Do guys like it more if their girlfriend isn't TOO sweet all the time?

[Anonymous]

Like instead of saying I miss you baby and love you so much everyday, should I just act cool about our relationship...act like I'm interested but not CRAZY about him, and then once in a while express how much I miss and love him?

Uhh, confusing I know, but you get it right?

I just don't want to lose all that special "love" we had in the beginning...

[Badasti]

YES! This is something I tried to get through to my ex. It makes someone feel obligated to say it back and the word loses its meaning. It's far more meaningful when someone says it at random and means it.

Think about having a partner that said sorry every 5 seconds. He brushes your leg as he walks by and says sorry. He bumps you ever so softly and says sorry. You moan about something for the fun of it and he says sorry. He upsets you he says sorry. Then picture someone who never says sorry, but one time he upsets you and he knows he was wrong. Then he comes to you and says sorry. Which has more meaning?

Besides it always got annoying when my ex forced me to say it. She'd tell me she loves me because she wanted me to say it back. Now at the time I loved her very much, when she left me alone about it for a few days I would buy her flowers and tell her I loved her out of the blue. That I enjoyed doing because it felt like I was doing it out of my own free will and by saying it when I really felt I needed to it gave the word meaning. Her insecurities were one of the determining factors in why our relationship ended.

So keep it real. If you guys are good for each other you should both know where you stand without being insecure about it. Tell him when you feel you really want to but don't make it a every time you jump into bed or every time you're about to hang up the phone kinda thing.

It also depends on you 2 as people. Maybe he likes to be reminded about it all the time. It's hard to answer for someone you don't know. I can only answer for myself...

[TimeAndTimeAgain]

Just be yourself - do what you feel like, when you feel like. Don't worry about what he will think, because that's exactly what kills the relationship. If he doesn't like something, or thinks you're doing too much of something in particular, he will tell you. Assuming you're with someone reasonably smart, that is. >.>

I personally like it when she's sweet, just as long as I don't feel as though she is somewhat faking it. It's OK if she says she misses me from one day to the other, but if she goes on about how much she missed me when I was just talking to her 3 hours ago, then that's kind of too much.

[Asker]

Its summer vacation.... and I miss him a lot...

anyhow, thank you for taking the time to answer this question! :)

[Anonymous]

you should be able to tell what he likes. My boyfriend knows that I like to be told that he loves me so he says it a lot... because at the beginning of our relationship I kept on asking do you like me? even though I asked numerous times... but yeah...and I never really say I love you to him because I'm just not the sweet mushy type person... so he understands that I love him though... you should be fine just being yourself or what not if he loves you he will accept you for you. I don't like being hand held in public so my boyfriend never does that but he improvises by always putting his arm around me... so compromise on what both of you gys like

[ErikM]

If you genuinely love and care about each other, I'd hope he knows that, so you don't need to tell him every day. Instead of saying "I love you", you can do other things like giving him a kiss, hugging him (without saying anything), doing something nice for him (like planning an activity that you and him both like to do). You can mix things up a little. Often times, saying "I love you" a lot just makes these words lose their meaning.

Please don't take this as me telling you to change who you are as a person. Don't stop feeling the way you do, or thinking "I love my guy", but just try to mix things up, because sometimes a guy can feel like a girl is being clingy. Once in a while, you should give him some space to be with his guy friends, and not call, text or tell him you love him. If he goes on a trip, kiss him goodbye, and when he comes back give him a hug and tell him you missed him.