Why does my friends with benefits talk down on me?

[Anonymous]

Why why does my friends with benefits always say that I don't do anything with my life? Is it because I allowed myself to be the sex over object? Is it because I pick my phone everyone he calls? Even though I know what I want to do be in life and I'm doing it now, it hurts my feelings when he says this.

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+1 y

I've learned from my mistake and I'm going to block him and move on
I'm going to focus on myself and my goals. Thanks for your answers guys!

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+1 y

I'm always nice to him also. I just ignore his little comments, but I'm ready to prove him wrong.

[BigGuy8]

Maybe he wants more than just sex and the rest of your life embarrasses him. I have no idea. But I can tell you it has nothing to do with you picking up your phone. So for you to find out, tell him you can't keep sleeping with him if he's going to talk to you like that. If he cares about you, he'll try to keep you in his life.

[Shane_B]

If he talks down to you, he has no respect and is only using you for your body.

Don't be his friend with benefits anymore.

But it's your life, you live it how you want to.

[Asker]

I know what you mean. I blocked his number.

[beebella]

He's a jerk who thinks he's entitled to an opinion about your life.

[azzntittiz]

It's not you it's him, and yes block him and move on.

[Asker]

Thank you! You're right. There should be no reason for him to randomly bring me down, I never do that to him.

[Santarietis]

Just break up with him and find someone normal.

Let someone else worship you and not talk behind your back.

[Asker]

Does it sound like hey may also be abusive?

[Santarietis]

Look for good guys and not assholes. Maybe you could take someone's virginity in a library or just have some fun with others, but don't get attached to new partners.

My advice is to cut the ties with the abusive person first 😄

[Browneye57]

Cuz he has ZERO respect for you. Quit doing this. Or charge for it.
Hell, even whores get more respect than sluts do in western culture.

[Asker]

I am changing.

[Browneye57]

On update...
Excellent. Go be AWESOME.
And never forget, YOU ARE THE PRIZE!

[Asker]

Does it also mean he may be abusive?

[Browneye57]

the friends with benefits thing is a fail. No guy will respect a girl that drops-trow for no commitment. And you get basically nothing out of it but the sex.
I would encourage you to stop doing this - we call it 'riding the cock-carousel', find a nice boy, and develop an actual relationship. Let the sex come when the relationship develops. You'll get a LOT more out of it, more satisfaction, and the sex is ten times better too.

And don't wait too long - the older you get the harder it is to find a compatible mate. By 30 you have to compete with the young and supple 20yo's, and by 40 you're hitting the wall. At that point all the good guys are snatched up and married, and you're left with the nerds, rejects, and divorcees with kids in tow.

[tommygun87]

Because he doesn't value you in a way he should try being a little indifferent towards him and play hard-to-get see if he shows you more respect

[yourdarksecretx]

Maybe u act to desperate

[Asker]

I'm just trying to figure out how though.

[CoffeeWC]

Maybe it's part of a fetish

[440SuperCharged]

Good decision.

[playinthebox]

Cause he just wants the benefits

[DaGaadna]

Control freak