Everyone makes fun of my boyfriend's appearance?

[Anonymous]

I recently started dating this guy and he's not normally the type of guy that I go for. In the past, all of my ex's were hot. And this guy...isn't. He's a bit shorter than I am, he has a few extra weight, but he's so nice. He has a great personality and we get along great. He makes me laugh, he cares, he's great. But like the title says all of my friends and even my mom calls him ugly and weird behind his back. And I don't care what they think because I think he's great. But at the same time, it really bothers me that they continue to talk about him like this. What should I do?

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lol I just reread what I wrote and noticed I used the word great too many times

[marianamari]

Well i have same problem. My boyfriend is Asian, and i m white... and he isn't normaly kind of guy i d date (he isn't very handsome) but he is very kind. whenever he comes over everybody makes fun of him... and me becouse i am with him. And that is also really pissing me off. So i understand u completly. Bad part is.. the more you listen, the more you start to think that they r right. that can pressure you in to braking up with him. Never forget why you started dating him on first place, and dont let others speak badly about him. They can think it, but ask ur friends and family not to say it, coz u dont wanna listen about it. If they care about you, they won't be saying it anymore... and about other people you shouldent give a damn what they say. Friends and family r the only ones that matter.

[nermalinda]

That sucks, I know how you feel. The important thing is that you like him. You friends and family aren't dating him, so they should keep their mouth shut.

Ignore their dumb comments, maybe let them know that it hurts you when they say things like that because when they insult him, it's like they're insulting you. That might help.

But if that doesn't work, you might have to tell them off and say "shut up, it's none of your business, you're not dating him so stay out of it."

[behemoth_the_cat]

I know how family is, the more you tell them to back off, the more they will make fun of you usually.

So here is what can help: brag about your man, kiss and hug him in public all the time, make everyone see how incredibly proud of him you are and how happy he makes you and how he is the best man in the world! Never EVER allow doubt or shame to cross your face, and never feel apologetic to anyone. Once they see how happy you are, they will all shut up and be jealous.

[Anonymous]

That really sucks. He sounds like a really nice guy, but everybody criticizes his appearance. I've been there and done that. I'm not much to look at myself. People made fun of me when I was dating my first girlfriend. She got so embarrassed about having everybody always make fun of me in front of her that she dumped me (At least I think that's why she dumped me. My sister had died a few weeks earlier and she may have been trying to give me space so I could deal with the grief.) Either way it really hurt and it took me a long time to get back on my feet and into the playing field again. Sadly, every girl I've asked out since then turned me down. Being judged only by your appearance sucks.

Anyways, since you really like him a lot, I'd defend him openly whenever someone makes fun of him.

[Gustx]

Wow that's really bad. They honestly need to shut up there not dating him, you are. Tell them to stop or else. Doesn't even seem like they are trying to get know the guy, just criticizing his looks.

[Anonymous]

I say you need to find some friends that are actually good people. Not only are they making fun of someone you should care for, but they are making fun of you for liking him...whether you realize it or not. You should also be standing up for the guy.

[MILLIONDOLLARSMILE]

Ouch. Tell them to leave him alone, stop criticizing. Say I like him either way, so why do you care or something.

[djhohrath]

tell them to screw themselves he makes you happy and that should be enough to impress your friends and family

[FernandoS]

ignore