girls aren't really very picky, but shallow, oh yes... Stuck up, sometimes!

[Anonymous]

what are girls supposed to do? just take any guy that comes along just because he wants her? girls have to have some standards. no one expects perfection but come on if you're clingy and annoying then its a turn off? if you don't act masculine then its intrinsically a turn off and there's not much we can do about that

a lot of guys are probably less picky because they are just happy to get some p**** so they don't really care how the girl acts as long as he has a chance at getting it.

in order for your question to be answered more helpfully, you should give specific examples on HOW a particular girl has been picky, shallow, and stuck up in your opinion..

[snackeyg]

I couldn't care less about getting some pussy. I don't have specific examples. Just somewhat of a conclusion I've come to after seeing a lot of answers on this site and talking to lots of girls and hearing them bitch about their bf's. I never said ALL in any of this. So no assumptions. lol

[Opinion Owner]

All girls complain about their bfs. just like mothers complain amongst themselves about their kids when they're doing wrong, and men complain about their wives/girlfriends. women seem like we complain more because we just talk more lol and its just venting.

but there are a lot of guys who will put up with a lot to get some sex and that's why they probably seem more "tolerant"

[snackeyg]

Yeah I hate guys like that. They're annoying.

[MrKkibbles]

Not being masculine seems to be a turnoff across the board for girls, but I tend to see quite a few guys who like tom-boyish girls.

[Opinion Owner]

Well there are some girls who like less masculine guys, but they aren't really the most feminine girls. to be honest I don't know that many girls like this, but the girls I knew that did like more passive less masculine guys, were more of the overbearing (in my opinion) masculine type women. not necessarily tomboys though because that could just be a girl that's into sports and stuff

[cherrykitty]

I swallow if it tastes OK, Not like Pie Or apples ... But if it tastes like DEATH IN MY MOUTH, I will go to the bathroom and spit it out and wash my mouth out ...

Like If you eat Sour Fruits, Pineapple, Type of sour, it Will make you Taste better and maybe more girls would swallow...

You are what you eat...

[snackeyg]

Random?

[cherrykitty]

... Please tell me I clikced on the right question and I read it right lol.... Other wise umm ignore me lol....

[cherrykitty]

I AM so sorry, I read Shallow as Swallow....... I have had a long day, and night and another long day tomorrow.... its 6 am here and I have not had sleep since yesterday at like 9am is when I woke up. So I am sorry ..... I am not SHALLOW Either ...... I date guys by how they treat me ..... Jeeze I feel Like a moron right now

[snackeyg]

Lol It's OK and that's good.

[soulfulleyes]

i don't like douche bags so I don't try to make them happy.. hahaha and I don't think of myself as stuck up and shallow (maybe a little picky only because I know what I want) but it would be like saying why are guys such shallow d***s, it goes both ways

[snackeyg]

Haha that's true. I only came up with this because I was thinking even the nice girls seem to be this way sometimes. So I was like wow.

[soulfulleyes]

Imma be straight up and say most girls are the spawn of satan but not all, you just have to know what girls to approach

[snackeyg]

Yeah. I'm pretty girl retarded. I guess in a way I basically only really started after high school.

[soulfulleyes]

Well everyone has to start somewhere, just remember to learn from your experiences and eventually you'll be able to weed out the stems and the seeds and spot the difference between cool girls and totally insane ones

[snackeyg]

Yeah once I figure out how to meet and interact with girls I can start doing that part. lol

[ltaylor]

I think that you're looking in the wrong direction. Sure, there are bitchy, self absorbed, shallow girls out there, but there are also girls who aren't. I myself think it's stupid that other girls play games and manipulate and demand so much from guys.

For future advice, when a girl starts acting like that, either confront her or stop chasing after her, it's not worth your time. There are plenty of decent (single) girls who deserve a boyfriend way more that those bitches!

[italia0824]

Not all girls are like that! Unfortunately there girls who do that...and based on the description of these so called girls, why would you want to be with those type of girls? Even if you were to be in a relationship with one of them you would be walking on eggshells...I would pass on those prima donnas!

[beerY33]

I think you've just been hanging around the wrong girls...

[beerY33]

Yeah, and what anyonymous said. Guys act just the same as you're describing alllll the time.

[snackeyg]

I've never seen or heard of a guy acting like that.

[beerY33]

Hm, okay, so why do girls spend so much time, effort, and money on their hair, make up, clothes, etc.? ...Oh, yeah. For the picky guys who won't take a second look if you don't.

[snackeyg]

Then those aren't the right guys. Like I said. I just didn't word it very well.

[beerY33]

Oh, please. This is ridiculous.

[snackeyg]

No it's not. I have numerous girls tell me everything I said is true.

[beerY33]

Well if all the girls you know are picky and shallow then why would you take their opinions seriously?

[snackeyg]

Because I asked ones that aren't and they still believe it.

[Xenophobia]

Just stop talking to the girls with crazy expectations. Those are the type that were meant to be single.

[EddyMetal]

Because they're naturally bitches. You've seen the light.

[snackeyg]

Haha Yes I have. It's blinding how bright it is.

[curiouskitten]

Yes some girls are like that but other are not like I have a cousin like that and I see how she treats people and I know how that makes guys and girls feel and I hate it :-P

[Anonymous]

Guys aren't picky? Are you kidding me? Guys are a hell of a lot more demanding than girls

[snackeyg]

I've never seen or heard of a guy acting like that.

[Opinion Owner]

You haven't met the guys I've met. To them a girl's appearance is all that matters

[snackeyg]

So then they're d-bags. Like I said. That's why guys do it.

[peace-love-couture]

I completely agree 100% with the answerer

[snackeyg]

You would Evangelina. You're extremely negative about guys. You don't know what good guys are like at all.

[peace-love-couture]

No,i'm not negative about guys.I have no reason to be.I state what I see in my observations.By this question you're being negative about girls

[snackeyg]

Well I stated my observations too. lol

[Anonymous]

wat the fcuk you stupid prick.. you don't understand what its liketo be a girl! itts really hard. all girls deserve more then d***smacks like u. I hope you never get girl. turn gay..

[Hartmut]

That's a very nice generalisation, there.

[snackeyg]

Lol Was that sarcasm?

[Hartmut]

Yeah, I am. Seriously, are you calling ALL girls picky, shallow and stuck up? Granted, there are societal norms that unnecessarily complicate the whole process, but are you honestly trying to absolve yourself of all responsibility in the matter?

In any and all of your problems, the common link is you.

[snackeyg]

No I never said all. It's not in there once. Funny thing is girls I know that I've shown this question to say it's true, but everyone on here disagrees.

[Hartmut]

'I've noticed how picky, shallow and stuck up girls are.'

I'm not seeing 'some girls are', or 'girls tend to/can be', or anything else in the entire question that might imply that you're not lumping all girls into the same bracket.

As for the other part of your comment, that IS odd. I can tell you that I have no reason to lie to you here, but it's really up to you as to which side you should believe.

[AllisonA]

Yeah, it's up to you to take this and swallow it. I believe he has explained it clear enough

[snackeyg]

Allison you confused me. As for saying some. I don't think it's needed. Just gotta not assume I mean all.

[Hartmut]

So now it's MY fault.

[snackeyg]

Haha It's not anyone's fault. You just took it wrong.

[Hartmut]

And why do you think I took it wrong?

[snackeyg]

You thought I meant all.

[Hartmut]

And why do you think I came to that conclusion?