Girls are you ok with your guy liking other girls pictures? Guys should we be insecure?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[hopelessromantic15]

I didn't care if my ex boyfriend liked other girls pictures. If he's friends with them and follows them on instagram, and they post a picture and he likes it, it doesn't mean that he is in love with them. I only have a problem if he comments something flirty on a girl's picture, or if he posts a picture with another girl in it (or a girl posts a picture with him in it) unless i know for sure he isn't into her.
Example: my ex went on a trip with his choir (made of girls and boys). He posted pictures of some of his choir friends (girls and boys) out sightseeing. That is totally fine.
But then he posted a picture of him and three girls at the airport waiting for their flight, and one of them had their ass in his lap. That was totally NOT ok! Then the girl in his lap posted a picture of just the two of them standing close together. Again, not ok. I knew something was up. I was right, for later that night as he was breaking up with me, he mentioned how pretty and awesome that girl was.

[Asker]

Sorry about that.
My boyfriend comment flirty on other girls and I need to break up

[hopelessromantic15]

it's fine. it's better it ended. it wasn't a very healthy relationship.

maybe talk to him first about it. ask him why he's commenting flirty things. if he's constantly commenting on one girl's pictures then something is definitely up and you should confront him. but if you feel it's necessary to break up with him, listen to your intuition. it's always correct.

[TacosRAwesome]

I'm ok with him liking, after all I like guys pics as well (neutral pics not shirtless pics) but i would be a bit bothered if he posted hearts on girls pics.

[Heartcrusher]

Liking a photo is okay. Commenting with pick up lines, flirty compliments or emoticons like these;😱🤤😘😍😚😉😏. Not so much

[Asker]

😂
What about this ❤️?

[Miristheiss]

When in a committed relationship it is best to try and honor each others boundaries as best we can (extreme cases not included). If a guy always looking at other women's photos and commenting on them makes her feel hurt in some way than it is best to just not do that out of respect and love for her.

If he knows it bothers you and just doesn't care than you have evidence to weigh how far you want things to go with him as he shows he is selfish and will always do what he wants whether it hurts you and the relationship or not. It shows how much he is able to empathize with you and protect your heart.

[The-Weeknd-0]

If a girl ever told me to "stop liking other girl's pictures on social media" I would dump her immediately.

Two reasons:
1. I don't tell someone how to live their life. So what gives them the right to tell me?
2. Insecurity is unattractive and if they're worried about me cheating just for liking a picture then the girl is clearly an idiot who needs to grow up.

[Unit1]

I second this ^ Well said!

We have put more value to social media than the actual relationship.

[The-Weeknd-0]

@Unit1 Thank you, sir

[SanHoloz]

Eh I don't know if she's an idiot who needs to grow up.
I have wrestled with this a lot in what I feel. I have this guy who only likes sexual pictures of girls and they are not always just some distant celebrity or something like that, these are girls who live in our city, or even ones he's hooked up with before in extremely skimpy clothing or with their cleavage/butt out aka with the intent of looking sexual. I never thought of myself as one who'd be insecure over a stupid social media like before this guy but these girls are ones again that we could for sure see out and about and even that he has fucked before. I know he may be friends with some or will still imagine sex with them or whatever but to see his name pop up on their likes and ONLY on these sexual pictures made me feel awful. I never said anything about it to him but it definitely hurt my feelings. Maybe that's stupid and I tried to ignore it but I couldnt help how it made me feel.

[Asker]

@SanHoloz Same here :(

[The-Weeknd-0]

I'm sorry but you do realize if the guy wanted to cheat on you he would? I'm afraid, it is pure insecurity on your behalf my darling.

Look, I was cheated on in my last relationship and I can tell you it's horrible but I never once got upset by her liking a picture on social media. Her actions were her business and not of my concern.

You need to start seeing yourself as the prize. If your SO cheats on you well it's their fault not yours. A stupid like on social media has little effect in the grand scheme of things. You have no control of what other people choose to do with THEIR life. So, why should you care?

[Asker]

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[Unit1]

I agree with you once again! This is so true!

[SanHoloz]

Yeah, I completely agree with you that its my own insecurity and if someone was going to cheat they are going to. I think its also a respect thing and different situations warrant different reactions. I dont think anyone should be put in the situation where they feel like they have to ask (nor would I ask, like I said in my last post). The was social media is used to communicate and interact nowadays, its like checking out another person deliberately. I notice when the same guys like my pictures, especially if they are exes or old hookups or ONS. They stand out more.

People can do what they want to do, and I wouldn't try to control someone ever but out of respect for your partner I think there are boundaries in place.

[The-Weeknd-0]

@SanHoloz Ah yes. You have just introduced a key word which comes up quite regularly in such a debate: "Respect".

It's a grey area, isn't it? You see, every individual has a different view as to what they believe to be "Respectful" within a companionship. Particularly with regards to infidelity. Which we are discussing here.

Some people, such as yourself. Have a strict belief system about "Respect". For example, you may believe it to be disrespectful when your SO likes a revealing picture of somebody that they know mutually on Social Media.

Others, such as myself. Have a more lenient or care free view. I don't believe it's considered cheating or even disrespectful if she likes a topless beach picture of her ex on Instagram... I couldn't give less of a s*** about her liking it if I'm being honest.

If she ACTUALLY cheats. That is "disrespectful" to me and she will get dumped. Even if she does run back to that dude. Do I care? Not really, her choice. Her loss.

"Respect"

[The-Weeknd-0]

@SanHoloz Lastly, Never once have I criticized your belief. Nor have you mine.

People have different views about "Respect" and that's the way it is. I would certainly not allow anyone to dictate what I do with MY social media.

The two of us would never agree on such a topic and hypothetically, if we were in a relationship, we would fight very often about this topic and it wouldn't end well. (Speaking from experience) trust me. We would both believe each other's beliefs idiotic... But that's life. People disagree, we move on.

[SanHoloz]

Yeah, people do have different definitions of respect and a relationship is TWO people not your way and their way, it involves communication and compromise.

Girls being sexualized is very very different than a guy wearing a bathing suit at the beach. They are not the same, and pretending they are is not realistic. If your girlfriend liked a picture of her ex or a guy you guys know where his dick was out or was sexual in that way, then you wouldn't care at all?
I am not saying fun beach pictures of girls or pictures of them in general, those dont bother me one bit. But liking a picture of a girl you used to be with or know, that was taken with the purpose of showing her tits or ass, be it bare or in lingerie, exposing clothing, etc. is you actively liking her sexualizing herself and openly showing that you like what you see, which I do believe is disrespectful. I don't think that that is strict and I do not get jealous or insecure over many things but I think its an understandable reaction

[SanHoloz]

Also, I think its to be noted the difference in opinion given the genders. Obviously not everyone but this topic is often brought up.
Pictures of women are a lot more sexual and objectifying (even if taken by the girl, and that is her intent) than pictures of guys so I feel like guys are not faced with the same scenario often.

Either way unless you are dating a crazy jealous person (yikes) if they do communicate it to you then I think part of a relationship is trying to see their POV and "respect" it.

[butterflymeadow]

it's not insecurity. it's knowing yourself well enough and feeling confident and mature enough to articulate that you don't like it. Ok, a friend since kindergarten who is female, who you never liked, never will like, but her pic always showed up on your feed? Understandable, if they are not sexual or flirty pics. Why would you go around liking local women's pictures who might like you back? Especially if you're cute? More like someone like me has no time for that. I think you need to make sure you check every girl you talk to and let them know you're about that "open relationship" shit. Just know not everyone is like that. Not everyone is insecure because they have boundaries.

[Unit1]

That is what he was talking about. Now she calls it being in an open relationship. I call it controlling and being unqualified for relationships.

[The-Weeknd-0]

@Unit1 Totally agree. "controlling and being unqualified for relationships". That's why I quickly abondoned this debate. I couldn't be bothered. I've deal with this in the past.

Look, I made my points but you can't change an insecure girl. She has to change herself.

[Unit1]

Yyyyup! Exactly.
Controlling like that Is no part of any healthy relationship.
This is not love. This is having issues and having someone else cosuffering from these issues.
Abandon it. Abandon them all.

[butterflymeadow]

@Unit1 listen call it what you want but if it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck, then it's a fucking duck that wants the privilage to flirt and fuck around with any woman he sees. Its fine if you find a girl who is cool with it, but many women are not. Some are definitely insecure, others do not bother with men who need excessive attention or interaction with other women that may be deemed inapppropriate. sounds like someone tried controlling you at one point and now you are projecting because you don't have to and shouldn't have to control someone for them to be loyal.

[Cokebottle]

Keep in mind most of the girls on instagram, are being paid to stick their ass out like that. THEYRE MODELS

[anonChineseMale]

Why not? It's just your opinion online that you like their photo. It is liking the art. And yes they may find them attractive and it doesn't mean they like just go up and start cheating on you. If your relationship is that fragile then might as well not be in one because people will always have more than one person they find attractive. It's similar to celebrities a lot of people will like their posts and photos while being in a relationship. So what's the difference if it is a friend post or photo? You can't like anything they post?

[The-Weeknd-0]

Best opinion***

[krupak]

I don't do it and I don't hide anything. But if a girl I'm dating and taking seriously acts secretive of her phone, tilting it so I can't see, etc. I would end the relationship on the spot. Past experience taught me not to ignore those red flags

[Logorithim]

Guys notice women and find them attractive all the time (we are hardwired for this). The vast majority of the time we never act on it, so you almost certainly don't have anything to worry about.

[MayBlythe]

Why should I care, he's with me and loves me. Its ok to be attracted to other people its not ok the cheat and liking someones pics isn't cheating

[melanieeeB]

Yes why not, it's just a stupid like. I also like pics of other people

[Decentguy]

if i had a girlfriend, or a wife, i won't ever like a girl's picture, because i dont honestly see any point in that

[L0vely123]

thank you! No Point

[Kkaos]

That's because you're a 'Decentguy' lmao

[amel23]

Hellllll nooo I should be enough he can look but if he likes he must be asking to die or smthg

[Listening5]

Maybe he likes the scenery

[amel23]

@Listening5 yeah and maybe he's suicidal 2

[smølf]

Girls are you ok with your guy liking other girls pictures?

Generally speaking they are not

Guys should we be insecure?

No, girls don't like insecure guys

[Anonymous]

Not a problem in Western world, even if she/he fucks others unless they get pregnant. Sexual freedom. No-one can have another person. Possessiveness and wrong to them.

[Opinion Owner]

Being a whore, slut, bitch and pornstar is normal to them. So, Westerners are weird and disgusting.

[Asker]

Mmm are you western?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not, thank God. I saw a lot of disgusting things on this site, Quora, OKCupid and porn. I think that's enough to know them.

[Opinion Owner]

@Soosh Where are you from?

[TheSpartan]

A man should not be lusting after another woman, period.

[Anonymous]

depends...
if any of them were a love interest. NO way...
if those are friends people who are taking, him checking out social media, okay.

also depends how secure you two are.

[Anonymous]

I'm ok with it as long as he's not msging and planning to hang out with them

[Sha84]

that is human nature for men to appreciate all hot girls, don't bother me at all

[scooogy]

No. I can find a girl beautiful, but not dateable.

[cupidkisses]

it is ok

[GayHowellMeme]

I’m fine.