k so my friends with benefits and I act like a couple. We go to each others houses, watch movies, meet each others families (well I only met his family 5x, he hasn't met mine's yet) he comes to see me and spend time with me on his break from work. We have quickie sex but then the rest of the night, we're up talking and cuddling. He gets sorta jealous if he sees me texting a guy friend, saying oh you texting a hot guy, I see how it is. When he's texting or talking to some girl, I get jealous too. I don't want anyone taking him away since I'm kind of possessive, and I really enjoy the sex but I don't think I want a relationship yet. Neither does he. But it's confusing when he says he doesn't want to have sex all the time, he just wants to talk, hang out, and cuddle and kiss me. I love having sex with him though so every minute I get, I would screw him. But I feel like I'm sort of in some kind of relationship because we talk almost everyday. I miss him when I don't see him once a week and when I do, I always give him a big hug and a kiss. Or he'll sneak some kisses when we're alone and says sorry about that he just couldn't help it. We hold hands and do a lot of lovey dovey stuff where I feel as though maybe this could turn into a relationship, but I know it won't. But why does he do these things if all he wants is an fwb?
oh yeah and when I ask him about the girls, he'll say their alright or so-so but not hot like me.
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Sounds to me like you are already in a relationship... scary hey ...10
He may be telling you he wants you as a FWB as this is what you want to hear. From your description of your relationship it certainly sounds like you are already in a 'real' relationship. Stop messing with each other, be honest and go one way or another - end it, admit it is a proper relationship or literally just turn it into sex only.
Sounds to me as you are scared of rejection or waiting for someone better to come along, messing around with someones feelings is not acceptable behaviour.21
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If you already act like a couple and like it, you should just date. Being in a relationship is just a label, the way you are acting and feeling towards each other is much deeper than just FWB, you seem to really care about each other deeply. Let it play out and if you find yourself falling for him, you might want to consider making it a commitment, if you're already getting jealous of each other talking to the opposite sex, you might as well make it official and become exclusive in my opinion, it sounds like you're ready to me.
but he says he's not because he just got out of a 5 year relationship like 4 months ago. I broke up with my ex around the same time and we just kind of consoled each other and things hit off. He's not ready yet. I might but I'd have to wait for him.
Then wait for him until it feels right, but it seems like you guys have a good thing going! Keep it that way, and best of luck!